How do I become more confident so I can get over my anxiety and insecurities?
Stop trying to be cool and be yourself. Meme culture ain't worth it if all it does is make you feel worse about yourself when you be yourself.
>>33597461My problem isn't that I try to hard to be cool but that I'm scared to do things and I'm always feeling bad about myself
>>33597452Socrates was ridiculed by Aristophanes in his comedies. Van Gogh considered himself a failure among his peers. Jesus was mocked even during his execution. Kafka saw himself as a horrid man with nothing worthy of saving. Dostoevsky’s life was relatively succesful considering how unfavorable were his odds during his life.You can be ridiculed in some fields yet still achieve something decent or notable in others, it depends on what frame you'll use to judge yourself:Comparing yourself to others in general? You’ll likely fall short in some, if not most areas, especially if you're not doing well and you'll know what i'm talking about.Comparing yourself to others in the same field you want to develop in? That might inspire healthy competition as long as you don't stir envyComparing yourself to people who grew up in similar conditions? That would be a "fair" until we consider how lucky some get in their life, or tragedically unlucky.And keep in mind, anyone can be clowned, if there’s a bitter enough brain thinking hard enough about something to call you out
>>33597452I was in crippling anxiety and now people find me really confident and lively . It's a matter or world view and small stuff .Strangers don't care about you and the people good for your life won't go if you act true to yourself .You might as well have fun .start with small stuff like smiling to car drivers letting you pass with the security of a window and the obligation to move , it's something easy and people often smile back , if they don't , tell yourself that they are in a bad mood or that they are assholes .When it becomes a habit , push the difficulty up , like smiling to cashiers and restaurant staff or saying hello to bypassers .with a good enough difficulty ladder it will be easy to flirt with girls in no time .If you want hard mod , desguise yourself stupidly in public . It really show how not important the view of other is .Also go to concert and go to the dance zone , especially rock , punk or metal . Nobody care if you look silly , most people will find your freedom refreshing and you will feel like a shounen hero inspiring others .But more importantly be true to yourself and trully acept yourself , everybody have insecurities and things that their ashamed of but every body is so caught in the tangle of their minds nobody cares about yours like you do . A good road to selflove is to practice mindfullness , learn some philosophy (especially taoism) , workout ( even just going for a walk once a week) , take showers and dress well ( by wearing things you like , not the sigma video essay bullshit) .Your view of things is as good as every-one else .
>>33597452>How do I become more confidentconfidence means you are aware of your capabilities and circumstances. You have expectations and already have preconceived notions of results- so this brings confidence. If you have spoken to 100 different women, what's another new woman to talk to? That's confidence.>>33597479>My problem isn't that I try to hard to be coolBeing "cool" means being stoic, no matter the circumstance. The coolest guys remain planted and aware of every situation and the solutions for problems. You don't cry, you don't panic, you don't exasperate yourself. You just stay cool and collected. There is a problem? What's the solution?
