Tell me about your dream girl, anons. How did you let her slip away?
>>33590412I'll go firstNever really had the balls to ask her She moved away for college and eventually got married
This is less gay than gioyc i think
>>33590412She wasn't my dream girl, but the last girl I felt love for. There were a number of reasons it didn't work out (started off as an affair, my alcoholism) and by the end we genuinely didn't like each other anymore. I know enough to know it wouldn't work out if we tried again all these years later. But it was the last time I've loved.
i think in the midst of falling out with me, she's falling for her friend. it hurt to think and even imagine, but now it's just come to be. i think we've run our course anways. i feel any day now could be our last, but we're just too afraid to admit. it was a hell of a run anways.i don't regret the time i spent with her, only how. if you would know how soon it'd be, you'd think to hold her hand just a little longer next time.
my dream girl is the blue-eyed blonde nurse from the mental hospital but how? it's impossible
>>33590412I didn't have enough money that would entice her to be controlled by me.
>>33590412I have twothe one I got along the best, we were a couple for years, I just had a mental breakdown during the pandemic and she started neglecting our LDR. We couldn't visit each other during the pandemic and that worsened thingsthe second one was a couple days ago. She's the prettiest girl I've dated, literally looked like a movie star, I never thought I'd get someone that looks like her to pay attention to mebut... 1. she has a bf. They were fighting when we met so everything was so good when we started dating, and then it went down the drain.2. we had a huge age gap and she was convinced her mom was going to kick me out if I ever appeared in her house3. things just turned into a friendship as the days went by, I watched in real time her desire for me the first weeks into kissing me with tenderness and proximity but 0 lust as the days went byfinally she told me we should stay friends a couple days ago. I hadn't feel such a strong crush on anyone in years, I'm feeling so down and sad.yes I know the second one is a bit more shallow when I describe her like that but we had many things in common, the time we spent together we did stuff we both liked.
at the age of 30 I finally became the person I wanted to be in my twenties, but now I'm too old to be 'this person'. It's not fair. I'm happy about who I am but I cannot deny that I am essentially a loser compared to all my other peers at this age.
>>33590945Who's the person you wanted to be in your twenties? Partying and drinking?
>>33590945The best laid of plans. 'fraid so.
I'm not unbeatable. Bad things could happen. I worry. I've made mistakes that could ruin me later as well. Is life an inevitable tragedy, I wonder. That's why I try to make it a comedy all the time. Woah. I'm literally The Joker.
>>33590412Simply wasn't interested in dating at the time (this was high school). She was>A childhood friend>Bit of a tomboy>Taller than me>Cute>She asked me outTruth be told, I don't think about her often, nor do I think it would've lasted for the ages. But at least I might've known what it's like to be desired by someone. Maybe I died at some point and my continued existence is simply one long stretch of hell.
It was a miscommunication and we fell apart. Here's past but we still longed for each other. I tried reaching out but she had put up walls. At some point she reached out to me told me she still love me. She flew to my place. We started dating again and now we're married. It all worked out.
>>33590412I'm going to be single for my entire life
>>33591722It's kinda nice
>>33591745no its not its awfulim never going to have offspring and im going to be alone forever
>>33591722The future will suck anon. The future will suck because your genes won't be there.People will be wondering why my progeny will be so bitter. It's because yours won't be there.What can I do for you right now to help? Be honest. I'm Falstaffian, but I know more than most. What can I do to stop you from being single for your entire life?
>>33591757Tell me how to get a gf
>>33591747I like it honestly. Just make friends o algo.
>>33591763What's your situation? Country, city?
I was engaged with a girl but she figured out who I was and all my lies, she left me and got back together with the love of her life. Karma fucking sucks and I hate how everything is against me now. I'm going to be in physical and mental pain in the rest of my life.
>>33591769USA. I'm a full time student. It feels like I am speed running life. I spent time with my dad today and he told me that I am too negative and he's right, I can't see the good in things, I'm very pessimistic and I'm not hopeful. I don't even bother with women because what am I supposed to do? Go up to random women and strike a conversation?
>>33591779impending wall of text, stand by
>>33591779Your ability to be happy with a woman is contingent upon your ability to accept one truth:Women are very similar to children. They expect things from you. They expect things from you before you meet them. For you to not provide when they expect it, it's insulting to them. I hope you can grasp that. How bad is that? As bad as you might feel playing little league and not seeing your folks there when you expected to. I hope you can grasp that.Now, the next thing is that you need to provide. How can you tell if you are doing a good job at that? If you get a lady, and she starts asking questions you already fucked up. They shouldn't think too much nor talk too much. You need to keep them entertained constantly. It may seem like a lot of work, but to have a kid (I have a son) is FUCKING FANTASTIC. When he got suspended in Kindergarten and we home schooled him, I noticed that I had less parent teacher conferences. Blue haired liberals are the antithesis to children. That's important. Dating material or teacher material. Never forget that.With women...
>>33591826well im not going to ever get that because women and I seem incompatibleI am living in an entirely different world than them
I’m gonna cry again for myself that I had to run away from the girl I love because she became obsessed with religion
>>33591826Find a sweet young lady who doesn't talk or think too much who can be wooed with money.The biggest challenge to women is to get them to stop thinking and talking. Once they do that too much, you're fucked.The object is to be like a TV show or movie on the American populace before the internet. Say nothing and make it look like something real deep is happening. keep them busy. See, that's how you stop them from thinking and talking too much AND that's how you avoid trouble.Churches are great places. Being devoted to the church if they're not crazy is a BIG PLUS. It can really help on several levels. If you have a lot of cash be sure to talk to a financial adviser about how annuities can possibly work for and protect you in a divorce. Might be a good idea to marry in a country with different divorce laws and reside in the US on a visa instead of citizenship.Like I said earlier, women are like children. Like a child might strike out at their parent, a wife might strike out at her husband. Don't make that easy for her. If you do, it could jeopardize you and your children. You can't save anyone unless you save yourself first. Understand that.
>>33591832See, you are seeking a connection. Stop doing that. You are an actor. She is the audience. What role are you playing? Whatever she shells out for. Now, picture you knocking her up, you can provide for her and the kid. That's the goal. Work backwards from there.
>>33591875but I can't find any women.I can't even meet and talk to any women>>33591886I'm playing the role I picked and I'm not changing for anyone. What am I to do
>>33591832Also, if you get the chance, try to strike close to the ovulation date. Give her the big O (this gives you a decent chance at a boy). If you go in her, get her to stay still with a pillow under her butt while you talk about something she wants to talk about.
She thought I was screaming at her when I was trying to agree with her and start a discussion.
>>33591887OK, this is going to get a little schizo. I just want you to know I'm sorry about that. I have reason to believe that you reincarnate down your own line and if not somebody else's. If you don't have a kid, you could wind up being my grandkid. Not necessarily, but it could happen. Would you really want that? If I were you, I'd put a little more effort into it. Don't be a creep, but kick the football.
>>33591910It's a shit test, don't fall for it.
>>33590412My story? Simple as hell. The girl's aro/ace.There's nothing I could do even if I was superhumanly handsome and charming, which I'm not.I know I have to move on and date other women... but it's hard mentally coping with the fact that I have to date women 1/10th as good as her. I just want to think about her and get drunk, over and over. I tried dating other girls and it didn't work, my heart just doesn't want it. Those girls don't want me either. I don't meet their standards, and they don't meet mine.I'm going to apply to grad school to hope it helps me meet some more women like her, some women worth dating, but I'm having trouble summoning the motivation. I feel old these days and I never got along with people that well, anyway. Not sure I'm going to make it.
>>33591928I can see how that could be the case as well. I feel like there's more productive ways since throwing dead bodies in a road to cause car crashes.
That and I give creepy retard vibes a lot. Women usually don't feel safe confiding in me or using me out of fear that I'll snitch on them, give a black and white opinion or action, be gullible to their perpetrator, be unaware to their vibe, be dangerously stupid, and my favorite have a childish viewpoint on the matter. Until the day happens that autistic people like myself make women feel like they can be taken seriously by them, it ain't gonna happen. In a perfect world she would be overly accomodating to where she'll have a hidden depressed life. In reality being around a guy who can't get it is depressing. One of the reasons why women go after bad boys, is they seem the most responsible practically and emotionally speaking. It really gives women the ick if you do not have common sense.
>>33591949Yeah, don't resort to throwing dead bodies in the road. That's just what they want you to do.
ah fuckMy short term charm only lasted so long. First two dates went great, probably could have banged her on the second date if I wasn't retarded. Then she saw through my awkwardness. I couldn't seize the opportunity, and it fizzled out before I could bring it back. This was last spring.
>>33591959This is exactly the make-belief garbage I was talking about before. It's really pathetic to paint this distortion in hopes that it is perceived on another. How can I look at you as anything but pathetic Colton?
>>33590412I met her on /soc/ in 2012.Beautiful, intelligent, nerdy. We had many long chats about anything and everything. Her citizenship was complicated. She came to the US legally but stole an identity of a dead girl to go to college as a US citizen. She wanted to marry me but I wanted to talk with a lawyer first. We stopped talking and it's now been almost 10 years. Haven't met anyone like her since. I keep wondering if I made the wrong choice.
>>33592251It's real to me. People just naturally don't feel comfortable around me and I have to help them recognize I'm not a murderer a million times. I essentially live the life of a villain I don't want to be. Whether you'll see it or not I'll never know.
>>33592360The distortion you paint on another person is not real. It's what you strive to create to perceive as real to hurt that person and to drive emotions of the other. It's despicable and pathetic. It's a reflection of yourself. This I can see very clearly. You are worthless, spineless, and pathetic.
>>33592375What's odd is you jumped to a conclusion.
>>33592375And that is your fear Colton. That others will see you for who you are and not like you. Well here's the truth, no one likes you because of who you are. Manipulating others and deceiving them only further reveals What a piece of shit you are. Thank God I'm almost done with you.
>>33592385I'm not jumping to a conclusion, I am seeing your action and it further shows who you are. Pathetic and spineless manipulative trash. This post >>33591959Is a LARP intended to distort and manipulate someone's emotions.That is what I judge you on. Your action.
>>33592394Who was I manipulating, and how?
And even if I was manipulating what the fuck would I get from it on a website full of overreactive anons? I don't see it. It's like robbing an abandoned building.
I'm realising that childhood trauma has left me with an impenetrable wall around myself that only a lunatic with no respect for boundaries would ever have a chance of breaking through. I'll only ever manage to be with the sort of person who would make my life worse, so I'll settle for being alone.
Fucking weirdo. Probably schizoid.
>>33592430Not you>>33592394This person accusing me of being Colton is weird.
>>33590412Spent too long stringing her along while placing our relationship too low on my priority list. Came to a point where I saw her as an inconvenience and seriously considered breaking up but didn't because I felt like I'd regret it. Treat someone like that for long enough and they start to pull away themselves. By the time I realised I was making a mistake she told me she's at peace when she's not worrying about me, and that's when I got dumped.She was a special person who I'll always have love for. I'm just not cut out for a relationship at this stage of my life.
C, I trust that she sees what you're doing as well.
>>33591770Tbh she probably lied to you too.
Yeah?
My friend went on a week long vacation to visit this girl I used to be obsessed with. The location of this visit is a country Ive wanted to visit my whole life, but havent got round to. Even though the two of them have a platonic relationship, I cant help but feell extreme feelings of envy for the trip even 6 months later. I wish I could move on from my feelings but well Im on this site so im pretty romantically hopeless. Think about her all the time but theres no chance I can get with her.
>>33595703Never say never. Could easily be one month later and we will be dating
Dream? The six months of us felt like a picturesque movie. We worked together, the chemistry was amazing. However, I found myself at my lowest point after my father passed away on New-year, along with constant battle with drink. A dying dying mother. A family in turmoil. The funeral? I had no way to pay for it. Not with the state I was in. With no other option or desperation you can say, I committed a crime by taking stuff from work, not only to pay debts, but torwards a funeral to which I couldn't afford.Naturally I got caught. The phone calls from the police, along with the constant battle with my mind. I knew I was broken. What top it off, she went to a concert, and the very next day she was quiet. Only then I reach out, to which she's responded by text that we're over. Then found out from her, and a friend that she'd slept with someone from that concert.Broken I was. To fast-track from this, I'm doing far better now. The drink? Well, it's not every day as use too, but only on Saturday. Got a better paying job and paid the debts and along the stuff I took from the last job in full to clear my name. Down right bloody work hard to fix myself and it paid off.Although, I still find it painful to hear she's still drinking heavily like we both used to. Getting black-out. Regardless what she done against me. After that concert, I've waited nearly a month for her to collect her stuff. And even then I ask, to get back together. Only to hear "I can't. I hurt you so much, I needed to better myself" Fuck sake, I was willing to forgive. Perhaps I was seeking that classic nativity comfort that we used to have.
Girl I saw at the gym for a few weeks. Blonde hair, blue eyes, Beautiful. I talked to her once, she didn't seem to mind it or me working out next to her. I haven't seen her in 4 or 5 weeks. So Idk. I thought she was new to the area and I thought I had more time to talk to her. It sucks balls, bros. Oh well, more bitches out there. Maybe I'll see her again one day. Maybe not, I'll keep doing what I'm doing.
>>335904122 girls. The first one I met in a couple of my classes in my sophomore year of college. I was insecure about the fact that I didn't have any friends at the time and that she would think it was a red flag. The second I met at a party my senior year. I didn't realize until long after the fact that she was interested in me and that she was actually really cute. By the time I tried to make a move she lost all interest. Feels like I learned valuable lessons from both experiences but also realize they were probably my best chances at meeting "the one" and now it feels like time is running out.
When we first went out, I told her that I thought she was super pretty and enjoyed talking to her about anything and everything, and that I'd like to keep going out with her without pressuring or anything. She told me she liked the idea, just that she wasn't sure where it'd go because she had bad previous experiences, but that it'd be great to keep knowing each other. Just that we should keep communication open in order to keep things clear regarding the path our relationship was going (whether friendly or otherwise). We made plans to do stuff together and talked a lot every day even if we were still just two friendly people, and I was riding that high knowing my destination wasn't even a desired point for sure.Yesterday we went out for the third time, and had the closest thing to a dinner we had before, was generally alright but I was already starting to have doubts about where were things going due to her (on-text) behavior recently.Today I got friendzoned, after she took the time to think things through and communicate how she was feeling, like we were saying after our first outing.Could be me being myself, could be her having her own reasons, maybe it just wasn't meant to be; idk, doesn't really matter I guess.Hurts like a bitch tho, can't really get used to this feel even if I try to.
>>33590412I'm an old fart and it's been a long time since I've fallen hard for this one woman I'm friends with, she knows I have a thing for her and I tried online dating to get my mind off of her but I quit OLD because it's such a waste of time, damnit I'm going to end up having to pork some fatty aren't I?
>>33590412>How did you let her slip away?by doing absolutely nothing to try to get her
I worry she's right in front of my eyes but she's told me she's not interested, so there's not really anything I can do about that.
>>33596808Her loss
>>33595899>>33596539>>33596808Colton is running a demoralization larp to emotionally manipulate. Truly pathetic
>>33598220who?
