came out of a f2f b2c sales job (mall stands, approaching strangers). My coworkers often treated me a bit like an oddball. Some liked me in spite of it, but it was clear they saw me as weird. Once we were driving to the site playing this game where we make assumptions about each other, my team leader (great guy btw) said I “Anon, you seem like the kind of person who just goes on the computer, and just nerds out." He wasn’t wrong, but it sucked that it was that obvious.Women didn’t seem to treat me that much differently, some were actually friendy, so I’m not sure if it was just certain guys being pricks. I think my appearance plays a big role though. I’m a short and South Asian guy, but so were a lot of my coworkers, I'm not very muscular, nerd neck, probably don’t project confidence. Fashion is okay, not standout, but I didn't come wearing glasses and a rick and morty tee. I’m moving for uni soon and plan to start the gym + improve posture. But how do I tone down my nerd vibe without being fake? I just don’t want people’s first impression to be “oh he’s weird.”
>how do i stop being weirdsocialise more - practice practice practice>how do i stop being a boring nerdits a delicate balance between "caring" and "not giving a fuck" - you will make hundreds of mistakes to find that balance
>>33594248Like that another anon said, socialize more. And hit the gym, there is mo situation that won't be improved by being fit
>>33594310>>33594349There's two problems with this. I don't have any issue with being a nerd,I don't mind spending my evenings reading about ZX Spectrums online or or browsing 4chan or whatever so long as normal people can't tell I'm the kind of guy who does that, or at least don't care if I am, and I doubt most people would describe me as boring, it's them thinking I'm interesting, but in an unflattering way that's troubling me. If you would like me to detail what kind of situations I found myself in the workplace you can ask me. The 2nd is that I don't know how to practice socializing, I'm not a complete shut-in and I feel like I can navigate social situations, but these kinds of group dynamics when it's just me and other 20 somethings so small talk with strangers and cashiers isn't much help. I've entertained the idea of going to the pub nearby my home if I knew my muslim parents wouldn't clock me after a few visits, or I could just go hang around whoever shows up at the mosque or whatever. Not very religious but I have just came back from a pilgrimage. Me living in a pretty sleepy town combined with me not going out to socialise means there isn't really any scene or groups I'm aware of. I know that to get better at socializing I have to socialize, and I already plan to start hitting the gym come university. Maybe it sounds like I'm making too many excuses for myself or being too standoffish but if you wouldn't mind going into detail I'd be happy to listen.
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>>33595526>islamicthere it iscant not be dull af when you're willingly oppressed
>>33594248You weren't into the rhythm of joking around and talking about sports and women that is typical (I won't use a judgmental word like "normal") guy-talk on the job. So you were a little different. Clearly they still liked you, so it was not a major handicap.University will have a large number of overlapping "communities" ranging from brainless jocks to unsocial nerds and everything else in all directions. You are in fact more likely than in the general population to find a friend group you fit comfortably into
>>33594248why is bladee so popular on 4chan?
>>33598678Because he's a creepy freak
>>33598484I hardly consider myself oppressed anon, I barely read any of my daily prayers, the pilgrimage I went on was because my dad was funding it all. You seem to have a very narrow view of Muslims. Furthermore I, or they, don't think of myself as boring, the problem is that they view me as a weirdo.>>33598523Best reply I've received so far, I noticed some of them did seem to make pervy comments about some girls, not that I cared that much, it was just standard. Nobody really talked about sports though, or maybe just not around me. I don't care for sports either. It's also a stretch to say they all liked me, a few of them were pricks, on my first training day, one of my colleagues mentioned how he flirted with women to try secure sales, and I think he thought I must have been very interested in the idea because he told me not to try that as I needed to be above a certain level of attractiveness for it to work. He was otherwise charming, and I barely saw him much after due to the nature of the work. Another was just a prick, won't go into detail, and whilst another one grew on me after some time. He clearly thought I was mentally slow. My team leader, and his stand-in when he went on holiday were cool even if they did think I was weird. >You are in fact more likely than in the general population to find a friend group you fit comfortably into.What makes you so sure of this?
>>33600775>I hardly consider myself oppressed>im not even committed to the bit>i just go where im told>He clearly thought I was mentally slowyerrrp, narrow view still fits perfectly
>>33600907I was being paid dogshit wages, so I decided going somewhere that would cost me way more a week than what I earn in the same time period was a no brainer. I quite liked visiting Makkah and Madinah.
>>33598678He was a /mu/ meme along with his mate yung lean but then people realised how good he was, all in all it's not hard to see why someone who raps about being a sad loner blew up on 4chan.
