Damn just like that, I didn't even get to say goodbye am such a joke I must be the most gullible man in the universe. I wonder what I did wrong
Sounds like you moved too fast and enmeshed them. Classic co-dependent toxic trauma-bond.
>>85720864she asked you to do nothing and you are posting about it here? why? i hate men
>>85720864post indicative of a room temperature IQ
>>85720872It wasn't me>>85720896It's nothing, the account is deleted
>>85720972You still participated. Your job is to keep healthy and calm boundaries for the both of you, otherwise the bpd girl will burn herself out and this happens
>>85720864Well? Post the pics.
>>85720902I know I am a joke, just wishful thinking that someone actually cared
>>85720864drop her nudes you fucking faggot fuck wrong wit u nigga
>>85721066How many times did you smoke pot and jack off thinking about her, Opie?
>>85721131Fembots do that all the time, they treat this place as their personal diary.
>>85721131Well I just got hit by a truck and I don't have a single person in the world to talk to.
Please what did I do
lol you believed all that ?
>>85721330Just a few days ago I meant the world supposedly, I don't know what I did
>>85721365Haha I'm glad you are suffering. Good morons like you deserve to be burned by the bpdemons. You will never learn to stay away from them.
>>85720864A tale as old as time LOLYou didn't do anything wrong, she just changed her mind. nothing you coulda done>>85721365You meant the world a few days ago and then her brain switched and now you aren't the world, I guess some people just aren't very consistent mentally
>>85720864>>85721131this but i fear adding women on here because they do it as well. im too paranoid for that, and too selfish to share
>>85721472A screenshot of a burner account really scary
>>85721522She was on a burner account?
>>85721623No pfp and a weird name, obv burner acc. How old was it
>>85721623She was on what I assumed was her main then she broke up with me a week or two ago, came back and said she deleted the first one, said now it was just us together on this account. Later I said wait aren't her friends on discord and asked if she had another and said yes. idk how much stuff was fake, yes I'm the ultimate rube.
>>85721720Brother is this your first bpd relationship? You did everything wrong you can do, read up and research (you can use llms) about bpd, co-dependency and trauma-bonds
>>85721720>She was on what I assumed was her main then she broke up with me a week or two ago, came back and said she deleted the first oneThis means she's riding the dick carousel. Hopefully you got to bust your nut and move on. If not idk why you're even posting about her.
>>85721738What was I supposed to do? 2 days ago she was asking saying she would cancel on her friend if I wanted and I said no she should have friends.
>>85721720>this account is just me and you! Means nothing if she has another account. Like, wtf.Still. My condolences OP. You maybe didn't do anything wrong, maybe did, but you got too attached either way. Don't get attached to online people, and don't get attached to women until you marry them (and even then don't get too close)
>>85721768LOL, sounds like exactly the same damn thing someone said to me. I responded as you did as well. Fast forward sometime, and she breaks up with me and confesses to the friend (she assured me it was just to be rejected so she can move past it). For her/his part, he did reject it/her, but what the fuck. Of course that hurt hearing it.
>>85721768These kind of relationships with girls like that work if the guy is steady as a rock. Your insecurity and anxiety ruined it. These girls are fundamentally unstable. The one thing about her friend doesnt change anything, but it does show me the kind of push-pull you two had.
>>85721806That sucks especially since she said she liked when I sounded jealous and wanted me to be clingy and controlling
>>85720896spbpIf men wonder why women don't chat with them they can find good evindence here, men are shit and just can't be trusted, no matter how much you want to
This >>85721806 anon is kind of full of shit. It virtually never works. If the guy is rock solid, it might last longer, and may lead to marriage or children. Those events will inevitably trigger the same bullshit behavior for her, especially children. This is typically when divorce comes around because she treats her children like shit or even gets jealous of her husband loving his kids.>>85721906She sounds like a nice lady.
>>85721951Sorry to burst your bubble, being calm with boundaries and steadiness is the only thing keeping the relationship together. Otherwise, these two would still be together, too.
>>85721906Of course she said that, because you two had a trauma bond
>>85722094>being calm with boundaries and steadinessMaybe we're imagining two different types of women, but the type of woman I'm thinking of struggles with these things immensely. Even with constant therapy, significant life events (death in the family, children, marriage, financial struggles, traveling for work) often trigger the same behavior because she's emotionally unstable. If you're the type of guy that can be her trauma dumpster and deal with infidelity and adult temper tantrums, then of course she will always come back. It's called codependency.
>>85722153>struggles with these things>she's emotionally unstableExactly. That's the crux of it. That's why you need to be the counterweight, independent, calm, stable, have your own life, your own boundaries, and are not dependent on her state and her tantrums. This doesn't make you her trauma dumpster, this makes you the only person in the world where she feels okay. If you just want to play the push-pull you're in a co-dependent trauma-loop, what I'm describing is offering her a hand towards a real relationship.
>>85722335I'm sorry, but you sound young and inexperienced. I've dealt with this type of woman before. I've seen the love bombing, boundary pushing with inappropriate behavior, and manipulation through sex and infidelity. I fell for it once when I was young. After my eyes opened it's just bizarre to see unfold.What you're describing is in fact codependency. Unfortunately, life is hard and things don't always go your way. Mature adults don't have to be coddled into a relationship. They act like adults and resolve conflict like adults.
>>85722405Wow, you seem very ..confused? Strawmanning? Are you ragebaiting lmao. I'm basing all my words on actual, lived experience.I defined my position as boundaries, independence, my own life, not dependent on her state. By every definition in the world, codependency is the complete opposite. You're calling my framework codependency while describing the exact traits that exclude it. You're arguing with a version of my own claim I already rejected.Boundaries, independence, not being dependent on her state, that is the literal, clinical definition of the opposite of codependency, and I'll leave it there.
>>85722437I don't know if you're talking about women in general, or a woman who has BPD or attachment issues.What I think you're saying is you've basically become her caretaker. You've provided a secure, safe, and stable environment for her because she cannot handle anything else. That is the foundation of an unstable relationship.
>>85722455Okay, I'm starting to understand what you're trying to say. Yes, if you stay despite knowing it's asymmetrical and shes unwilling or unable to meet you there, you are a caretaker. My point is that you remain independent overall, and offer her a hand. This is what protects you. If she wants to try, she can take it, but that way you're immune to the push-pull. If you keep staying and offering forever despite her being unable or unwilling to take your hand, then yes, you just become a caretaker.But that is unimportant in OPs case. He went into the push-pull from the start and the toxic trauma-bond was locked in. If he had gone the boundaried route, he could've seen if something real was there to develop, and if not, he could've exited clean.
>>85722511I don't believe you've been with a woman with these types of issues, like the ones I'm describing. OP's situation is probably just some online Discord BS. That or you're completely oblivious.
>>85722549Fair enough. I'll take your word for it.
it happens bro. Some women will just flake
>>85720896>>85721928Look OP, you're already getting hate. Might as well post the pics
>practice gf lives at an aunt since a year ago>said aunt and maybe her daughter too start disliking me>saturday>gf whispers on voice messages they don't want her talking to me>an hour goes by>suddenly blockedI know that feel.Can't reach through messenger. If I go there in person, they won't let me in again and maybe call the cops. I might be able to call her on the phone, but still didn't (they'll catch us) and neither did my gf (ex?) try calling me.
This is why I wasn't in a big hurry to get my passport, egirl (short for ethereal girl)
>>85720896>noooo don't show that i'm whoring out to a dozen men
It was nice to love for a little while
Why did you give me a song when you knew you were leaving though
>>85724550extra pain/humiliation
>>85720864it's safe to say you are a pathetic retard
I was going to introduce her to my mom, can you believe that shit
>>85724770Can you call me that as well? Mine has been ghosting me recently also so I need some encouragement. She actually hasnt responded to me for the whole day
>>85720864What platform is that? originally
>>85725445It's discord. Basically ghost central. >>85720864It's okay OP I'm well on my way to fucking something up and will be right with ya!
>>85720864At least you *got* a goodbye. That's better than most of them.
>>85725417The person I like only signs on every 4-7 days. He flirts with me heavily and is very sweet, then vanishes. It's really stressing me out.
>>85721720I'm laughing so hard that you fell for this
