>>33553063
Not getting rid of my phone sooner.

>>33553088
Top comment

>>33553063
>Thinking you need to grind for years before you can even think of dating
Don't be afraid to be social while building bank
>Taking college super seriously
Very few recruiters give a flying fuck about your gpa. Most care about the college brand more than how you did. Don't pass up opportunities just to study.
>Moving far away
I make some good money compared to back home but holy depression, batman
>Putting off physical fitness
Being lighter feels amazing and I wish I hadn't been such a fatass until I was 25. Still heavy, but lighter and less flabby now.
>Sinking so much time into video games
You're virtual achievements don't mean shit irl. It's not a point of pride to have wasted hundreds or thousands of hours in a game that could be deleted tomorrow. #bfp4f
t. 29yo

>>33553063
not going to therapy

>>33553063
I did not do enough drugs and didn't fuck enough sluts.

>>33553063
Being religious and joining a religious group in college is my biggest regret. They were all nice people but I never believed in that shit really. I just liked everyone was nice and had a decent set of morals where its mostly lacking in college.
In hindsight it was just a matrimonial club and everyone was just trying to get married off to others. I'm not even religious anymore so I can't hang out with those people because they'd see me as a devilman for now wanting to date outside of marriage etc.

I also regret not hitting the gym earlier. I always made excuses about being busy but i wasted a lot of time online gooning etc. The earlier you start going to the gym and creating consistency (3x a week) the less effort you will need to put in the future. getting started is usually the hardest part.

Cliche part is have fun. College (undergrad) will be the last time you're around so many young beautiful people your age.

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>>33553063
Not becoming gay and turning my asshole into a wet fuckhole available 24/7 for my mate to empty his ballsack in and play with my nipples and tell me how much he loves to breed me and that I'm his and he owns my ass and then cum inside of his cum from earlier and I go poop it out and we go back to sleep and 3 hours later he gives me another wet fuck in my ass and my ballsack is wet with a slight musk of cum and he goes down and licks it because he actually loves me and then he fucks me again and I have 4 creampies in my ass and in the morning I clean them all out and have those wet cum farts into the toilet and I clean myself and I kiss him and give him a blowjob and swallow and then I go to work with his load in my stomach.
I regret not doing that

>>33553063
choosing a shittier uni only because it was closer to my town
not taking my classes seriously and not applying to internships/volunteer during my BA
that shit would have helped me a lot for my masters
not building a study routine
caring too much about social life where I could have just put that energy into family/hobbies/school
wasting too much time on guys that didnt care about me because I trusted their words and not their behaviour
mixed signals are a definite NO get that shit straight into your head kid

>>33553063
All the cliche advice you hear from older people is true
work hard, ask her out, have fun, don't stress, don't worry too much about slaving away, maintain friends and family

Life is very, very short, just a few thousand weeks, time periods pass quickly too. The early 2000s? 500~ weeks, nothing, gone in the blink of an eye, so don't be afraid, be ambitious

Try to keep good mental health, without it, you can't enjoy life, so don't do anything to give yourself long term guilt, don't entertain depression, take care of it immediately

>>33553063
>What were your biggest mistakes between the ages of 18 and 25?
Not starting to save for my pension.

>>33553471
and what if it gets me pepper sprayed then some white knight tries to fight me to show "he's the boss" while I am obviously impaired with the hope of gaining a crumb of female attention?
what if I get the police called on me?
Both things happened to me and I have calculated that it simply isn't worth it to go after women which seemingly hate me and possibly all men.

>>33553580
You got pepper sprayed and "police called on you" for asking a girl out?

>>33553063
37 year old here.

1) thinking that it is too late to switch careers. complete bullshit. After I dropped out of law school after 4 years, I almost killed myself. Now I make six figures as a programmer and have a wife and two kids and an own place, mortgage almost payed off.

2) not putting work into founding a family early on. being a late bloomer who was frustrated after high school graduation and spend years on avoidant behavior such as watching anime, I married at 33. Having kids at that age becomes more risky and harder. The dating pool is also smaller. Try to find a soulmate when you are young and dont wait too long with kids.

>>33553614
those were two seperate events and they happened while cold approaching in public transport.
for asking women out which I already know of as I am in their social circle they try to subtly sabotage me and even if they do a shit job at it the other men don't care as they're just looking for justification to kick men other than themselves out of there.

>>33553632
>2) not putting work into founding a family early on. being a late bloomer who was frustrated after high school graduation and spend years on avoidant behavior such as watching anime, I married at 33. Having kids at that age becomes more risky and harder. The dating pool is also smaller. Try to find a soulmate when you are young and dont wait too long with kids.
what if in my k-12 education I have only had 5 female classmates out of 200-300 with young women seemingly not existing outside besides public transport or night clubs which entry for women is free but for men it's invite only(rich men's club)?

>>33553063
>What were your biggest mistakes between the ages of 18 and 25?
I'm 21yo now OP, biggest mistakes are:
- starting, and continuing to watch porn.
- not exercising (lifting cardio etc) earlier
- not learning skills earlier (instruments etc)
- wasting countless hours on youtube, reddit, 4chan. vidya

spend you time well you have a limited time on earth.

>>33553063
>>33553289
I wish I'd started working out at this age. Had I started around that age period, I'd be shredded now. I had this stupid idea back then that looks didn't really matter for men and that men just needed charisma. Which is true to some extent, but now I realize how much of an edge being fit gives you

I started instead at 29 and now at 32 I'm pretty built, but still, earlier is always better

Also I wish I'd studied harder and gone to a proper university instead of going to community college and then commuting to university after I transferred. I missed out on a lot of stuff I'll never get back.

>>33553740
>starting, and continuing to watch porn.
exactly how is this a bad thing

You will have to figure out most things for yourself as life is very individual specific.

The only things that I see as mandatory advice is not to get involved in substance abuse, crime and being a shitty driver. You never know how or when these things might come into your life. Just because these things might not seem on your radar now, doesn't mean some variables might change in the future. For example an injury leads to an opiate prescription. A bad breakup leads to a bender that turns into alcohol abuse. And with driving I have seen several peers die in accidents. A close friend of mine died in a car accident. Another friend thought he could fight people in a road rage incident and got put in the hospital. Treat driving seriously. Don't speed.

And with respect to women, it is the best time in your life to consort with women sexually and romantically. You will be surprised how hard it becomes after college even. I personally don't recommend becoming a man whore as I think it can really damage your mindset and how you think of the fairer sex, but I do think you need to learn how to talk to women and how to have sex. The best time to meet a wife is legitimately when you are 18 or 19. But if this doesn't happen for you, just keep in mind to keep 10% of your heart for yourself. Women come and go, even the ones you thought would be your ride or die. If they leave you, just let them go. Don't get upset at them or yourself, you'll be okay.

Don't have any to share since i generally don't regret anything i've done in my life however i do have a piece of advice

Try to care as little as possible about what others think of you. Don't take this as a reason to act like the biggest douche ever, being civil is still a good thing, but do it out of your own goodness instead of doing it to be liked. And of course, just don't be bothered by what others think or say about you. Remember that they talk shit about the fictional image they have in their mind of you, not about the real you

>>33553290
Undergrad is a lonely and miserable experience for any well adjusted male

>>33553695
>they happened while cold approaching in public transport.
What exactly did you say?

>>33553063
Start paying yourself (read:SAVING) $0.25 of every dollar you earn at minimum. This means you only have access to spend $0.75/dollar. So before you go out on a bender with your friends every weekend and piss away the rest on entertainment, food and booze you can rest assure you are starting to build a nest egg for your future and for emergencies. Eventually you can start to invest your savings in stocks and then your money starts to work for you. If you diversify your stock portfolio in the right way, you can make it through whatever shit storm the world throws your way. But you have to start to save a nest egg first. Start that and seriously look into learning the stock market. That should be a class in every school system starting with penny stocks. But it's not. Money management is the most important thing you could take out of going to school and no one teaches it in grades 10-12 or really beyond that.

>>33553931
Death to america

>>33553935
Death to YOU goat fucking foreigner, you're mad you're being deported. Seethe. Cope. Ya poor fucking squatter.

>>33553947
>you're mad you're being deported
Bro thinks I live in his shithole country, KEK
>Ya poor fucking squatter.
I own the house where I live. It has been my family home for generations. It's made of bricks. I have a 5 minutes walk to get to every store or restaurant you can imagine. There are no niggers in ten miles. When I wake up, birds are singing.
Meanwhile, thousands of americans are trying to relocate here, with no jobs, no skills, no language knowledge, not the slightest understanding of the local culture.

as I said previously
Death to america.

>>33553713
you think those are the only places to look for women? seriously? colleges have activities where you can meet people from other subjects. you can also sign up elsewhere for activities with a high female ratio - outdoor stuff, fitness etc. many crossfit and other clubs offer group activities. personally, I met my wife in a student exchange program.

I am by no means a chad and an give you details how to pick up women. I am just saying you should not engage in avoidant behaviour. neither in terms of not having a girl at all nor staying with one who you cannot imagine a family with, out of convenience. don't waste your time.

>>33553063
Being a shut-in and losing my friends from school as a result.
Telling people I'm depressed
Going to therapy.

>>33553919
that she looks good and would look even better hanging off my arm then asked if she'd like to make it happen some time later

>>33554002
>you think those are the only places to look for women? seriously?
I live in fucking eastern europe.
More specifically the country where more than 50% of all european union prostitutes come from despite only being 2-3% of the EUs population while also facing a demographic catastrophe due to people on average being very old so you can say that most young women from here are tricking it out anywhere from rural italy to amsterdam.
>colleges have activities where you can meet people from other subjects.
Not here, the student's club is simply a ramp into politics, they don't organize any activities and their only function is to deflect any blame or criticism of the university or any of their professors.

>>33554002
>you can also sign up elsewhere for activities with a high female ratio - outdoor stuff, fitness etc. many crossfit and other clubs offer group activities.
If you join any of those activities *to* meet women you'll be ejected as a creeper.

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>>33553063
Didn't travel and have adventures while I had little responsibilities and no job. I stayed in my room most of the time.

Didn't make the most of my college years. I graduated but made 0 connections or friends. I didn't really have much fun either because I went straight home after class most of the time. I didn't pursue any internships or take any opportunities to grow in my field.

Didn't realize how bad and toxic some of the things my parent taught and instilled in me growing up was and how badly it affected me. They aren't bad people but they have a very limited worldview that I had adopted. My parents are very private, antisocial and distrustful of people and they raised me to be the same way. This made me a selfish antisocial asshole.

>>33554126
that's if any of these activities even exist or if they have any women.

>>33553063
Make use of your free time to do things that allow you to meet people. Don't do anything degenerate or that you wouldn't be interested in for their own sake, but give yourself opportunities to make connections. It'll get much harder once you're working full time.

t. 26

>>33554132
>>33554210
Same, no connections at college is wild, if I could do it all again I'd be a goddamn golden retriever.
>>33553063
Believing I'm an introvert. It's true, but introvert vs. extrovert is not an equally valid thing, humans are social creatures.

>>33553063
drinking alone

>>33553063
Spending nearly all of that time being a neet

There were some special things to it but overall I kind of messed up the social trajectory of my entire life

>>33553063
not investing

>>33554225
>Same, no connections at college is wild, if I could do it all again I'd be a goddamn golden retriever.
why?

>>33553918
no its not.
even though i was in some religious club it was a lot of fun for me.

I think it wouldve been better if I had just joined a frat. Idk. Maybe you're right. I liked hanging out with my friends (male). I feel like a frat would be focused on sex and women a lot and other degeneracy that i wouldnt feel ok with. I wish secular people weren't so sex obsessed.

>>33553063
Avoided anything close to a committed relationship
Did not become a famous rock star (seriously several people I hung out with did you would never believe me if I said some of their names)
Did not get any useful gainful degree or career
& going full gooner i'll say I never had a threesome+ I was close but never all the way.

>>33553063
Don't smoke, and go out of your way to try to have sex with as much girls as you can. Fitmaxx and fashionmaxx or something

>>33553240
>moving far away
This is the one that came to mind. I never met friends as close as my high school friends and I’m 33. Could not even get one to visit me when I lived in a coastal city with spare bedroom and walkability to downtown. Apparently they all still hangout in the small town we went to school at. Wouldn’t trade my traveling experience for anything but having some friends there to share the experiences with would have been cool…

>>33555350
>acquire VD and risk getting babytrapped
Nigger-tier advice

Picked a career I didn't like, spent too long inbetween jobs, spent too long pining after a friend that wasn't interested, lots of unnecessary self-hatred.
It all turned-out fine eventually though. I'm happy where I am now.
I also played a lot of video games and looked at a lot of porn, but I think that was fine. Not like I was going to do anything important with that time, and I maintained a good social life. If you feel like you're a shut-in hermit then you need to find an activity that gets you outside though.

>>33553897
Most of this is true.

If you’re an introvert in college do ANYTHING to put yourself out there. Join clubs for anything you have interest in. Rush a fraternity even if it’s a bottom house. Once you lose the social structure of school growing up it’s very easy and fast to go from “introvert with a few good friends and some acquaintances” to complete fucking isolated shut in

Believing that in college or university I'd find the love of my life. Reality, I get blocked and rejected from knowing a woman further. At most I just had the joy of a fake relationship or friendship, and then it turned out she had a boyfriend.

>>33553063
Not going to college.
Even getting a degree form a community college is better than nothing.

Create an account on fidelity/charles schwab/robinhood to start investing. Put as much money you can afford into index funds and big tech like nvidia. Investing as early as possible is always a good idea. Also, create a high rate savings bank account to keep your money in.

It sounds cliche but ask that cute girl out. When you’re in your 30s it gets harder to find good women.

>>33555419
This is true. I'm 28, and most of the people that I could consider friends (not counting internet friends) are highschool friends, friends of those highschool friends, and the friends, romantic partners, and current/former roommates of the friends of those highschool friends. I've even started hanging-out with my sister's boyfriend.

Ironically I don't have any friends from the college that I went to, but the point is that friends multiply themselves. It'll go faster if you host things and invite people that you've only met once or twice.

>>33553063
Sitting on my ass, being anxious and perfectionistic. Playing too many video games, watching too much tv/youtube.

I had a good amount of money in my early 20s I lived rent-free with my parents, and they also paid for my college, so I had the income of a full-time job but no serious expenses) and I just left it sitting in my chequeing account. If I just put it into mutual funds in a savings account I'd be thousands of dollars richer.

>>33553913
Wise words. Shame and pride are both an excess of ego. To be humble and good you have to learn to respect both yourself and others.

Will say I am not khhv, but I still am heavily disappointed every day of my life I couldn't have the relationship my grandfather had with my grandmother. The idea of being the practical street smart guy up north in a city going down south to date a southern girl pleased me for a long time. It was why I liked the Journey song Don't Stop Believin', but when I faced the reality that it didn't came true because I make women feel like whores for dating me because I'm autistic, it never happened, so I ended up hating that song and wishing it never existed.

>>33555122
I am right. There is nothing fun or pleasant about undergrad life for a normal, intellectual, well adjusted male.
Modern college campuses are over socialized, hyper feminine environments where only sociopaths and total normies can thrive.
If you are a true elite intellectual young male you will not enjoy undergrad life.

>>33553063
Going to 4chan.

>>33553063
Advice for OP:
Do not associate with trannies, nonbinaries, or liberals if at all possible.
Literally keep them as far away from you as you can.
These people are actual fucking psychopaths and will try to destroy you.

>>33553063
>Not getting out of my comfort zone more
>Not being more social
>Not exercising sooner
>Not being wiser with my money

- Not moving out soon enough, because toxic family members don't change. They get worse with age. Then again it was hard af to get a job when my parents were withholding my documents.

- Majoring in something my parents want rather than what I want. They paid for school so I had no choice. Felted unmotivated and burnt out easily. GPA was 2.6. Eventually I dropped out because I ran out of attempts to retry organic chemisty 2. Best I could do was a C- and that still wasn't high enough for med school.

- Letting my parents isolate me by their constant policing on who I'm allowed to socialize with. Turns out in the real world social skills are almost important as hard skills. Plus you have to learn how to deal with people of all sorts of backgrounds.

- If you ever plan on working a government job, law enforcement, or anything that requires obtaining a security clearance, avoid drugs and binge drinking, or cut them out early. I'd also recommend avoid getting into debt or gambling since those things can affect security clearance.

>>33554078
Bulgaria or Romania?
I'm from one of those. I thought college life would be better, but maybe studying abroad wasn't necessarily worse.

>>33553063
being less of a horndog and focusing more on finding a good girl

>>33555892
being a horndog was the mistake i mean

>>33553063
not killing myself right then and there

>>33553063
Don't touch Finasteride or SSRIs. Poisonous drugs.

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>>33553088
How can you survive without a phone in the modern world though?

Venerable elders, I'm 25, and I spent two years applying for grad school in a more major european country (didn't get in, but got better). Overthinking 'is this what I want to do/ is this a dead end/ what do I upskill' has left me in the same spot i started and burnt out. When do you know it's time to quit and get more 'realistic goals'?

>>33556552
why?

>>33553063
Not getting out there
Until 23-24 you still have youth as an excuse for retardation. You can risk it and lose it and it won't really matter.

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>got high on DPH too many times (zero times is how many you should aim for) and permanently lowered my IQ and functioning ability
>wasted my 4 years in college by never going out trying to get girls nor abusing the free internship/networking shit every uni provides
>joined the military (didn't work out, only advise it if you swear on your own life kurt cobain style that you will not quit and will ignore any and all mental health issues)
>quit the one office job I ever landed too soon because they expected me to do some genius shit (shoulda found a way, asserted myself incapable, or told them to switch my position or something)
>tried a BUNCH of low-paying no resume required shit ass jobs (don't entirely regret, but looks terrible on resume because you WILL quit in first month unless you're fucking steadfast sisyphus)
>sold the car my parents bought for me and wasted too much money on a worse shitbox
>all the times I didn't FORCE myself to FORCE a conversation with a girl I saw regularly just for circumstances to change such that one day suddenly I never see her ever again
>all the apartment living I've done (living in a trailer is better, at least no one is stomping on top of you or yelling next to your wall/window)
>all the money I've wasted surface-level on random hobbies and vidya and shit (could've just gone all-in on 1-3 hobbies and gotten nice expensive shit)
>letting go of / slowly stopping attending fun groups (incl. vidya groups)
>religious shit (surfing religions is good for finding a friend group [but then you can't surf anymore], but reading about any of them [except for reading critical scholarship which is sometimes mildly interesting but still silly] and getting invested is a waste of time)
>political shit (reiterate the above, unless you're going to make money from it, which I guess also applies to religion)
>not spending more time with people who were on their way out of life and will never see again
brain empty now

Know the symptoms of BPD, read some stories from people who've dated people with BPD so you can spot it.
If you meet someone that seems like they have it run away immediately. It is not worth it.

>>33560311
Good post

Smoking weed, binge drinking alcohol, and playing video games for 10 hours a day.
I should have made more friends in uni.

>>33553063
Illegal doesn’t mean impossible wrdnt2

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As with anyone I have a lot of fuck ups. But remember, it's how you learn? The problem isn't if you've made a bad action. The problem is if you can't address that and change yourself to be better next time. Sadly, a lot of people aren't willing to forgive mistakes. But I like to be the change I want to see in the world.

>>33553063
Smoking too much weed and playing too many video games. I spent a lot of time hanging out with friends as well which was great but they were all dudes. Talk to girls, be willing to fail and embarrass yourself. I'm not sure what I was so fucking afraid of. I deeply regret not what I did but what I didn't do.

>>33553063
Giving a shit about society

>>33553063
Don't do drugs/alcohol.
Don't hang out with degenerates.
Don't work too hard, the company doesn't give a fuck about you even if you are the best worker they have.
Don't trust anyone outside your family, your best friend could be the devil.
Life gets worse as you age, try to stay positive even in the dark moments.

>>33553063
I was going to say doing a useless degree, but now the degrees that were good in my day are all useless in your day.

Learn how stocks and shares trading works. Then learn a trade or join the army. Within a few years you'll have enough experience to work anywhere you want and with consistent income, which you can later boost to 6 figures easily. If you join the army, choose the IT branch.

Start gymming now and learn proper form before you do any heavy weights.

>>33564975
Which degree you define as useless now that once weren’t?

>>33565307
Anything IT other than level 1 or 2 helpdesk (don't do level 1 or 2 helpdesk).

>>33565346
What about computer science?

>>33565364
That's IT.

Don't do it. You'll never find a job as you compete for every single entry level job with thousands of... Well... You know.

Anyway, do a degree that's in demand and that are keen to get people at the entry level.

>>33565384
Like?

>>33565473
Trades or do IT in the army.

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>>33553063
Doing things only because other, usually older people expected it of me.

I spent the better part of my 18-22 years focusing on being a good student, a good son, and a good boyfriend only to discover that the "adult world" doesn't give a shit about those things. You're raised to believe that the hero always gets the girl, that goodness is always appreciated, and hard work leads to success. That just isn't true.

I spent the majority of age 22-32 failing to get anywhere because following the advice of Boomers meant I had zero preparation for the real world.

My two cents is you need to live your life according to your own plan and your own desires. Trying to live up to the expectations of other people isn't a path for happiness or success.

>>33556603
please tell me you're being sarcastic

>>33555591
You sound exactly like me. I’m even 28 as well

Living

>>33553063
Not strarting my education sooner, started at like 22 to get my GED and then to community college after that.
Now I'm the old guy in some classes.

I worked 3rd shift at a deadend job that offered 0 actual benefits. I lost the entirety of my early 20's doing nothing but making minimum wage and not even having a social life to show for it. Things improved when I got out and landed an office position, but the damage was already done.

>>33553063
Learn to write

>>33553240
Shit advice. You won't ever get on a date with a woman if you're not extremely wealthy and famous.

>Very few recruiters give a flying fuck about your gpa

Literally that's the only thing they care about. Banks screen your resume for a 3.95 GPA

>>33566557
Not op, but what if you never had a plan? I kinda don't know what i want out of life cause i honestly never really developed much sense of self, was always just doing what others wanted so they'd leave me alone. I also thought i'd be dead already but that's a different thing altogether.

>>33553063
Only 22, but I have some fresh regrets that might be beneficial to hear about.

Maybe my biggest is letting my ego and unyielding loyalty to my beliefs blind me to opportunities to make connections and be a person. I believed I should be stoic and mysterious, so didn’t start or try to carry conversations: I have no friends or gf and all of my emotions feel distant now. I thought any and all sex/dating without full intention of marriage was whoring yourself out: I missed out on intimacy and relationships in my formative years. I thought you could only smile and be happy once you’ve achieved all your goals perfectly: I can’t look in the mirror without feeling shame. Point is, choose value and beliefs that are healthy – anything that encodes strong work ethic that also keeps you happy, health, gives you identity, and lets you be proud of yourself.

Also, take care of your mental health. Toughing it out or thinking it will get better once the situation changes just lets it get worse. Mental health problems are very insidious – you might think they’re small, but they invade all aspects of your life and it may be a long time before you realize how bad they’ve fucked you. I let my previous regret stop me from getting help (believed mental health issues were just an excuse for not being good enough), but I’m going to start seeing a psychologist soon hope that works out.

>>33553240
>Moving far away
Did that one how do you try to make the best of it? Genuinely don’t know how I’m supposed to meet people outside of work

>>33553063
Don’t take ssris. I’d you’re dead set on antidepressants take Wellbutrin however still avoid antidepressants. You’d be better off working out or doing something productive to take your mind off things

>>33553063
>flunking college
>not learning how to say "No" firmly and getting dragged into 100s of stupid things against my will for that
>trusting people after they betrayed me 10s of times
>bottling up everything and exploding once it all piles up too high
>interacting in any way shape or form with evil and selfish people, life got better immediately the moment i started to physically ghost them and threaten them whenever they force an interaction
>arguing on 4chan
>arguing online at all
>online
>social media

>>33567185
>Maybe my biggest is letting my ego and unyielding loyalty to my beliefs blind me to opportunities to make connections and be a person. I believed I should be stoic and mysterious, so didn’t start or try to carry conversations: I have no friends or gf and all of my emotions feel distant now. I thought any and all sex/dating without full intention of marriage was whoring yourself out: I missed out on intimacy and relationships in my formative years.

Sage advice. Do not assume you know better than everyone and do not assume you will or won't enjoy something. I was incredibly stubborn and screwed myself out of many opportunities because of that. Take chances and explore, if you hate it you hate it but you might actually enjoy it. And when it comes to women like that anon said don't act like every girl has to be the one. Just have fun. It makes you a more complete and well rounded individual.

Also to that anon, you're 22 my guy. It is incredibly far from over. Stop cucking yourself and get out there. Trust me when I say just because you've missed out this far does not mean it isn't still possible. Being happy isn't some secret club you lose access to after some arbitrary age.

>>33553063
>don't take dating advice from women; they're not evil and they're not dumb, but men and women experience dating fundamentally differently
>women are great for advice if you have someone you just started dating though
>tinder/bumble/etc is a waste of time unless you're notably attractive
>if you want to have a lot of sex, do these three things: a) lift weights b) dress well/groom well c) be able to hold a conversation about something that doesn't boil down to "here's the things I like to consoom at my screen"
>invest in index funds. "what index fund?" it doesn't matter. pick one and put money into it every month. this is more important than you can understand right now. "no I get it, important to save for-" if you knew how important it was I wouldn't have to tell you
>don't get memed into political faggotry you picked up on 4chan, just makes you look like an idiot
>reading is the skeleton key that unlocks all doors. it really is. go hang out on /lit/ for a bit and get some recommendations
>contrary to 4chan opinion, blacks and trannies really do have it bad in the united states and 99% of them just want to live their lives, treat them as such

>>33553789
Going straight to university would probably have made you get a lot of loans

>>33563109
This desu

>>33553063
invest time in a hobby that doesnt involve consuming something
i wish i had the time now to actually git gud at guitar, or sew patches on my clothes, or 3d animate
looking back i spent too much time watching or rewatching shit shows or movies

Don't do drugs kid, i mean it

if you're going to college, pick any of these: medicine, law, accounting, nursing (in order of effort you need to get the diploma)
i went STEM and it never paid off the way i thought it would. other friends went computer science and telling me nightmares after being laid off.
basically job market ebbs and flows too much. the four i mentioned at the beginning will guarantee you a living for the rest of your life.

>>33553063
Take care of your body, especially your teeth and gums. As a kid, you seem to be more durable to health issues, but as you grow older,bit becomes more and more easy for things to fuck up. I went from a healthy youth to having fucked gums and heart issues.

>>33553063
It's kind of a long story, but never let your family or friends know how you're doing financially. And do not assume that just because they're your friends/family they want or know what's best for you. If you're among toxic people, leave asap. And don't make major, life-altering decisions impulsively or under stress. Always do a risk-reward analysis when making important decisions.

Quick story explaining the above: My dad died, and my impoverished family then began to financially harass me (when I was 23) including older sister and brother in law who lived in the house and refused to work. I told them about my crypo investments, and they began to get really agitated with me, literally trying to calculate how much money I have and threatening me with homelessness unless I buy them a house and cars. I don't know what was going through my mind in all of this, but I was so incredibly stressed that I opened up a massive short (bet down) on the crypto market with everything I had, so all the gains that my family though I had became losses. I did this under immense stress and agitation, not thinking of what I was doing.

>>33556552
dont listen to him, i wish i started fin earlier instead of listening to poltards

>>33564924
>Life gets worse as you age
Can't relate

>>33566557
>I spent the better part of my 18-22 years focusing on being a good student, a good son, and a good boyfriend only to discover that the "adult world" doesn't give a shit about those things.
I realized this at like 15 lol

>>33569125
>>33566557
Except all the real world cares about is if you're a good student and good boyfriend.

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>>33553063
>pissing my money up the wall.
>Becoming addicted to alcohol
>Eating like shit
>Not appreciating my family. All my grandparents were dead by the time I was 25 and I never really thought about it until they were dead.
>Mistaking infatuation for love.
>Always looking to the future and saying "as soon as X is right my life will be great" instead of doing what I can right now.
there’s a shit load of things.

>not realising I was depressed
>not realising I had anxiety and some kind of social aversion due to trauma
>thinking I have a clear self-image of myself and my weaknesses (it was clearer than most, but far from clear)
>not getting support and accommodations or my depression at university
>taking too long to realise that all my time estimates for getting work done must be multiplied fivefold in order for me to do things on time
>not managing to get more money somehow so that I could feed myself properly (kind of impossible for me)
>failing to muster the willpower to pursue my one true goal with consistency
>thinking that I can control my social outcomes with my own effort (in any relationship with two people, everything is 50/50)
>thinking that any difficulty can be overcome with a sufficiently intelligent plan
>thinking that catastrophic things like severe illness only happen to other people and would never happen to me or my family and friends
>getting drawn into other people's emotions too easily
>not taking care of my own emotions
>repeatedly indulging negative thoughts (this makes the negative thoughts stronger and stronger the more you do it)

>>33553063
In my case i don't consider anything i did a mistake. I am too unwell to do anything useful.
You should have fun, get that degree or skill if you can. If not, that's ok too. Just post here until you die.
You're here forever in any case.

>>33570480
I see anime isnt on this list, Figures

>>33574804
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>Don't pick up nicotine.
It's impossible to quit, simple as that. Especially now with vapes and pouches, it feels like there aren't as many risks, but still, don't do it, you don't need it.
>Go out with a lot of different girls.
Seriously man, get out there while you're young and meet some girls. Don't worry about commitment or finding a tradwife, just get some experience and have fun, that way you'll know how to really treat a woman when the right one comes along.
>Start investing.
Don't be tempted by crypto, that shit is done. Learn about investing and treat it like a hobby for the next few years, then start building a portfolio.
>Get a practical job.
When I was about your age, I worked at a small hardware store. Lots of tradesman would come in and share advice. NowbI can do all of my own handiwork. You'll learn a lot of valuable life skills and build a good network by working in a place like that and having a positive attitude.
>Get in good shape.
Shocker, I know, but it only gets harder from here to take care of yourself. The shape you're in now will impact your health throughout your entire life.

>>33553063
Honestly, hesitating too much. I wish I'd done what I ended up doing faster, which was usually the first thing I thought of anyway.

>>33553063
More then what this site will allow to be posted.
But the main two things are Not saving enough money, and Not working the proper jobs that would have kept me from being where I at now. and a bonus one that just popped in my head not going for my masters.. BD is worthless now.. Get your masters..

>>33555591
>>33566765
They make us in a factory.
>>33567017
What the fuck are you on about, you think poorfags are all virgins?

>>33553740
> Wasting time on 4chan
Welp looks like you can't follow your own advice

>>33553063
Not pursuing anything to become good in.
I'm now 28 and basically just started to learn anything. Your young, don't waste 10 years doing nothing

Letting fear dominate all decisions

>>33568611
>sew patches on my clothes
are you retarded anon? you can still do that it takes like 5 min

>>33553240
>it's not a point of pride to have wasted hundreds of thousands of hours in a game that could be deleted tomorrow
it's because it could be deleted tomorrow that you have to grind it
who are you to say these things anyways? an hippy?

>>33553063
I have too many, the past it's the past. But mostly, alcohol.

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>>33553063
Wish I had realized at least 10 years earlier that I shouldn't trust my own narcissist parents
I'd seen them disassociate too many times in the past when I spoke to them, but I just kept ignoring it to my detriment
Most imortant thing is to realize is that literally no one is going to lift a finger to help you personally in life unless you're useful
You can be a fat greasy coombrained loser and yet be surrounded by people who will never see an issue with how you live, but that's not a good thing at all
People who don't outright hate you yet are willing to point out your flaws are a fucking godsend
people who do dislike you but actually communicate why, are also actually better than you'd think
Worst are those "polite" people who sabotage you with every word they say to you, and you only realize later
I'm still working on how to trust anyone after that

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>>33553063
idk if you're artistically inclined, but not really working on any artistic skills was a mistake for me. When I was 19 I lamented my lack of skills but didn't do anything about it, now I'm 24 and having the same feelings. If I started at 19 I'd have 5 years of experience and wouldn't be whining as much. Also,
>not building any discipline in myself
>not going anywhere on my own
>not making any friends not connected to the one guy I've known since 2nd grade
>not standing up for myself/not learning to say no

Save $1k for emergencies
Then save 1 year's expenses. So for me that's about $30k
After that, invest 15 to 30% of what you have as discretionary cash once you've paid the bills and taxes (so if you make 10k, 4k goes to bills, then your discretionary cash is 6k. So take 15 to 30% of the 6k and invest it)

Do that for 10 to 20 years and you'll be a millionaire. I'm not exaggerating or joking. Wish I had done this sooner

>>33577268

yeah that's a big one. But also you could pursue the wrong thing. Like all those ppl with degrees getting replaced by AI. How could they have known tho?

>>33553063
Direct everything you do. Take responsibility for everything you're a part of. Don't rely or be swayed by people that are charming or good at rhetoric - always evaluate properly. Small changes accumulate into large progresses(or regresses) - these can also create a feedback loop. Problems are solvable with thought and effort. Don't be afraid of just doing things, it's probably okay. You're on your own. It's okay to fuck up.

>>33575786
>Don't be tempted by crypto, that shit is done
how is it "done?" btc has gone from $75k=>$105k just in my just recent buy in April.

i like my vtsax just fine but it's not giving growth like btc dip and holds do

>>33555419
I rushed a bottom-tier house and it made my life a living hell. Before I dropped I was embarrassed to even tell people (especially girls) what fraternity I was in.

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>>33554058
"hanging off my arm" sounds morbid and like you were threatening her. lool imagine a stranger coming to you in a closed space (bus) and saying he wants to see you hanging off his arm

>>33553063
you will have regrets later no matter what you do now.

>>33553063
not having read shittons of books about psychology

I listened to people.
I also stopped playing cookie clicker and lost out on years of baking cookies.

>>33553063
This is, by far, the best thread posted on /adv/ in 2025.

>>33553063
accepting my parents' dysfunctional behavior and sadistic abuse because they were simply my parents. Wouldn't have tolerated that shit from anyone else not even for two minutes. Estrangement was the right choice but that's really best as a last resort. Low contact if that's how it is for you, but honestly, you don't have to be around toxic family and don't give into the familial pressure others place on you. It'll only feed your misery. Family can suck so bad whether it's your parents or that one shitty aunt or whoever.

Getting too much education/staying in academia too long and consequently staying in lower paying job, prolonging the adolescence phase of life by like 10 unnecessary years
Trusting my boss because he was charming
Not taking risks and investing aggressively
Not focusing on money and women instead of gay hobbies like rock climbing

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- Blackpill is a theory invented by catastrophizing basement-dwelling autists, that vastly distorts the reality of romantic relationships between a man and a woman. The reality of dating is, in many ways, less gruesome than many men on the Internet would lead you to believe. Looks do matter, that's true, but being a catastrophizing basement-dwelling autist is the real blackpill.

- If a woman rejects you, don't succumb into an 8-month long depression filled with booze, Doritos and PUBG, or whatever. She isn't the one for you, so just take a lesson, if there is any, and move on as fast as possible.

- As you age, you'll lose bone mass and your arteries will accumulate atherosclerotic plaques. These are mostly irreversible processes. To protect bones, commit to resistance training and make sure there is enough protein and calcium in your diet (but be wary of calcium supplements, because they might adversely affect the heart). For cardiovascular health, make sure to maintain low levels of LDL and ApoB: avoid saturated fats and unfiltered coffee, eat soluble fiber, lose excess fat if you need to, etc.

>>33553063
>dropped out of college
>starting drinking and smoking
>didn't work very much
That's pretty much it. Stay in school, stay sober and work and you'll be fine. EZ you got this OP.