I'm not the best at detecting sarcasm and social cues
>I'm not the best at detecting sarcasm and social cuesYeah, so?
>>85845648Is there anything you are the best at no though so [/spoiler[
>>85845669It gets me in weird situations sometimes>>85845678I mean I've sometimes won things in my life. Best in the world or in history though? Probably nothing. But that's almost everyone.
I am constantly being sarcastic and messing around when I speak but I'm autistic enough (figuratively) that nobody can tell. Better to pretend to be literal and humorless all the time.
>>85845648me neither frogettei think we all have that in common
>>85845648crazy how unapologetically evil people are
>>85845852Weird that no one catches on eventually. Even your close friends?>>85845862True it's probably common here>>85845869Wdym? How is this related to evil?
>>85845898>Even your close friends?I wouldn't know.
>>85845911Why wouldn't you know? You don't have any, or you just don't pay attention to them enough to tell?
>>85845927I wouldn't know if my close friends catch on eventually because I've not had close friends. Why are you assuming I'm an asshole instead? Do I type like it? My bad.
>>85845648Same. It should be trivial, but it can make life hell https://youtu.be/7QBolM4psLc
>>85845937I will be your fren, anon
>>85845965I appreciate that, that's kind of you. But I'll be fine
>>85845937I'm not assuming you're an asshole. I was just asking which it was, because it's strange to not have close friends
>>85845988Why don't you want to have close friends?
>>85846046I get it. Strange. Well, I guess that's why I'm here.>>85846346I don't do well with relationships of any kind. Self-isolate, ghost. It feels burdening, asphyxiating to have acquaintances. I know nothing about psychology but I've heard people say avoidant people are like this, so I don't think I'm alone.
>>85846402Have you ever formed a pair bond with a mate? If so how did that turn out?
>>85846448I don't know. I've had a couple of girlfriends, but both accused me of not caring very much and of lying that I loved them. I got pretty emotional at times, and I didn't feel like I was lying, but I guess it wasn't quite -it- to them. I ended up detaching completely and now I regret both.
>>85846482What did loving feel like to you? What did you do while loving them? What did they want you to do to prove you loved them?
>>85846510That's not so easy to answer, anon. I'm not sure what to say. Are you getting at something specific?I felt a sense of dependency and of obligation, and I tried to listen and help them whenever there was something. I think maybe they wanted more warmth and closeness than I had.
>>85845648sarcasm is overrated and not actually a sign of intelligenceanyone that brags about being "fluent in sarcasm" is always, always, always going to be one of the most insufferable people you will ever meet
>>85846557>I felt a sense of dependency and of obligationI would not call this love, anon. At least not romantic love in a conventional sense. I could see both why you may have found it draining and also why they didn't feel your love.>Are you getting at something specific?Yes. The most classic signs of romantic love include obsessive thinking about the partner, things taking on special meaning relating to the partner, a "look in the eyes" of wanting, intense attraction along several dimensions, wanting to be close to them, thinking about the children you'll have together, a sense of warmth and wanting to protect them, etc.It sounds to me like you've never been head over heels, or at least, you haven't entered a relationship with someone you've been head over heels for. How good were you at communicating the distance you needed to them? What about asking about their specific needs from you?
>>85846711I find it weird that some people think it signals intelligence to be sarcastic all the time
>>85846557Anon, how is your gut microbiome? Do you eat enough healthy starches? Can you smoothly digest most food groups? What about fermented foods?I ask because serotonin plays a key role in proper social bonding
>>85846759Well, I don't know. Maybe I feel less for other people than I should. That sounds depressing. I mean, what's the point of a life where you can't really fully connect to other people. How good was I at communication? Awful probably. I'd shut up and keep to myself from time to time. They were pretty clear with me that I wasn't being empathetic and caring enough and such. I'm sorry for not responding very well when you're putting effort into asking about and trying to help another person, I just don't feel like I have much to say, or at least that I don't know what to say.>>85847181Is this a real question? I don't think I've had digestive issues ever, not even once. My diet depends on what's cheap at the store closest to me, and I've moved around some. A lot of oats, rice, milk. Usually some banana. I don't remember my high school psychology enough to self-diagnose about chemical imbalances and such, but I've been on anti-depressants a couple of times and the only thing that felt different was that I was even more exhausted than usual.
>>85847223>I'd shut up and keep to myself from time to time. I mean, setting up a system where you can warn them or send a text when you need to take space can help. So can scheduled alone tome worh clear boundaries about amount of texting etc.>They were pretty clear with me that I wasn't being empathetic and caring enough and such.Those are pretty vague things. Obviously you can't hit a target that's blurry. If you enter another relationship, it's worth getting more specific about your needs and giving space to discuss them on a regular basis. Some couples schedule time for weekly audits of the relationship and avoid combativeness and arguments during other times of the week, if it's necessary.>Is this a real question? Yes, and I brought it up because I was just having a conversation with someone who was arguing that serotonin was bad, and you should avoid fermented legumes because of that. It led me to research more about serotonin and social bonding. It plays a crucial role.If the majority of your calories come from starch, and most of the starches are whole foods that you digest well, you are more likely to be fine on the serotonin front though.> I'm sorry for not responding very well You're responding well. Don't worry
