honestly its just impossible to make friends, idk how ive tried everything but everyone just seems to ghost or theres no connection, plus i tried those like make friends servers and its even worse theres so many channels and its overwhelmingim an M btw
>>35222064most people use soc for short-term hits. your rapid-fire chasing just fried your dopamine receptors, which is why there is no connection, and everything feels flat to you.quality over quantity. i've added three people in the last 18 months, and two actually led somewhere. i can tell if we will have a deeper connection by their post.
Even outside of /soc/, people are just garbage creatures. I wish I could promise you one day, you'll find someone awesome you click with, but I can't. Just keep trying, cause there are good ones out there.
>>35222064A lot of sadly is what >>35222115 says and some of it is also people having expectations and then kinda just getting bored after "honeymoon" period, when it turns out the other person is also just "some guy". Lots of anons also are socially awkward in general. There were many times when it seemed like I have to lead the conversation or the other person will just crash or lock themselves up. And it was tiring.I had a few good contacts lasting a couple of months, but that's about it and nothing since then. Some of it may be me being older and not caring as much and not being as enthusiastic about things as in my youth, and some of it is that again, anons expect miracles and wonderful anime friendships from get-go and have to hype themselves. For example, I remember one anon whom I exchanged emails penpal style from time to time before going on Discord. We talked about shit and after some time the guy, who was at a low place in life improved himself, found a job etc. Turned out a lot of the will both to improve and stay in contact was... because he thought I am a girl who gave a shit and supported him out of potential romantic interest (never indicated i am one nor had such interest, just didn't state otherwise either since I just wanted to talk about shit and help a dude going through tough time). We had a bit of laugh about it once I did tell him I am another man (though he was also embarrassed as all hell). And some time after he got better he moved on as well - and that was the best contact I had with someone from here.Most anon here are either naive - looking for magical anime love with a girl pining for them and then unavoidably getting disappointed (or they get exploited to the same end), just awkward as all hell chasing aforementioned dopamine hit of a new contact before it goes stale or looking for some fap material. There's exceptions, no doubt, but like I've said elsewhere, overall /soc/ is very normie-like Tinder experience but for fuckups.
>>35222064Leave behind finding friendsEmbrace the having a cat/kitten/dog life
You and I are the same page. I rarely come to /soc/ intentionally because its full of sex pest, autistic adult babies and larpers. It got to a point where the harder I tried to find connecton in this cesspool the more emotionally fried I became. I have just resolved that I have aged out of the ability to find anyone I actually click with and trust the person not to just randomly ghost me.It fucking sucks that we live in a world where both spaces, be it physical or digital yield the same type of results.People who are self-absorbed with themselves and who cannot be bothered to actually make a concious effort for the connections they purport to want.Honestly fuck the modern era.
making friends is a lost art
>>35222064Lockdowns in the USA at least seemed to have really destroyed socializing and it’s really sad. I’m in my early thirties and just watched everyone lose interest in their things and friends they had. Nobody communicates much anymore, even when I go out and try to dig things up. Not many people show up to events anymore. It’s really fuckin sad, it makes me sad cause at my age usually you’re married and have a kid or two. And I don’t so it really makes it odd, lockdowns hit in my late twenties and really didn’t let up until I was like 31. The lingering effects economically and socially from lockdowns will probably last a decade if not more
>>35222064i'll be your friend anon give me your discord
Who's volunteering to be my little secret tonight? ..
try contact finder here, you unlock it after AI matching interview.https://discord.gg/bxanE8zJFfyou find someone for sure anon.
