im dating a schizoid as an extrovert which is a little hard, its like he doesnt care about me and doesnt notice any of my hints whenever im upset at him. Is this normal or does he just hate me?
>whips out cockYou're a dumb fucking extrovert and you need to shut the fuck up. Suck it.
>>85887982he hates you, now kindly go kill yourself
Whats the question exactly? Does your bf hate you? Or are you venting and disguising it as a question
>>85887982this is a bait thread or you are a Bigot against Schizo
>>85887982he sounds basedyou should give me his contact so we can hang out once a year for like 3 hours and say maybe 6 words to each other
>>85887987Id be happier if he reacted that way too desu like any kind of reaction >>85887989Wait but really?
>>85887994Im asking if he hates me or if this is just a normal schizoid thing? Like Im always so excited about things and he just doesnt really care much about anything that i tell him. Hes 28 so maybe the things that I talk to him about arent as exciting for someone his age either
>>85887982As a fellow schizoid i don't understand how you ended up with one as a BF. He doesn't appear to care about you because he doesn't. It's nothing personal, he's just incapable of love.
So you do know what schizoid means, right? It's not slang for "schizophrenic" it is its own separate illness and it's, yeah... really bad.
>>85888009Yes, really. He hates you idk how you don't see it judging by his reactions to you
>>85887982It is not your fault to teach a grown man or woman how to be a fucking human being. Communicate with him what you want out of a relationship, if you both fail to reach a compromise, MOVE ON. Just remember communication is a two way road, if he doesnt know youre butthurt over something, hows he gonna fix it?
Having no other option to date but a fucking actual schizoid is a kind of hell I guess
>>85887982Leave while you can OP. You can't fix someone like that. It will slowly kill you because everything you expect from a relationship, they can't give. No reassurance, no emotional support, every time you feel unwanted or like they're being rude or mean, they won't notice, if you're extra unlucky, they'll even start to say it's you who's the crazy one. Without external support, you get swallowed in that, lose your sense of self, until you're just a shell of a person.
>>85888161He has told me that he loves me before though. He only shows interest when it comes to sexting and stuff and never my actual feelings>>85888177I obviously know that schizoid isnt slang for schizophrenic otherwise i wouldnt be calling him schizoid bffr
>>85888189Well i thought it was just a him thing but everyone here seems to be telling me otherwise >>85888199Mannn ig i should be more direct? But im the one always communicating he just doesnt say much, I still love him very much to just leave that easily
>>85887982I'm a schizoid. This is normal. A schizoid basically works on Newtonian physics. He will stay at rest until another force acts upon him, forcing him to move. If he is in motion, he will stay in motion, until another force acts upon him thereby slowing him down or stopping him. If you want him to give you attention, you have to give him attention, and he will reflect it back towards you. But be warned, he will reflect whatever type of attention you give to him. Also, to him, giving him "hints" is a form of manipulation and he will neither understand nor respect it.
>>85888591I have nothing to contribute to this thread, but this post just made me realize I'm probably a shizoid.
>>85888030>Im asking if he hates me or if this is just a normal schizoid thing? Like Im always so excited about things and he just doesnt really care much about anything that i tell him. Hes 28 so maybe the things that I talk to him about arent as exciting for someone his age eitherIt's impossible to tell whether he actually likes you or not. As a schizoid, he would react pretty much the same. A schizoid is like a rock. He's just there. You can maybe move him over there. And he'll just be there. He's not going to fight you about it. And he's not going to be thrilled. Or if he is, the emotion isn't going to necessarily manifest externally. If he's your boyfriend, he'll be there. But that's pretty much all he's going to do. You can tell him what you want him to do. And, if he wants, he might do it. Or he might not. It really all depends on you. That's just kinda how we are. I don't have any agency. I don't have any power to change things and force the world to conform to me. And frankly, I resent anything that does that to me. I take what life gives me and I either enjoy it or I don't. Your boyfriend is probably the same. It's not a personality type most women can tolerate.
>>85888641>but this post just made me realize I'm probably a shizoid.Lol, yeah, I expect a lot of us assholes to be on here.
>>85888591This is so accurate it kind of pisses me off.
imma take this rare opportunity to dump what i have of schizoid-chan
OP, you sure you're dating an actual schizoid and not a self absorbed person? I've dated someone that was "schizoid" and "autistic" and all it really ended up being was them being an insufferable and selfish person that didn't care about me. Narcissistic more like.
schizoid-chan is kino, some anons will definitely relate
i would be frens with schizoid-chan but she wouldn't acknowledge my frenship
>>85888686> I don't have any agency. I don't have any power to change things and force the world to conform to me.I think that's a terribly inaccurate description.I have agency. I can change things, force the world to conform. But I lack the motivation to do so in most cases, as my lack of ambition and blunted emotions mean there is little reward for me in doing so.
>>85888250So you really think you don't know what schizoid is until you've gone and got the t-shirt is what you are saying?Did you touch hot stoves when you were a kid, like, a lot?
>>85888952>But I lack the motivation to do so in most cases, as my lack of ambition and blunted emotions mean there is little reward for me in doing so.Well, to me that's almost splitting hairs. Like sure, I could... Maybe get a better job? I'm sure I will. Someday. I used to have a worse job. But there's not much I can do about it while I'm sitting here taking a shit.
>>85888865this is(mostly) me>>85888875this is me>>85888881this would be me if I ever actually traveled.I am schizoid-chan in all ways but physical
>>85888881Wtd, that actually is something I'd like to visit in France. Fuck the Eiffel Tower, the catacombs sounds way cooler. The cartoon nailed me to a T!
So many anons mindbroken by speaking to a schizoid. First off they're so fucking rare. Second, you probably would never meet them. Third, normies get all their sense of self from relationship to others, schizoids feel anxiety or indifference to what you derive your whole life's meaning based on.>hurduurr the schizoid wont mirror me>he's so self absorbed and narcissistic because he won't let me derive my entire sense of self based on his reactions >what do you mean I'm expecting blood from a stone! Everyone's behavior should be about mirroring whatever traits I say I have back to me!>but the schizoid is the narcissist...
>>85888979You have a job. Why? Do you support yourself? Are you not living on the street, and not by the grace of a family member?Then you have agency. You have decided that homelessness would not satisfy you, and have made effort to avoid it. Your, presumably low, achievement in life is because that is what is sufficient for you. It is very different from someone whose severe mental illness keeps them from supporting themselves in the manner they desire.
>>85888870I was typing a long response about how you can be both then as I was typing it, I realized that maybe I am so socially withdrawn because I'm just that narcissistic, and not because I am schizoid. No one can give me as much joy as I give myself, and no one is capable of loving me as much as I love myself, and maybe that's why I don't feel company to be necessary. I've had it all before, but none of it made me as happy as being a social recluse does. I'd choose myself over an active social life again and again.
>>85889148Just the reflection itself isn't indicative of you not being narcissistic, because that's more of a pattern behavior that manifests in many ways and some narcissistic individuals are capable of recognizing they're narcissistic, however, you could just very well be a schizoid recluse. To call someone a narcissist, you'd have interact with them enough to understand that they truly don't care about anybody outside themselves, it's a very crushing experience for a normal person that struggles with self esteem, which people like this are usually drawn to.
>>85888591great and accurate postterrible thread btw kys bitch
>>85889262I don't know, I had a period of introspection after my failed relationship where I realized that I never loved her as a person, but rather as an extension of myself. I showed her as much love as I would myself hoping she would reciprocate but when I didn't find it enough, I started getting resentful about it until I grew cold towards her entirely. It wasn't until after the fact that I realized that I was looking for and that I wouldn't find it in anyone but myself and found a certain joy in that. Maybe I'm not clinically narcissistic but I suppose I am exceptionally self absorbed.
shit I guess this thread is how I find out I'm schizoideh I'm cool with it
>>85887982That is normal, but he doesn't sound like the problem. If you know he is schizoid, and you know he won't pick up hints, why keep foiding and trying to drop hints you know he won't pick up? See how retarded and silly that sounds?Just be straightforward and transparent with him.>>85888865>>85888870>>85888875fukken saved. thank you
Schizoid is not a thing, he's just a piece of lying shit, because men are shit.
>>85888881That's just good traveling sense. The big tourist spots are way too crowded and overphotographed anyway. The actual interesting shit is found off the beaten path.
>>85889028this is exactly how certain coworkers would react to methey like to assume the worst to neutralitythis one girl wouldn't stop asking why I hated her to the point where I actually started to dislike her when I was indifferent before
>>85889365Stay mad, cumdump
>>85887982Not diagnosed but most actual schizoids aren'tIf he's dating you, he likes you. We are like cats. It's sometimes impossible to know how he will be feel but do your best to communicate what you're feeling and need. The biggest fuck up especially foids do is going to others for advice and not actually trusting yourself and your partner. Just fucking talk to them, you can't trust strangers or even therapists because only YOU know exactly what you're going through
>>85888002This is me and my best friend. We text daily but in person we annoy the everlasting fuck out of each other in person so we meet up like once a year.
>>85888591very strange feeling actually feeling "seen", I'm curious as to why we even have similarities like these. What is the archetype
>>85889358I can't stand women that do this>I'm aware of your condition that makes you unable to understand hints>wtf why isn't he understanding my hintswhy are you all like this, is it because you think you know everything and project it?
>>85889440If we found the cure for that retarded line of thinking, many problems would dissapear. Unfortunately it may be innate nature
>>85888009>>85887982schizoids give negative shits about anyone. If he says words in your direction, he loves you unironically.Our love language is being quiet and silently being by your side. Do that or you lose him.t. schizoid
>>85889471I genuinely think it's women innately lack the ability to see anything from another's perspective. That's why therapy is a thing. Women think men think just like them and project all of their ideas about the world into men.
>>85888591>bing bing bingJackpot!Deep understanding of the schizoid mind, respect.
>>85889412>very strange feeling actually feeling "seen", I'm curious as to why we even have similarities like these. What is the archetypeWhat do you mean? It's a diagnosed disorder.
>>85889947I'm questioning why it's even a disorder. You don't think it's strange that complete strangers can live completely similar lives despite never knowing each other? I just think it's fascinating that you can actually group people into groups based off personality.
>>85887982>doesnt notice any of my hints whenever im upset at himWe don't give a shit when you're upset you stupid foid, deal with it yourself. Fucking vapid moron, holy shit...
>>85889028>So many anons mindbroken by speaking to a schizoid.I feel like a cartoon villain in a lair.
When all that a "schizoid" cares about doesn't extend past themselves, they don't deserve to have someone play cheerleader or support. Just leave OP. If it's truly a schizoid they won't care, if they're just a piece of shit they'll scramble to keep you in their grasp because they just want someone to stroke and fellate their ego. People like that don't care about you, and never will. They just say what you want to hear because they want you to stay, not because they care.
I miss icarly
>>85889574Please stop posting this image. That fucking thing is looking deep into my soul, and I can't stop looking at it.
>>85890450It's obvious you had a bad relationship with someone that wasn't schizoid, so why are you weighing in?
>>85890450>Manipulate him emotionally. If he leaves he's bad if he stays he's bad.
>>85887982Good thing the existence of a "schizoid" is very debatedIt only exists today because someone in 19// something thought that it was schizophrenia without hallucinations, as he observed it in family relatives of his schizophrenic patients
