>just put yourself out there bro>awkward silence when i talk, purposefully excluded (even in public groups, conveniently they're "too full" to let me join)>nobody calls back>nobody accepts my game invites for Fortnite or Warzoneso I assume this advice is supposed to work for normalfags right? Fuck society
>>33589713get away from current circle, find new circles.New people treat you differently than current people.I'll give you an example:I'm 29, but the age doesn't matter that much, It's more my outwardly look on life - I've always been a calm guy that doesn't like bullshit and drama around, including bullies and selfish people.I'm going back to uni on Tuesday, and people in uni range mostly from 18 to 22 y/o. Sadly a lot of those people are really childish and bully-ish, or atleast selfish and excluding. Therefore, I have other circles where I invested my time into. Namely I attend 2 dance classes and a choir. Soon I'll add some more things to attend to. On the weekend I find and go to a social, hiking, or board game event, depending on what I feel like that week.Those people respect me, the people at school - don't. Little children suck. Just put that circle that is neglecting you on a low flame, maybe even detach from them completely. They don't deserve your time and they don't deserve you. Invest into new and other people. Keep people who respect you around, and start picking and choosing your friends basically.
>>33589713> awkward silence when i talkYou probably said something awkward or offensive.
>>33590195If you have to play mind-games and talk a specific way just to get along with people, they can go fuck themselves.
>>33589755Yay!!! That's so real!! Not only having a wider range of social circles to tap into makes u less lonely but you also get to experience and speak with much more people with different personalities, so thay youll get better at socializing natirally
>>33589713>>just put yourself out there brothat advice only works for people who are just shy or closed off but know how to socialize and have a normal conversation. if you don't know or have little experience socializing that advice will not work. >>awkward silence when i talk, purposefully excluded (even in public groups, conveniently they're "too full" to let me join)pretty clear you need to work on your basic socialization and conversation skills if that's the reaction you get. it's you not them.
normalfags are alright.
>>33590200Those "mind games" and way of speaking is just the vetting process. It's just a test to see if you're capable of being a normal person which is an important thing to be able to do in order to function in society. Once you build more trust and rapport with someone you can start being more of your real self and it won't be misjudged. In most cases it'll make you seem even more interesting and fun to that person.
>>33589713>>nobody calls back>calling peopledon't do that, it's inconvenient and intrusive. It's not the 1980s, text people.The only times I expect phone calls is for follow-ups for job interviews, someone in the family fuckin died, or some pajeet is pretending to be the bank to steal all my money.
>>33589755>'m 29, but the age doesn't matter that much, It's more my outwardly look on life - I've always been a calm guy that doesn't like bullshit and drama around, including bullies and selfish people.But do these people hang out with you outside of the events?I was in sped school for high school. Before that, I was moved to another school district from my home district because when I was 4 my mom believed me too much when I said I was bullied so she'd unground me from my Wii. At 23, I'm severely realizing just how much I was fucking robbed, but it's not like nothing was stopping everyone from collectively shunning me for being awkward. I mean, between teachers berating me constantly and insulting my personal life, my mannerisms (I'm on the spectrum) there was also another game - a social game. Because it's a game and there's rules (status, privilege, looks) everyone starts seeming the same aside from their face. I think I knew this deep down as a kid since everyone seemed brainwashed and I wanted to be different than everyone, but it's not that simple, and I spent too much time in my own head to pay attention to learn social skills at the time. But aside from that, I'm wondering if after high school, nobody really has friends. Fuck man I just watched a series where the kid protag gets calls from his friends "hey Ryan! We're going to mcluigis tonight! Wanna come? We're outside!" And seeing that really fucking hurt. Thats something I could've had. Real people. Real experiences. Im just realizing that now, but even now talking to people I keep stumping, struggling to make sentences, and I just feel really angry at the world- at society, for letting this happen.
How does personal growth influence social interactions and relationship building during this decade?
>>33590369Thats pretty interesting where did you learn this, I would love to read the book where this is from, if it is from one.
