if either of you are actively trying to leave your respective country, and would be fine to move to the other with no concern of breaking your roots or getting homesick, then there is merit to it

if you're both comfortable in your country and you just happen to like eachother, no it's probably not worth it because at some point one of you will have to make a concession and move countries

>>33581168
Yeah, except there's one big flaw in your master plan, buddy. The government of the other country ain't just gonna allow your foreign ass to just move in it all freely neely.

>>33581218
Most countries provide visas through marriage.

>>33581292
And you think that's easy? lmao

>>33581325
They request a decent amount of money for you to prove you can stay, its all

>>33580802
yeah it's pointless you stay in india

>>33580802
Not if you're grown and seriously, actively planning a future together an working out all the details and logistics of doing so.

Oh?

>>33580802
If you are truly in love and one of you is willing to move (even if it's not immediate) then yeah. If you don't have very strong feelings tho, you're better off looking around closer to home.

>>33580802
I know a couple who lived in different continents and started as what used to be called "pen-pals." They recently celebrated their 50th anniversary.

the thing about fuckers like you that ask these questions is you fail to realize that when someone wants something they find a way. It is obvious you are not so into them if you’re not scratching the ends of the earth to be with them or vice versa —them with you. Want to know how I know? go on google, youtube or any source and search long distance love story or some shit ffs. Some shit like “closing distance with ldr”

there’s many success stories of international couples who make it. Before the internet people did pen paling. Fucking point is if you want something you find a fucking way.

The measure of “is it worth it” HIGHLY depends on how much the fuck does that person you want to date means to you. Is this a once in a lifetime I will regret not being with them situation? or is it a “forget the fuck and move on doesnt matter”

only you know if the person you want to date is worth the hassle

>>33581352
>>33587733
Good luck immigrating to another country. America is fucking deporting people left right and center. USCIS is highly suspicious of marriage fraud and makes you prove your case like as if you're defending yourself from murder charges. I suspect it's the same in other countries.

>>33580802
Immigration issues aside, I am kind of in a similar situation right now.

And it is like >>33581168 says, a ld relationship is always going to have an underlying conflict in who gives up on family, friends and perhaps work first and moves.

>>33587733
While this is nice and romantic it's rarely that black and white in reality. You can love someone a lot while at the same time not seeing yourself moving away from everything else you know, which is a pretty distressing place to be in.

Tl;dr op: set expectations pretty early on so you don't end up in a lot of emotional pain on both sides and wasting each other's precious time.

Personally looking back? Casual fwb relationship with someone abroad? Hell yeah. Serious ld relationship? Nope.

>>33580802
>Is it pointless to "date" someone you met online that is in another country?
Yes.

You already knew that though.

>>33587958
>You already knew that though.
No I didn't, you big doodoo head.

>>33587967
You're telling me you thought it was a good idea?

>>33587982
Well, I'm retarded, so like... yeah.

>>33580802
An ex did, go for it. Im not sure if theyre still together or not. Either way, try?

eh I think it’s possible. The adventurous partner is the one who has to do the move though. If one of you has lived abroad before or grew up moving a lot then propose to them the idea of going to you.

>>33580802
I did it between Israel and Netherlands with my ex of 5 years and I'm a citizen now and still living here, so it's possible. But every country has it's own rules, it's own requirements, it's own timetables.

The secret is willingness. If your gf loves you a lot a lot a lot and is willing to make major life changes just to be with you - then it's possible. My gf had to get a permanent contract and work for about 6 months straight to prove that she can sponsor me financially. But she didn't actually have to prove anything after that. So the only requirement was that. After we did that the rest was.... A lot of tests for me. A lot of hassle, a lot of money, a lot of beurocracy with applications and proving that we're actually a real genuine couple. But it happened and here we are.

>>33580802
One of my close friends ended up marrying their healslut from an mmo they played. They had to go through the process of migrating countries for the wedding and such.
It worked out. Sorta. It was expensive and time consuming to get the paperwork sorted out. They're going eleven years strong, now, though, so it is possible. Do be careful though, romance scams are a dime a dozen and the age old joke of GIRLs being Guys In Real Life does still hold true for the most part.

>>33580802
my parents did something like this. They met in the 80s while traveling. Then spent 5 years as penpals and visiting eachother. For reference my father is from Argentina and my mother from Finland. Everyone told them it wouldn’t work to forget about it. They persisted through… my father describes as “it had to be her” and my mother as “i knew deep down it was him”. After my father stayed in Finland for a month, and my mom then went to Argentina for the holidays they decided to get married in Argentina. Lived there a year and then moved to Finland. They say the secret is the partner that comes from a stricter immigration law country has to be open to moving to the easier country to immigrate. If you think about raising a family you have to think where it would be best.. in terms of safety social net, etc.

OP only do this if it’s someone you imagine having children with. Why? making and having children with someone is the ultimate form of love since you create new humans with your dna. And really think “if I had children where would we live and how would we raise them”

if it’s someone you would never form a family with then forget about it