friends with benefits has to be the most retarded shit ever, either you are sexually exclusive with someone /(so dating) ir you're competing for sexual attention with someone else. How coukd anyone want such a thing? I know you people probably don't have experience with such things but i guarantee if your hot female friend wanting to be fwbs you would jump at it
You see how many people here at so insecure at the act of having sex?It's for that reason. You know for whatever reason there is not a relationship there so you decide to take it easy, learn, have fun, maybe discover if beyond the sex things can actually go somewhere, because after all sex is an extremely unimportant part of a relationship
>>85418745FWB is for when you both essentially like each other and enjoy fucking but the actual long term relationship factor is not going to work out for a number of reasons (like if she is looking for marriage and you are not, or you want kids and she does not, etc). Doesn't mean you can't hang out for the weekend and fuck every 1 to 4 weeks though. Helps with making good decisions with the actual dating too because you don't just have horny brains and start fucking people you shouldn't just to get a nut in. Despite what you might think, dating apps are not some kind of paradise for women either, believe it or not they do not actually love the cock carousel and get sick of getting led on, ghosted, etc. So having somebody you basically like on deck to chill with and fuck without the pressure of a serious, exclusive relationship is good.
>>85418772well what confuses me is being non exclusive because that means you're fucking other oeople which is just weird and gross. Why isn't one enough? Just say that you have a girlfriend and be exclusive with her
>>85418745People who want something like this are the most desperate for sex. I once saw a video talking about this topic, and it stated that most relationships like this can end for the following reasons:1. Feelings develop for the other person, but the other person doesn't want anything serious with you.2. The other person falls in love with someone else and wants to stop having sex with you.Friends with benefits only work in relationships that aren't very close. For example, I have a friend who I don't really consider a friend, and I fantasize about sleeping with her whenever I want.
>>85418779Huh? Why would I want to be strictly stuck with fucking one girl only? Why would I want to have a "girlfriend" where the relationship isn't going anywhere because we're never moving in together or having kids or anything? And since that's not on the table - why would I just jerk off at my computer instead of fucking this girl who likes me until I find one to get serious with? Why would I take the other no-gf, no-fwb option of wasting my life on the hellscape of tinder swiping every day looking for new hookups?
>>85418792I do agree with this though, it is essentially a temporary arrangement. Can be recurring though. FWB it for a while, one of you meets somebody else and cuts it off, reconnect a few years later when you're single again if it works out that way.
>>85418799i just mean that if you're fucking one girl then that's basically what a girlfriend is. So just call her that
>>85418745You're overthinking it.Hey, wanna smash, sure. No expectations other than keep yourself clean and don't be clingy.
>>85418810What's your definition of a girlfriend? A girlfriend isn't simply someone to have sex with; she's someone you can be with and who will be there for you emotionally. Of course, sex is a key part, but let's not say that a girlfriend is simply someone you have sex with.
>>85418810I'm mostly just fucking the one girl, but I'm not turning another one down if I happen to hit it off with somebody, or if I get bored and put some app swipes in. Meanwhile if we are "together" such things are ohhh so horrible Cheating and I'm the scum of the earth for doing this and if she finds out she has more trauma than a war veteran. Best keep it low-key.
>>85418819well a friend is also someone who can be there for you emotionally so if a woman is there for you emotionally and you are sexually exclusive with each other then thats just a girlfriend
>>85418839idk if it's autism or baiting but you're consistently ignoring the "long term trajectory" side of the equation and applying sexual exclusivity which fwb explicitly does not imply
>>85418845people date and break up all the time, girlfriend doesn't imply long term at all
>>85418745I have no interest in a relationship, but if a hoe i know offers me a blowie just for the hell of it, im not saying no.
>>85418761>because after all sex is an extremely unimportant part of a relationshipIf you're not having sex you're just friends. It literally defines a relationship.
>>85418866Fair point. I guess the distinction in this case is that there is essentially long term intent, but no relationship escalation. You can be "fwb" with somebody for a long time, not sexually exclusive, and with no intention of getting married or anything. Usually if people are together and then break up, they have hope that it's going to last, and then it doesn't. With FWB you have accepted there's no hope for an actual relationship, but there is mutual attraction enough to fuck sometimes and you get along pretty good. I don't know how else to explain it to you, I'm starting to feel like I'm trying to describe the difference between red and green to a colorblind guy.
>>85418886I understood correctly. Basically, a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship means they both see themselves together in the future. Friends with benefits means just sex; they don't see themselves together in the future.
>>85418745>why would people just want to fuck without any commitment to an actual relationship and emotional attachment gee I wonder why. our housing market is great, cheapest prices ever for a new home. job market is great, you can just walk in anywhere, shake an eye and look them straight in the hand, and you'll get a 100k+ job with benefits within a day. and food is the cheapest its ever been too, you just have to work 2 hours and you've earned enough to buy groceries for a month. oh wait, it's the total opposite of all that. but still, how dare people engage in casual protected sex when they should be marrying and having kids, we're in the middle of a population crisis on the verge of collapse and the death of millions of aged people without a working class to support it!
>>85419001what im saying is just have protected sex with one woman and call her your gf
