tell us what you found despicable

>>85267032
what were those despicable things?

>>85267032
So what things are good and what are bad to you?

>>85267048
>>85267054
Liking NTR. I cant be friends with someone who likes that crap. Its insulting.

I hold it in the same place of contempt if I were to meet someone who was anti-piracy. Fuck those people, I dont want to have anything to do with them.

>>85267076
How did that even come up as a topic? By "anime and stuff" were you guys really talking about goon preferences?
On some level then that is on you. If I want to be friends with someone, that's the last thing I want to know. Unless that is the reason I want to be friends with them

>>85267032
someone told me there no use in morning someone who only existed in our head

XDXDXDXDxd

>>85267076
this REALLY doesn't seem like the kinda thing to be discussing with your bud

>>85267076
You really asked them about their pornographic preferences? That's pretty weird.

>>85267104
>>85267152
>>85267159
>How did that even come up as a topic? By "anime and stuff" were you guys really talking about goon preferences?
Not really, the conversation was starting to stagnate and I dont recall what I asked, but he said something along the lines of "some stuff he preferes to keep hidden", and I started saying stuff like:

>"well, I dont think it could be that bad, you could like (list of things I consider abhorrent)"

And he said he fitted one of those many things.
I wonder why he decided to keep hanging out. I think I ve sometimes mentioned some things I ve considered repulsive and being extremely clear how I would rather die than to be friends with scum like them.

>>85267191
You would rather die than being friends to someone who faps to cuck porn? I think the problem is you bro. I get that being off putting to you, especially him bringing it up at all, but you sound like a weird idiot.

>>85267191
I would understand not wanting to be friends with someone who admits they're like a rapist or something, but this NTR thing seems a bit of a weird issue to cut contact over.

>>85267213
>but you sound like a weird idiot
Didnt say otherwise. I know its stupid and I m the problem, but thats how I feel. What are you gonna do. I guess I just posted in case anyone ever felt like they couldnt be friends with someone who likes stuff they find repulsive.

In retrospective, I only listed and asked to fish out any undesirable traits. Guess I tend to do that.

>>85267244
Its not the only thing I would stop being friends with someone for. I once stopped being friends with someone who defended the UK's mass surveillance laws and its online censorship laws. I cant be friends with some Modern Gestapo loving faggot.

The general point is that I will stop being friends with someone if they touch something I hold sacred. If I feel they are tainting it, I just dont want them near it. Fuck them.

>>85267252
you will need to accept faults in others if you want to have good relationships. humans are weird and you're bound to find abhorrent opinions and tastes if you dig for them (i know you didn't in this case)

>>85267063
I m no moral compass, thats for sure, but I have beliefs some would call "values". Generally I just thing is bad to do harm to others for sick pleasure or sadism. The only way I would sanction harm in any way, shape or form is if its for vendetta, in order to become even with the person you are harming.
>>85267332
I know I ll never have good relationships because of stuff like this. I just "go out into the wild" from time to time, befriend someone and eventually cut contact with them for something in particular I didnt like and couldnt accept. Its a cycle that happens from time to time when someone captures my attention.

I just accept it, thats who I m. Like I said, I only made this thread in hopes to see if anyone ever felt like this before. :/

>>85267300
okay but were you going to date them? that is really the only context where sexual preferences would be an important topic. otherwise it's really none of your business, just like your dirty laundry is none of theirs either.

I was on your side initially but after reading the thread and the more you type I can't help but think you must be an insufferable faggot. You sound really far up your own ass. How can anyone talk about "values" and things being "sacred" when you're on fucking 4chan, especially /r9k/ which is degen central. Have some self-awareness.

>>85267252
I don't like NTR and wouldn't want to be friends with someone whose entire personality is "NTR Man." But if that's something he keeps hidden and personal, I don't care. Because I don't know or want to know. Depending on the level of friendship of course.
I'm guessing he took that line of conversation to mean you were open to talking about goon stuff. When you were actually fishing for undesirable traits.
>>85267300
>defended the UK's mass surveillance laws
This is on the other hand is absolutely something to stop being friends with. That's an actual societal problem with far reaching repercussions , not what gets someone's rocks off

>>85267373
it's good to have values and stick to them, just saying it'll make life hard if you hold people to purist standards. most people are sheep and never thought that deeply about their beliefs. they might have them via groupthink and would change them if exposed to good arguments

>>85267391
>okay but were you going to date them?
>that is really the only context where sexual preferences would be an important topic.
You wouldnt get it. All I can say is that I hold things that are sacred (characters, series, ideas, materials, etc) and I dont want to taint them with the likes of some people.

>>85267422
you just sound like an extremely abrasive autist who doesn't like being outside of his bubble.

>>85267408
>This is on the other hand is absolutely something to stop being friends with. That's an actual societal problem with far reaching repercussions , not what gets someone's rocks off
To me its more of a:
>"this person sanctions fantasies of doing harm to people they supposedly love for the sake of their own personal sick pleasure, what a horrible human being, I hope he fucking dies"

>I'm guessing he took that line of conversation to mean you were open to talking about goon stuff. When you were actually fishing for undesirable traits.
I m always fishing for information.
>>85267429
Thats one way to put it.

>>85267411
I appreciate the concern. Its fine, I ve always been like this. I dont really dwell on lost comrades. Its more of a disappointment feeling if anything, when you think you were with like minded individuals but that wasnt the case.

>>85267405
>when you're on fucking 4chan, especially /r9k/ which is degen central. Have some self-awareness.
Would make sense if I met him through this board, which wasnt the case.
I dont really visit 4chan anymore and stick to obscure boards. If I do its only to check out /a/, /g/ and /r9k/ I only use it to shoot some thoughts that have been bugging me lately.

>>85267460
You don't really seem like you'd make a good friend because you're not actually trying to be genuine friends with people. You're not accepting that people will have opinions and values differing from your own. Friendship requires accepting that the other is an OTHER, and is not going to fit your build a bear mould. You're ready to cut someone off the moment they step out of your box, which makes you closer to a traitor-in-waiting than ever a comrade.
I would not like to have a 'friend' like you, Mr. Snake.

>>85267460
fwiw, i would also cut contact with statist retards supporting their own surveillance. you seem like an alright lad

>>85267508
>fwiw, i would also cut contact with statist retards supporting their own surveillance. you seem like an alright lad
Thanks for the kind words anon. I fucking despise statist boot licking faggots. Cunts like them will be our downfall. I appreciate having you in my thread

>>85267440
lol I don't disagree with your take on NTR. I guess I have a more hands off approach, if it isn't coloring their daily lives and interactions with me, I don't want to know. But I would be disappointed if I found out. Or like if a friend was a cuck irl, I would distance myself a little.
>I'm always fishing for information
That is fine, but it goes back to you accepting some responsibility in this. If you overturn some rocks, you are bound to find some bugs. His problem was oversharing

>>85267507
>You're ready to cut someone off the moment they step out of your box, which makes you closer to a traitor-in-waiting
Traitor? Why? I m not doing anyone any harm at all. I just leave without saying a word. Betrayal would be inflicting harm upon them, which I m not doing. I let them live the way they choose to, but I dont want anything to do with despicable cunts like them.
>I would not like to have a 'friend' like you, Mr. Snake.
Its fine. You reminding me of 2 songs from the same album by mentioning Snake (Sidewinder) and Betrayal.

>>85267536
>But I would be disappointed if I found out. Or like if a friend was a cuck irl, I would distance myself a little.
Its all about the disappointment in knowing they would sanction something so fucking disgusting.
>That is fine, but it goes back to you accepting some responsibility in this. If you overturn some rocks, you are bound to find some bugs. His problem was oversharing
I always take responsibility on my actions. I constantly do this when I m getting to know someone, because I know I ll find something I hate. I want to find that something sooner than later, since I dont want to then regret sharing things I hold sacred with this person.
Its no one elses fault than my own, I get that. I dont mind it, its how I operate after all.

>>85267213
Nah I'm with OP. Cucks deserve the rope. All parties involved in it.

>>85267548
>Traitor? Why? I m not doing anyone any harm at all. I just leave without saying a word.
This is how I know you place zero value in actual friendship. You don't view leaving or cutting contact with someone as potentially damaging to the person, because you don't really care about the other. Friendship to you is all about you only.
Funny for someone who talks a lot about values and sacredness you don't place any of that in the bond of friendship, and instead being friends with someone is something you treat like a whim, ready to be picked up and put down at your convenience and discretion, uncaring for how the other feels.

>>85267594
I appreciate your thoughts.

>>85267626
>This is how I know you place zero value in actual friendship. You don't view leaving or cutting contact with someone as potentially damaging to the person, because you don't really care about the other.
I dont care for people who sanction harm to others as a form of entertainment or pleasure.
>Funny for someone who talks a lot about values and sacredness
I m glad you are touching that topic, since this is something most never understand about me. Like a said in this post (>>85267373), I m no moral compass. I use the word "values" because thats what some people would call what I believe in. I m not a moral compass, nor do I base my beliefs in a specific ideology. I only defend what I feel is right and whats wrong. I have that: beliefs. Nothing else. Those are my values and there are things that are sacred to me.
>you don't place any of that in the bond of friendship, and instead being friends with someone is something you treat like a whim, ready to be picked up and put down at your convenience and discretion, uncaring for how the other feels.
This is something I ve always wondered about me. I don't know if I'm capable of caring for my fellow men. I know I m capable of emotion, since I hold immense appreciation and care for the things I hold sacred. I love them to death. I m not an empty rock as much as I would like to be.

But when it comes to people I either love them or hate them. No point in between. Or maybe there is a point in between, but there I would place people I m not truthful to and I only have them around to accomplish tasks in common (call them coworkers, acquaintances, etc).

The question is: do I truly care about people? Have I ever been capable of love? I guess maybe for my parents. Someone else besides my family? I dont think I ever been capable of that.

whoami
(funny reference)

>>85267568
nor should you mind. And I get what you are saying about the disappointment. I actually understand a lot of what you are saying about getting to know people. But I take a different approach, I keep people at arms length, don't let them get close so I don't have to get close. Relationships very loose and casual, more of glorified acquaintances. I can count on one hand actual friends I've had.
>I know I ll find something I hate.
A self fulfilling prophecy. Not saying you should compromise on your values, but if you do desire friendships, maybe loosen up a bit on that? IDK, probably not the best to give advice lol (see above)

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>>85267076
Thats the stupidest fucking reason to drop a friend. Whats wrong with liking to be theoretically cucked? You're not the one dating or cucking them. At most they are a weird faggot with shit taste

>>85267772
>But I take a different approach, I keep people at arms length, don't let them get close so I don't have to get close
I do that with people I "need" to accomplish goals in common, so I get it.
>glorified acquaintances
I like this expression.
>I can count on one hand actual friends I've had.
I dont have any friends. I remember having one friend with whom I shared so many beliefs and hobbies in common. We would also fight all the time, until one day one fight ended up with us blocking each other and that was that. We were like 13 and it was when we were 17 when we stopped talking to each other. He was unique and unlike any other person I ever met. We played together, hanged out together, fighted together, and had each others backs for most stuff. We were so alike that I understand why we eventually ended up falling apart.

Ever since I ve never had friends. Only glorified acquaintances like you mentioned.
>but if you do desire friendships, maybe loosen up a bit on that? IDK, probably not the best to give advice lol (see above)
Daijobu anon. I m just incapable of friendships. To my is just cyclical. Someone captivates me, I want to hang out with them and get to know them, eventually I find something repulsive, and then I stop being friends.
>>85267776
Already explained it to someone else in this thread.

>>85267076
Agreed, That shit is disgusting.

>>85267867
Thank you tripfag anon.

>>85267806
>I like this expression
lol by all means use it more.
> I m just incapable of friendships
sometimes I feel this way too. Or even love. But I'm attempting to put forth an effort, even if it is a fake-it-til-you-make-it effort. Maybe I cant, maybe I can. But I'm trying. And it seems you are too, in your own way

>>85267076
>anti piracy
It's an issue of being unrealistic because its nearly impossible to enforce against. Morally, someone who is anti piracy is more sound than somebody who explicitly endorses it. Same with minor theft in stores. It also depends on what you're stealing from. It's in a similar category to jaywalking where it's petty to argue over it, but it's situationally bad.

>>85268025
>sometimes I feel this way too. Or even love. But I'm attempting to put forth an effort, even if it is a fake-it-til-you-make-it effort. Maybe I cant, maybe I can. But I'm trying. And it seems you are too, in your own way
Trying? They are just sudden whims to see if I can find that one like minded individual I look for. Sometimes my brain reacts to my environment. Cant help it.

I wish you luck in your current and future attempts though. I enjoyed reading your thoughts and from those anons who agreed or felt similar to what I stated throughout this thread.
>>85268074
I just mentioned it as one of those things I wouldnt be friends with someone if I knew they hold those beliefs. Just like those old uncles/family members who wont allow certain discussions or expressions against religion, politics, etc during dinner time, because its something they hold sacred.