I actually do well with women but the more enthusiasm I show even if it is after we have already hooked up the less I seem to be liked. Am I supposed to just be an emotionally absent asshole?! I am honestly getting pretty frustrated. I am not just my dick and abs. I want an emotional connection and it feels like I am being punished for that. Shit sucks
I'm not femanon, but as a conventionally ugly (bald, acne scars) but tall anon I've had a fair few romantic relationships and sex. I've experienced the same thing and it's really hurtful. I'm expected to posture this stoic attitude, or be mean, or espouse a proclivity for violence. If I'm too soft without some sort of balance with what I just listed, you can see on her face the attraction dropping. I want to be soft and reserved and doting and loving, but those wretched creatures are attracted to power and meanness. It makes me hate them, which in turn feeds their attraction. It's a vicious cycle. It feels like love isn't for men unfortunately.
>>85714518I do not hate women. I love them. I just wish they would love the kind and emotional me and not just the fuckboy me. Both are me but I wanna be loved as a whole person :/
That's why you have to choke them, make the suck your dirty dick and swallow without even bothering to give them pleasure, or stick it in the ass. It cancels out some of the kindness in their mind and they don't lose interest as fast. It kind of sucks not being able to enjoy sex like, you want but it's either that or go back to your hand and being alone. Abusive sex is way easier to fake than being antisocial
i haven't ever been with anybody so it's not like i know how it feels to be in that moment, but i don't think i would probably ever be comfortable enough with someone stoic and mean to even try that. i do think a lot of the time girls kind of chase emotional stimulation kind of like how gooners chase arousal, so i can get why a jerk or someone dramatic or unstable would be very exciting and seem more appealing than someone boring, but being cruel and gross and uncaring is poison and it will ruin things eventually. you can be exciting without being a jerk.the only thing i can say is like, maybe its a good idea to try to plan exciting stuff for the future and keep her anticipating that, like a cliffhanger on TV. like "if you liked that just wait for the next time, no i wont tell you what i have planned" and then she has some emotional tension to sit in, instead of it being over and you're just content and now nothing is up in the air. idk, its kinda like DND? i know that sounds like a lot of work and i'm not really even saying it's fair to expect that, but it's like, idk, that's the insight i have on my gender, so thats the best i can do. i think we do want that kind of excitement but an asshole is just the cheap and easy way of getting it.
Bump, I'd really like to hear a femanon's take on this. I find it really telling that there hasn't been any yet despite the vast numbers of femanon threads up.
>>85714369DO NOT be overly kind and empathetic to your gf, it took me 4 years to break with my foid and the relationship started tanking soon after that. She ended up cheating on me.
>>85714369>>85714518They don't actually like it when you're unemotional. I'm autistic and completely flat/cold/detached. My ex would constantly bitch about how I "never show emotion". What they want is for you to be able to dispense the exact type and intensity of emotion at the exact time they want, meaning prince charming at one point, murder hobo at another, stoic rock sometimes, etc.
I don't understand these faggots jfl, you want to act like a homosexual with the girl and expect her to still be attracted to you? What exactly do you guys want to do around her? Paint your nails and wear a dress? Serious question
>>85715208How do I get a girl who's a boringstacy instead of an excitementcel?
>>85716771You sound like the type of faggot that beats a woman, see how long that attitude lasts you. Inevitably you'll slip, need comfort and the facade you've been fronting will fall if even for a second. The type of women it attracts will ditch you far faster than you realise and the persona you've built up will come crashing down irreparably. Seen it a thousand times. Shit, you might even kill yourself.
