Fembots who want a relationship, where and how would you like to be approached? If you've had a boyfriend before, where and how did he ask you out? Please be specific.
>>85833148I wouldn't mind being approached anywhere, as long as you're being sincere. But I'm also desperate for a relationship.
>>85833169How can a girl be desperate in the modern world
>>85833148i feel sorry for moids because i honestly cant think of a way or place id want to be approached myself, nvm having to think of how ur going to approach.
I don't prefer to be approached. I like to make the first move,busually online, and I'd want him to reciprocate
>>85833148not a fembot. i've had 1 boyfriend, first everything (well not first everything bc he was kind of a beta and there are lots of sexual things i've still never tried and maybe never will bc so far being alone is fine for me). he approached me at the start of university, sat down next to me and just started yapping to me about books then vidya and we realized we share the same taste in almost everything.we went the friends -> relationship route, no "dating phase". but after the relationship ended i reflected on it and realized i prefer when one is direct, no pretending to be friends or playing some kind of long game. asking out soon and having a proper dating phase and only then thinking about a relationship is better. i also think i wouldn't go on a date with someone unless i am serious about it. so it's not like i would start going on dates just for the fun of it while having no intentions of it developing into a relationship.
>>85833186bad foid>>85833187good foid
>>85833203we said the same thing. i cant think of a place i want to be approached for the reason she said
>>85833202so you're a faggot? why do you think anyone cares about what you have to say?
>>85833213why would you think i'm a guy lol. go away fag.
>>85833213She meant "not a fembot" as in "not a female robot", just a femanon>>85833202Wish I had the confidence to walk up to a girl and start yapping
>>85833231yeah i don't think in a relationship you need to be the most confident person. but it does help most in the most crucial phase (when you approach someone you haven't talked to before). i wouldn't say that was cold approaching though, at the start of uni nobody knows each other and that's the point when people do go up to basically strangers for the first few weeks.
>>85833270I'm afraid to talk to girls IRL under any circumstance because I don't want them to think I'm just trying to fuck them
>>85833275it's fine, girls always think that on some level even if they aren't directly thinking about it when you talk to them. but they grow up with that knowledge and that knowledge becomes "routine", normal. there's a reason why most women prefer talking to men, there is more tension, it's interesting, and we know that dynamic happens mostly thanks to the guy wanting you.
>>85833299It's a combination of them thinking that plus me being ugly so I feel I'm kind of insulting them by talking to them
>>85833220>>85833231GTFOHBOTS ONLY FUCK OFFREEEEEEEEEEEE
>>85833148I don't go outside so maybe astral projection into my dreams
>>85833311i doubt that. and even if all women are aware of it, not all decide to believe it. for example i could never have male friends because i was always overly aware of that. so even if a guy acted like he wants to be friends i just wouldn't entertain it at all since i know it's just a smokescreen. but some women manage to make themselves think that isn't true, and they do believe it. that's why they can have male friends and not find the whole situation weird. so yeah not all women believe it.>>85833321no fug u
>>85833336>no fug uNo thank you because I prefer being friends first and there's already someone else I like. But thanks but no thanks.
>>85833336I have had female online friends because they were not physically attractive to me and also too mentally ill to date
>>85833433Not that I care, but describe "too mentally ill"
>>85833468Possibly schizophrenic, self-harming, one time a friend tried to leave home with a knife in case she found the internet stranger she was angry at
Bumping for further input
This thread is absolutely depressing.
>>85833668Makes me wonder how anyone finds a partner, especially after college
>>85833878tinder or social circle. but real women (not bots or serial daters using it for meals) get off tinder fast. my friend's dating timeline went something like this:>be with hs sweetheart>still with hs sweetheart 10 years later>he leaves her>she eventually tries tinder>has date with guy one, didn't hit off>started her current relationship with the 2nd ever guy she had a conversation with on tinderand so he got a late 20's body count 1 gf with luck, i guess based on her description he seems nice as well haven't met him though.it's all rng.
>>85834056Sometimes I think the 50/50 gender ratio concept is a psyop
>>85834206prolly because dating apps tend to be +80% male
as a moid i would prefer to have a short discord conversation with a foid where she tells me about herself and sends me a picture of her face and one depicting her figure, then given that i like the contents of the conversation and the two pics, i tell her to trust me and that i'm gonna take good care of her, and she takes me at my word and then just says yes to everything. I don't know why y'all have to make this so complicated, just say yes, and you'll have a loyal husband for the rest of your life.
>>85833148>where and how would you like to be approachedOnline would be the best because I get so withdrawn and quiet when I'm talking to someone in person. E-mail would be good, so I could think a long time about what to say, and how to respond.I'm not quite sure exactly what my problem is. I don't think I'm autistic, but I am extremely introverted, and talking with someone in person is exhausting to me -- and yet, I would really like to make a connection with someone. I think if I was using e-mail, I would be able to "work around" my introverted nature and actually write interesting, honest, informative stuff about myself that I could never say in person.When I'm talking in person, I have a filter that prevents me from saying much of anything. Maybe I'm just trying to protect myself from being hurt? Or maybe I'm convinced that I don't really have anything interesting to say, so I don't want to bore other people? I don't really know.I'm always second-guessing myself, and my mind is always racing to figure out what to do and what to say -- but in the end, it seems like I can't decide anything, so I just stay quiet. If I am in a group of 3 or more people, I'm always the person who doesn't say anything. But if I'm talking one-on-one, I can manage a little bit better to say things, but my filter still severely limits me, and I sometimes get into this kind of "paralyzed" mode where I don't even know what to think or say. It's best if people just ask me simple yes/no questions -- that usually works out well.And as far as romantic relationships go, I am scared of getting hurt, and I don't know what to do to prevent from getting hurt. So I'm "paralyzed" from that perspective, too. It hurts my brain to think about that -- my ideas just spin around, but I have no conclusions.I'm always continually aware of how pathetic I am. I used to be embarrassed to be this pathetic, but I'm so used to it now that I don't even think about it anymore.
>>85833878I found one on /r9k/. We've been together for a couple of years. But I still find this thread depressing, because reading and understand how most women behave and think is an eye opening experience. I hope the day where women are held accountable for their actions arrives soon.
>>85833173Fat, ugly, terminally online, shut-in. Take your pick.
>>85834834understanding? I messed up. Sorry.>>85834759My girlfriend is exactly like you. Sadly, and for the most part, good things are hidden behind a bunch of bad experiences. Finding a loving partner requires time and effort. Maybe you need to talk to people 1 on 1 first, so you can understand you're not as pathetic as you think. You probably have way more value than you think.
>>85834847We're at a point where none of those things can prevent you from finding a guy online
>>85834759Is this why femanons always end up ghosting me and/or giving one-word answers to everything
Eh, what's one more bump really
>>85834847>I'm desperate for a relationship but I refuse to lose weight.
>>85835270Fat girls all have boyfriends these days
>>85833187you have a good heart and wish this happened to me
>>85834759>E-mail would be good, so I could think a long time about what to say, and how to respond.Is this why the girls I talk to take literal days to respond to me? Because everyone tells me it's because they aren't interested at all.
>>85835274>why are you single?>because I'm fat>why don't you lose weight?>because being fat doesn't make you singleSo why are you actually single?
>>85835311It depends, are their replies long and thoughtful or just shit like "idk lol"
>>85835315I'm not her anon, I'm just a guy who can't even get a fat gf
>>85834890>Is this why femanons always end up ghosting meI don't know. All I know is that I would never ghost anyone, because I know how awful I would feel if someone ghosted me. If I was ever exploring the beginning of a relationship, I would be taking it extremely seriously, and ghosting is only something that people do when they're not serious.>and/or giving one-word answers to everythingIf I was communicating with someone in writing (like e-mail), I would absolutely not be giving one-word answers to anything. With writing, I can take the time to think, so I can write a lot, and I can dig down into myself and describe myself honestly. But when I'm talking in person, I don't have any time to think about what to say, and my filter kicks in, so I just end up not saying much.I was thinking a bit more about what is holding me back in exploring a relationship with anyone. I keep hearing stories about guys who say or do inappropriate things -- for example, they might try to rush me into sex, or send me dick pics or something. If that ever happened to me, I would be totally paralyzed, and it would be overwhelming for me, and I wouldn't know what to say or do. One reason I come here is to see what guys think and say so that I might be more prepared, but I really don't feel prepared at all because it's too intense for me, and it feels like it's all on a level that's so much "higher" than the level I'm on. I don't think I was made for this world.I wish that there was some place I could go where someone could gently guide me through the process of trying to find a relationship, and maybe scout around and find guys who might be appropriate for me. I'm sure that somewhere there are some good guys who are on my level (because of all the talk here about "khhv" and such), but I would need someone to help me, and I don't think that kind of help is available. So I don't really know what to do.
>>85835316In between? But it's hard to keep a conversation going over weeks so sometimes I have no idea what to say, especially when I feel like I am being deliberately ignored.
>>85835372Hate to say but she's probably talking to like ten other guys and giving the cold shoulder to all except the one who gives her pussy tingles
>>85835315I am losing weight. I listed a bunch of other reasons other than being fat.
>>85835379Yeah I know, but this applies to all women, so what can I do? I'm never the guy who gives her pussy tingles.
>>85835360You sound nice, femanonHonestly a lot of it is trial and error, you don't have much to lose by talking to guys online as long as you don't dox yourself, just block the ones who try to harass youRemember you have the upper hand when talking to most guys (see pic related), if anything most of them will walk on eggshells so as not to scare you away
>>85835311>Is this why the girls I talk to take literal days to respond to me? Because everyone tells me it's because they aren't interested at all.It shouldn't take days, because that would mean that they aren't serious. Anyone who's serious can find the time to respond within one or two days at most. So, yeah, a long delay of many days probably means that they're not interested, or at least they're not serious.All I know is that if I was communicating in writing, I would be dedicated to it, and I would make sure to respond, and I would never ghost anyone, because that's not the kind of person I want to be. However, I can't speak for anyone else, so my opinion is basically worthless. Sorry.
>>85835379NTA but last week i was talking to a girl on a dating app and she was sending me good replies but with like 3-4 days in between, and one of the first things she said to me was something about dating intentionally, which is some serious foid mumbo jumbo. So basically I laid out a date plan and she liked it and wanted to do it and I said so this weekend or next, and she's like I could do either, which, waiting 3 days to get a non answer like that is so frustrating, so I sent her another message basically telling her to forget it, because she's not dating intentionally with me, she's making me wait half a week between messages so she's clearly using me as some kind of backup if the guy she's actually on there to talk to doesn't pull through. Foids will rant all the time about how men are playing them but they all do the same shit.
>>85835387Sadly I have no advice since I'm in the same boatEven women who message me first because they like fat dudes for some reason get bored of me very quickly
>>85835394Good on you for having some balls anon, it's so easy to always blame yourself and justify a woman's behaviour when you're desperate
>>85835399I gave her so much time so it's less balls than you think. She didn't respond to that message so for all I know she already slammed the door in my face and I'm standing outside shouting "oh yeah, I'm not gonna date a girl who treats me like that!"
>>85835394Never ever give women a choice. Say "this is what we're going to do and when". If she can't or doesn't want to she will say so.
>>85835397Even women I've been on dates on (multiple dates) and indicated that they enjoyed them treat me like this. If women are just waiting for Chad, why can't they wait alone and not involve me at all.
>>85835429I was hoping to circumvent this conversation>"lets go do x this saturday">waits 3 days>"oh sorry i'm busy this saturday">"ok next saturday">waits 4 days>"ok that works">"ok see you saturday">waits another 3 days"oh you meant THIS saturday, I thought you meant next saturday"and instead I got>"i can do this saturday or next saturday, whatever works for you, just let me know">waits 3 days>"oh I can do either whichever works for you!">"well you're sending me this on saturday afternoon so it's obviously not going to be this saturday, i'll see you next saturday then">waits 3 days>double texts: "you know what forget it"
>>85833169Lower your goddamn standards and date me. If you won't, you aren't really desperate.
>>85835460you aren't serious because you aren't approaching her like a man who wants to date her, you're approaching her like she's the manager of the gf store and you want a store credit for receiving bad customer service.
iiiiivvveee never been dated aaaandd i dont know if i want it becuzzz its scary to trust people butttttt im lonely and i sleep bad alone so i probably should work on it. i have NO IDEA where people ask people out.im sorry i dont know how to advise? the one thing i CAN say is if you ask, and she goes "oh! um..." dont interrupt her to apologize and say nevermind, that happened once i was like oh! umm... because i didnt know what i felt yet and he apologized and left before i could say anything but after a second i realized i would have maybe been open to it? im still not sure but he definitely left before i could decide.ooh, maybe at events. i dont go all the time but whenever i was at a concert or a fair or like. Recreation Location. that might be good!
