How do I cope with the reality of relationships are transactional? Every relationship especially between one of a man and a woman is totally transactional especially on the woman’s side. It just makes it feel cheap and worthless to me.
>>33603588Well you can cope by realize that's not true, you idiot
I have so many shortcomings and negatives going on for me but I have this issue where I'm the only one in the room who ever has to face these issues and it makes me feel really alone . In an ideal world I had someone to talk to . The last person I rambled to all day collected my messages and it bit me in legal court a little
>>33603588>How do I cope with the reality of relationships are transactional? Every relationship especially between one of a man and a woman is totally transactional especially on the woman’s side. It just makes it feel cheap and worthless to me.You're looking at it too literally, anon. Literally everything in life is "transactional" if you break it down far enough, friendships, jobs, even family. You give time/energy, you get something back. Doesn't mean it's automatically fake or worthless.With women, yeah, part of it is resources and status. That's biological wiring. But it's not only that. Attraction, compatibility, shared humor, comfort, those are transactions too, just not monetary ones. If you dismiss all of it as cheap, you're basically saying you don't value what you're offering either.Give and take is just the basis of all human bonding. You just need to find a woman whose "price" aligns with what you naturally provide. If you're only meeting women who see you as an ATM, that’s not the truth of all women, it's just the tier of women you’re running into.
>>33603603Yes it is you dumb fuck.If you get depressed and do nothing that woman will leave you behind for whatever reason rather than staying by your side. She'll have you replace in a month if not then a week. People here would agree about being left out is a decent choice for a lazy fuck but if it the roles are opposite, most men would stay for their woman. The only thing that's given an unconditional love are parents.
>>33603588The only unconditional/non-transaction relationship is that of a mother for her child. So you are pining for a return to childhood. You will remain stuck and a failure until you abandon that idea.
>>33603913Bullshit on that mothers get dopamine and enjoy the power over having control over a young male. They care about how they feel in the moment the second the child makes them feel bad they’ll lash out uncontrollably. On top of that they’ll often smother and sabatage the son unless they are put in check by a man. Woman are simply solipsistic and don’t give. Shit about anyone but themselves
>>33603588Relationships are not transactional they are reciprocal there is a similarity but a very big difference. Transactional relationships are paying a prostitute for sex for example. Reciprocal is putting in an effort for someone who puts in effort for you. One is a cold and emotionless agreement the other is freely chosen and inspired by mutual admiration.
a real loving relationship is giving without caring if you get "paid back" or not.toxic people will take advantage of this. normal people become wary of this. if you can dodge toxics, and mentally overcome your wariness, only then can you find a loving happy relationship. but you will never find one if you are keeping score.
>>33603588it is transactional from both sides. A woman’s safety and resources is what sex is to men. A man leaves when there is no sex. A woman leaves when there is no safety or resources. Statistics state a man is more likely to leave if a woman gets a grave illness. A man is also kore likely to leave when his wife gets old. Man is more likely to marry for status and for appearance and validation for other men. A family man is more revered and seen as more powerful than a non married one. A lot of the things a man does is for other men. Men want sex. Women want safety and resources.
