I'm 21 years old without a plan going forward. I'd like to preface by saying I've seldom received the guidance in life to actualize the hobbies or career I want to. I've always had an interest in Martial Arts but throughout my youth my parents never signed me up because they thought it was too violent. I've only ever gotten the advice from my parents that I should start working and find a job with good benefits, almost like my ideation of college is irrelevant to them. I keep telling them I start community this month, yet they pester me constantly. The closest thing I have to guidance or a mentor is an old vet who I do yardwork with. I've gotten general life advice and wisdoms, but again, only regarding landscaping or construction work, which I'm not interested in due to the constant surgeries he's going through, I'll doubt I'd ever have the money to avoid that. I want to go to community college, and I want to follow my interests, but simultaneously, responsibility petrifies me. While I was in work, I took immense satisfaction in calling out. The only time I don't feel immense anxiety going to work is working with the old vet. I failed classes constantly for 2 years previous to this point, and once I quit my retail job, got As in the classes I took. The problem now is that I have no real guidance that I don't immediately loathe, I want to enjoy a career, but I can't invest in a career if I'm working, which my parents suggest. My days typically consist of using the computer, with minor chores or responsibilities interspersed throughout the day. I am not ready to give up the comforts, and my ability to pass classes with As and work a stable cycle with the old vet puts the idea in my head that my anxieties stem from an unrewarding path in life, I don't want to work a frivolous job where nothing I do matters and I have to interact with people, I want a career where I can excel in my natural talents, while being fulfilled. What is the best course forward?
The time will pass either way. Do something. Find a purpose or one will be assigned to you, and it will be one that you don't like.> I don't want to work a frivolous job where nothing I do matters and I have to interact with peopleToo bad, you will have to interact with people in any job unless you're a nightshift security guard or something> I can't invest in a career if I'm workingYes you can>While I was in work, I took immense satisfaction in calling out.Don't do that> I want to go to community college, and I want to follow my interests, but simultaneously, responsibility petrifies me.Just do it, the time will pass on you either waytl;dr Don't be a faggot and just do it, whatever "it" is
>>33595291> Find a purpose or one will be assigned to you, and it will be one that you don't like. I never really thought about it like that. I had the philosophy of 'do what you can to please society, and then people will leave you alone', but that's unrealistic and will only end up getting me, as you said, at a place I don't like. Thanks.
>>33595250>I'm 21 years old without a plan going forward.Step 1 is to chill out. This is probably going to annoy you, but you're insanely young. You have decades of life ahead of you. You have time.>I'd like to preface by saying I've seldom received the guidance in life to actualize the hobbies or career I want to. I've always had an interest in Martial Arts but throughout my youth my parents never signed me up because they thought it was too violent.Step 2 is to forgive the adults in your life immediately. Not for them, but for you. How big are you into TV and movies? You know that one character that always thinks they could make it big if only their parents did this, or if their teacher did that? Your life is in your hands now. Your parents were taught by their parents, who were taught by their parents, ad infinitum. You can play this game if you want, but you'll quickly realize you can't blame your parents for anything because they learned from your grandparents, etc. >I've only ever gotten the advice from my parents that I should start working and find a job with good benefits, almost like my ideation of college is irrelevant to them. Step 3 is learning empathy. Life feels better when you can understand the perspective of other people and choose to agree or disagree. Some peoplebthink higher education is a waste. However, it's possible you're going for a silly degree. Why are your parents against this?>The closest thing I have to guidance or a mentor is an old vet who I do yardwork with.Step 4 (you're going to hate this too) meet your new mentor, Mr. Fucking up. You are an adult now. This doesn't mean you can't get wisdom, but it does mean you shouldn't wait for it. Guess why your mentor is so wise? Because he was a fucking retard at your age.>I want to go to community college, and I want to follow my interests, but simultaneously, responsibility petrifies me. Step 5 is to accept that all the people you look up to and admire accepted responsibility.
>>33595250I'm not reading a wall of text. Practice paragraphing.Paragraphing is a technique that uses visual cues like a single line space or indentation to divide a text into manageable chunks that each focus on a single idea or topic, improving readability and comprehension for the reader.
>>33595893How about you yank out all those sticks up your ass and save us the chagpt ass messages?
