>hey, Anon!>playing with your toy soldiers again?
>>98645369Is it me or would it be kind of hot to be roommates with an beautiful older woman who teases you about your hobbies
>>98645397move back in with your mother and you'll get the same experience
>>98645402Let me rephrase: a older woman who is not related to me and also someone I am attracted to
>>98645407>I'm attracted to all the qualities of my mother except for the fact she's my motheroh anon...
>>98645438Yes? Explain why that's actually a bad thing.
>>98645438>Expecting a level of care and comfort from a potential partner close to what you experienced in childhood means you want to fuck your momWhy did it take so long for people to realize this guy's a hack
>>98645397Poor brain really is sad. I hope you're able to overcome it some day but I know it's unlikely
>>98645450We have evolved to prefer genetic diversity in our relationships because it produces stronger children, so we naturally grow to not be attracted to the people closest to us when growing up. Sigmund Freud grew up separated from his mother for the most part, I believe his maid did most of the motherly duties in her stead. He never grew to not be attracted to his mother like the rest of us. Freud spent his career trying to justify why his mum gave him a boner.
>>98645471I may not want to fuck my actual mother, but i am dating someone who has a lot of her best qualities. Thats not something i looked for specifically, My mum is amazing and i admire her alot, so make of that what you will
>>98645506Good parents should always provide a template for what a good relationship looks like. >>98645397>>98645407picrel
>>98645369Who are you and why are you in my apartment?
>>98645506That’s kinda the point, but the “Freud said you want to fuck your mom” meme reduces it to absurdity. Freud’s theory is that when you are around 5 you “fall in love” with your mom (or dad if a girl) because she’s your frame of reference and don’t know any better. Then you grow out of it but, like anon said, keep that frame of reference for future partners. It becomes “mommy/daddy issues” when you don’t and as an adult seek what is practically a carbon copy of your mom/dad. To varying degrees of “that behavior will fuck your life up”.
>>98645624Meh, it's people who don't understand you can love your mom, dad, brother, sister, etc without being IN LOVE with them. Then again people who been groomed and fucked into being gay and trooned out tend to think everything has to be lust. Hint why family is very weird with them and when they do make one, they end up fucking the kids and pushing sex shit on them.
>>98645438Fuck off Sigmund you hack
>>98645624>It becomes “mommy/daddy issues” when you don’t (grow out of it)In my experience most severe cases of daddy issues never even knew their father.
>>98645534>Who are you and why are you in my apartment?(but suavely)
>>98645450Did it take long, though? Diverging views were there even in Freud's time, and psychology as a whole has had a few paradigm shift since his day.
>>98645788Freud was the first to really popularize it as a stand-alone branch of expertise.Freud, Carl Jung, Sabina Spielrein, and (perhaps less known) Otto Gross did he necessary ground work their successors could build upon. Which retroactively obsoleted most of that ground work, but anyway.
>>98645703That circles back to that frame of reference. If all you’ve been taught as a kid is gay shit, you’ll do lots of gay shit later on. Applies to pretty much anything: anger management, loser/winner mindset, generational trauma, etc>>98645760The catch is, you have 2 fathers and 2 mothers. Two bio parents and your idealized interpretation of them in your head. What usually causes problems is the latter, or when the latter clashes with the former. So, take the idealized version of a loving and caring father with an absent real one and you get bdp bitches. Freud is not that complicated. Like, therapy was pretty much low hanging fruit back then. But his work is poorly worded by today’s standards and outdated. And normies love using therapy language that they don’t really understand.
Anyway what kind of older woman do you want teasing you about your hobbies?I feel like a soccer mom type might be goated- makes fun of your hobbies and your inability to keep up with her
>>98645845I like older women who are a bit chubbier. Studies go to show that women gain weight when they're happier in a relationship. Even though they may not stay bombshells, a chubby wife is a happy wife, and a happy wife means a happy life.
>>98645624Speaking as someone with mommy issues, when internally acknowledged, it’s mostly just about wanting her. The only way in which my enmeshment with my mother ever ended relationships is because she went out of her way to interfere in them, never from selecting women too like her. What it does actually corrupt is the mother son relationship, because you’re in love with her and it’s not going away, which means that my connection with her will never be at the stable level it is with my father. Also because of the intensity of it it’s extremely hard to revert back to how it should be, a lot of you doesn’t want to because love feels precious even when it’s unfulfilled.
>>98645803>Which retroactively obsoleted most of that ground work, but anyway.That's how it often goes. I don't think modern physicians spend much time reading Galen or studying ancient Egyptian medicine, either.
>>98645868That sounds rough, anon. Specially since it feels like your mother exploits your situation, but I don’t know enough about your case to judge if she actually does that and why. Acknowledging it puts you already ahead of the average guy. Have you considered therapy? A good one that listens and steers you into realizing stuff, not a roastie that’s tells you what to do. I’ve been going to therapy for a bit more than a year now and jfc I’ve learned so many things about myself.
>>98645369Who is that supposed to be?
>>98645438This just means your mom did a good job of being an example of a woman.
>>98647793Well anon, luckily for my normalcy, and unluckily for my heartbreak and for what would've been fair for her in her life, she actually died (relatively) young from a brain haemorrhage a few years ago. I don't want it to sound like her fault, I definitely fed into it for years until the point where she interfered with that relationship because I liked her affection and I think I held some hope of it being consummated. I still dream about her very often. There's a perverse kind of aesthetic in her death for me in that she never got old enough to stop being a milf. But I miss her immensely as a mother as well. I don't think I could ever talk to a therapist about this, my current gf is the only person who actually knows me that I've ever told it to, and she has a weird combination of acceptance, criticism, and arousal from it. I'm gradually working through it even with myself, i write about it, I'll be fine, better this than so many other things I could have wrong with me
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>>98645397>>98645438I just want dinner cooked for me.
>>98645471Don't project jewish neuroses and behaviors on gentiles please. #notallhominids>>98645506>t. normal and healthy anon who is normal and healthy
>>98645703Look up the rates of incestuous rape in jewish communities and you'll understand where Freud, whose patients were (almost?) exclusively jewish, got his ideas.
>>98645859>a happy wife means a happy life.Don't become this domesticated, anon. You will grow miserable and resent her. If you are happy, she will be happy. She is meant to be domesticated, not you.
>>98655842>She is meant to be domesticated, not youchildless behavior
>>98655929Cope. I cut the umbilical myself.The mother is meant to be domesticated so she can domesticate the children. It's just a basic bitch hierarchy: father > mother > children.If you chase the happiness of fickle creatures like women, children (and pets), you are unlikely to achieve it, you'll become miserable and they'll see your misery and weakness and get stressed. Rather, pursue your own fate and bring them along. They'll be calm and happy because you show leadership and purpose, which is what women and children desire in a man.
>>98655978if you treat a woman like a servant and expect her to raise your children, why would she ever raise them to love you?child rearing takes a partnership or else you are just paying someone to raise your children for youchildless behavior
>>98655993Only a narcissist would suggest that the purpose of child-rearing is to receive love from them.Only an anarchist would suggest that having a hierarchy automatically implies treating subordinates with disrespect.Your premises are absurd at face value, and discussing this further when you are so removed from reality is rather pointless.>partnershipThere's no such thing. Cooperation always involves unequal hierarchies, never equal partnerships.>childlessThe lady dost project too hard. Enjoy being a male feminist.
>>98656008>>98656008>Cooperation always involves unequal hierarchiesah, my mistake assuming you came from a civilized societysalaam alaykum, brother. I hope whatever local militias bring no harm to you and your family
>>98645369THEY'RE NOT "TOY SOLDIERS" THEY'RE MINIATURES!!! IT'S NOT A PHASE!! GOD YOU'RE SO FUCKING STUPID YOU FUCKING BITCH FUCK YOU!!
>>98656025Truly tragically broken is the mind of the modern urban bugman.Civilization is hierarchy. There has never been an egalitarian society that wasn't first built by a hierarchical society. All the societies idealized by egalitarians were, at their most liberal still patriarchal racist aristocracies. Your liberalism is the plebeian rot that sets in once civilization reaches its given peak, and those infected by it will not make it into the next cycle of rebirth and decline.NGMII write this for the sake of lurkers, not to attempt to cure (you) of your many powerful delusions.
>>98645438Sigmund Fraud is just another jewish degenerate pushing his perversions. He gave cocaine to his patients btw.
>>98656148it was early 20th century, everyone gave cocaine to their patients
>>98645369Just painting, Ma. Playtime comes after colors.
It's always funny to talk about men childhish hobbies like collecting toys soldiers when women usually do the same and collect stuffed animals and called cozy aesthetics.
>>98656157Ok, still doesn't change how perverted and twisted Fraud was.
>>98656171Most of them mature into collecting throw pillows instead.
>>98656171A lot of the things people make fun of for males are widespread with women, its just not widely known or used in normie core stuffGooners?Women had dildos of all sizes and shapes millenia ago, women famously have a slew of smut books dedicated to their wildest fantasies and don't get me started on all the beast fucking.Video games?I've met several women that would literally play 12 hours of Sims a day, and girls I personally know and are very close to that play mobile shit more than what I spend playing normal video games and are so addicted to it they will just sit there for hours like zombies.
>>98656171>DICK
>>98656092You already got told to fuck off on /co/.
>>98656171pepe the frog sighting
>>98660093>everyone who wrecks my shit is the same anonmaybe facebook is more your speed
>>98648367Hey anon. Sorry, I forgot about this thread. I think understand better your situation… and I still stand by my point that therapy can help. There shouldn’t be anything you can’t speak with a therapist about. Any that is worth their salt won’t judge you and actually try explore with you why are you feeling like that and why you were reticent to tell them. Therapist are humans too, but good ones will try their damn best to disconnect their own shit to your’s. I’m any case, best of luck.
