I'm a 30 years old and I've never been in a relationship. I have one eye it was removed when I was a teenager and before that my eye was deteriorating. I have social anxiety and it's ruined my life. I wear a fake eye and if I look another direction other than forward it looks unsettling. I don't even have any hobbies anymore. I feel like an empty shell of a human being. I feel socially inept and for the past 3 months I've been having suicidal thoughts. I never felt this way before, the intensity. I fucking hate the way people look at me, it makes me feel less than human. I feel like I'm going to commit suicide or worse. The worst pain is having someone beautiful I'm interested in shoot me a dirty look. I would be a normal person if it wasn't for this, I feel like if I lost weight and had two eyes I'd be alright looking. I keep thinking that life isn't worth living anymore. I can't live alone anymore. I have no one to share this world with. I can't even fucking find anyone to talk about this shit with. Every time I try to look for how people with one eye have it when dating others it's either women who obviously have a way easier time than men, or it's guys who have jack shit to show for it. Who do I talk to? What the fuck do I do? I'm 30, I don't want to die, I don't want to be different. I'm so isolated. How the fuck can I catch up with the rest of humanity? Everyone has a fucking lifetime of dealing with women, heartbreak and managing relationships.I'm going to explode.
>>33599994In grad school I kinda crushed on a guy with a wonky eye named Kevin. I thought it looked cool and interesting, like he's a person who sees things differently than other people, made him look a bit otherwordly. He seemed very intelligent, gentlemanly and sophisticated in a way. I could tell he was interested in me. But I never talked to him because he was obviously uptight, insecure, and hates fun. Like one time, I forget how it came up, but he's just suddenly says "I hate sports!" He was basically the stereotypical overly irritable IT guy. But I still think about him occasionally, like I bet we could've at least had interesting conversations. But he drove everyone away being an uptight and prickly, not because of his eye.True story.I'm not saying it's easy, that you should just be able to snap your fingers and change, but at least stay in touch with reality. There are countless men who have a weird eye or way more disfiguring things and they don't have a completely helpless negative attitude like you. People don't "shoot you dirty looks", they are scared or concerned because you are sending out hostile vibes all day long. They are reacting to you, not going out of their way to attack you.
>>33600101Thank you, I fucking mean it. This was helpful.
>>33600114Im trans btw
>>33600114I can tell.
>>33599994you're like a bond villain and they're always with hot women. do you realize how many guys will do poser stuff (tattoos, dumb clothes) just to get attention from women, and you literally have bond villain aura built into you? lean into it
>>33599994>What the fuck do I do?Wear an eye patch and piratemaxx. Go for Johnny Depp looks.
>>33601843This an eyepatch is your best bet, it covers up the problem and provides a good icebreaker and point of interest
>>33599994I feel you OP but even I can't know what that's like. I have a rare skin condition on my thigh and stomach that I've had since about age 10 but at least it's hidden by clothes. I've lived my life afraid of what others would think of it but at least I can hide it.
>>33601870Yeah it's like if OP was bald he'd be better off wearing a cool hat than a fake ass wig. Eyepatch all the way.
>>33599994Wear a patch dude. They look so fucking badass.
>>33599994Just wear a cool eye patch like the dude from Yakuza. That eyepatch is cool as all hell
You could also do this
Do therapy. Go to a male therapist. Read The Courage to Be Disliked.Also, I think an eye patch would look better than a fake eye. Could even work as an accessory, an expression of your fashion sense.It sucks that you lost an eye, however, it's rough being unable to be at full health.
>>33599994>Every time I try to look for how people with one eye have it when dating othersheh. anyway listen. You are going to have to SCHIZOMAX and SAGEMAX. You are an occult icon. Left eye gone? That means something. Right eye gone? That means something too. You sir, have paid a price in this world and existence. You sir, can act like you "see" beyond this realm, you objectively do have insight (heh) that I do not.It doesn't matter if any of it is true or not, begin to see yourself as a wise sage. Accept, deeply and with love, that you are a man with one eye. I and the rest of the board accept you. We really do, you are the Pirate that all of us imagined and played as. You are Odin shouting harrowingly in the thunderstorm's rage. You are an old guy with a bushy beard and a tobacco pipe and a rocking chair.I have had my long dark night of soul, myabe still in it. But identity in this world, this era in particular is difficult. So much hypnosis and lies and pain and nonsense. I say this; let your actions define you and send away your ill thoughts. They aren't even your own.
>>33599994I’ve had one functional eye for my whole life. You should have learned around middle school that only bottom feeding retards will judge you for it. I couldn’t imagine caring about what one of those people think about my ability to date. >>33600101 is absolutely right. It’s not a wonder you have a chip on your shoulder, as it’s an obvious defect. But it’s also fairly common. Nobody worth the time is judging you because of your eye, they are reacting to your own energy and attitude. And you clearly don’t like feeling this way so you need to change your cognition. You will find more success when you stop agonizing over things you can’t change that shockingly few people care about.
I met a man with a fucked up eye once. We were at a strip mall and he had two girls with him. He actually came up and talked to me but that's a different story. He seemed like a chill guy. I also had a professor who was blind and had no eyes, he wore sunglasses but you could tell when he turned his head.A lot of guys are saying eye patch, but what about fake eye + sunglasses combo? You're 100% justified to wear sunglasses indoors which ironically is a privilege most guys don't have. I didn't think anything of it with my professor but maybe it's different since he's blind
>>33599994Do you own a device to apply chaos into existance? Just take your rage out on some jews or muslims if so. ThanksIts fucking over.
like most anons in this thread are saying, get an eyepatch. Turn your disability into a strength.
>>33600114get a blank fake eye, basically just a white ball, and make some face tattoos around it, like mike tyson and now you officially have swag, no need to thank me.
>>33599994AI says I’m a 7.4 out of 10. Some of us have real problems anon. I have a nasty ex wife because she knows I can get women easily. Once women realize I don’t need a a caretaker or that I can be manipulated with sex, they don’t want to be with me anymore. They always say my dick is perfect but when we break up they say it’s small. And they never leave me alone after the break up. Always sending me pictures of their new relationships like it’s supposed to make me want them back. I can’t have a normal friendship because the guys think I’m gonna fuck their woman or the women want to get with me and I have no interests. Gay men act this way too. Aside from my children, I just assume most people are fakes. Like I said, some of us have real problems.
>>33610099Can’t be manipulated, also eye patch or terminator eye, being a T800 would be kino, I’d turn it on and go into every gun store to say “Uzi 9mm” and go to places and ask for Sarah Connor and say “I’ll be back”
>>33599994Eyepatch motherfucker. Way less unsettling to look at and is actually cool. You're one of the few people who have a valid reason to wear one
>>33599994Wear an eye patch and own it—let it add some character to you. As for losing weight, anon, that’s something you have control over to a certain extent, and you have to commit to the benefits of that change.If someone you find attractive gives you an ugly look, there are different ways to interpret it. Maybe you stared too long and creeped her out, maybe she was having a bad day. Either way, try to see it as her problem, not yours.Suicide is an extreme option, anon, and not the most practical. Life can be pretty fun once you decide to let go of the things that weigh you down.
>>33599994>rather have a fake eye than a eyepatchWHY DO RETARDS DO THIS TO THEMSELVES?
I don't think OP is reading his own thread. What a fag.
>>33614064I am you motherfucker. Ive just been busy. Ill reply to this when I get off work.
>>33599994Piratemax
>>33599994Just find a girl with 1 eye also. Ez
>>33599994I had a physics teacher in high school who had a glass eye and he was legit a very nice and charming guy. I also have an uncle who lost his eye in a knife attack, never thought any less of him. It really sucks that you lost your eye but it ain't the end of the world.>>33604962that's badass as fuck honestly if losing an eye makes you look intimidating you may as well commit to it
>>33599994>>33604985I'll read this book and go see a therapist to see if that helps.>>33605019I know that shit, but I'm struggling most with romantic relationships. I just feel fucked in regards to that but this thread is helping me. How does your eye look? How are your romantic prospects? I just want to eventually have a wife and kids man.>>33606379What'd he tell you? I want to connect with other human beings, wearing sunglasses all day would just be silly. People use there eyes to express themselves all the time, when I do it just doesn't look right.
>>33599994>>33610116I used to have a cataract in my eye when I was a kid, people used to tell me I looked like the terminator. That never really bothered me but I'm not going to wear a fake eye that makes me look like a doofus. I appreciate the concern though.>>33612449I can tell that I've put girls off with my social anxiety. Either I'm going to kill that part of me off or it's going to kill me.>>33614064Surprise motherfucker.
>>33599994>>33615315>EzIt's really not, I've only met 2 other people with one eye in my entire life. There's not some cyclops social club out there. I'd totally be down for it though.>>33615561That's nice, I'm really just a guy trying to connect romantically with the opposite sex.Here's some pictures of me with the eye and then with an eyepatch. Bags under my eyes are due to poor sleep.
my buddy Gabe had totally opaque congenital Sclerocornea and it never stopped him from getting dates. it's not even as much as hindrance as being fat or short, basically a non issue
>>33616791You know, it does look like a lazy eye since it don't move. Can you get an all white one? That might look cool. But you could do different styles of eyepatch and see what works well. Have you also tried going your hair a big to cover that side? That may be more natural.But yeah, it's not so much the missing eye as it is your insecurity over it. I can feel your hostility from here.
>>33599994>I’m missing an eye and I decided to be the creepy glass eye guy instead of auramaxxing with an eyepatchdude…
also to be clear I don’t think that eyepatch is the only option. the point just is that your disability does afford you a unique opportunity to express yourself through fashion, but if instead you just try to have it look as normal as you can you’re just going to hit the uncanny valley. eyepatch, blank eye, fake heterochromia, whatever. basically the only definitely bad option is to try to match your other eye.
>>33616791The eyepatch looks great. Finding someone at 30 with your face is easy. Switching from the fake eye to the eyepatch gives you easily 1.5 points out of 10. It's also a terrific icebreaker and yes there is a market for it. Yes some girls will think it looks "mysterious" or "kinda hot". Not all, not most, but some. So first advice: piratemaxx IMMEDITATELY. If you're embarrassed about people asking you why you switched, just say you lost the fake eye or it fell and broke or something. Next, lose weight. If you need help for that ask away. Third, put yourself in situations with women physically around you. Gatherings, gym (you won't approach at the gym but may meet a couple guys, which will give you some girls from their social circles if you ever meet outside of the gym), social shit with friends if you have any, dating apps (they suck but the algorithm can be manipulated in your favor), etc. This may be the hardest part. Any questions?
>>33617109Ok, I'm in. I need to lose weight, I have muscle but I need to lose like 50 lbs. I used to exercise more frequently but I always run into walls and then pull a muscle or hurt my back and then I don't work out for a long time and it sets me back. desu I always just go with what my friends are doing at the gym. What do you recommend? I'm also trying to work on getting 8 hours of sleep but always find myself staying up late. How do I meet guys at the gym, like how would I initiate a conversation? Would I ask them to spot me? What's the best way for me to approach dating apps?
>>336172181. Losing weight: sadly it's just calories in vs calories out. if you're serious about it, download MyFitnessPal. It's a calorie counter which lets you log in whatever you eat, of whatever brand, in whatever quantity, and some nerds have given its database how many calories there are in almost every single food available. So first you determine your maintenance calories (aka what you eat in a day typically). So input everything you eat for like 3 days to give you an idea, or use an online calculator (slightly less accurate but faster). Then, aim to eat 500 calories less than the maintenance, everyday. This will make you lose about 5 pounds a month. Yes, it's annoying having to create an account in MyFitnessPal because fuck apps and email confirmations but once it's done in 5 mins you have a great tool in your hands. I used it to gain 10kg of muscle in the exact timeframe it predicted me.
>>336172182. Meeting guys: happens naturally with time. So personally I've never put efforts into making friends at the gym or meeting people there bc I already have a full social circle. But inevitably as you go there for a couple of months you will have random friendly interactions. The eyepatch will help a lot. This will take time (a couple months) but you will get some people asking you to spot them (or you can ask them), nothing more than that, nothing forced. It just happens naturally that after a couple times of spotting some guy during his 5 shitty sets of bench he'll go "whew, just getting back into it, that's heavy" and you can naturally bounce back if you're not autistic with something like "nah it's impressive, how long have been lifting?" and he'll tell you his life story you know. Onwards, this guy will shortly greet you everytime you see him, and one day he'll be with a friend so the guy will say hi too, then maybe you ask them for some advice because this exercise hurts your elbow and you wonder if it's your form, and they'll chat some more, one of them will ask what do you do, etc etc. Idk man it just happens naturally after a while if you go regularly I swear. You just gotta land on someone your age with a similar situation (loneliness) and you'll quickly exchange instagram and then you can just hang out etc etc. To me these things happen naturally so if you're the autistic type I'm sorry bc I know this isn't very detailed but I swear it doesn't need details.3. Approaching dating apps: assume every woman will flake. Assume the app hides your profile and actively sabotages you out of malignance and to make you pay for premium. Let that bounce off of you, yes you will get 0 matches, not 1 or 2 (or maybe 1 or 2 transsexuals), but 0 women. Don't take it personally. You'll maybe get two matches and message them: you'll get no answer. This is NORMAL, this is the NORM, you are not crazy/hideous/weird. (1/2, character limit)
>>336172702/2: So yeah that's normal. The trick is that new profiles temporarily get a boost in visibility. This is why when you make the account you'll get your 1-2 transsexual matches the first hours/day but after that NOTHING. That's normal. So what do you do? You treat it just like farming mobs in an RPG. Every couple of hours (if you have free time) just delete the account and make it again, the exact same one. So you'll get some 2-3 likes again. Do that again and again until you find actual attractive women who reply back. This may take a few days as these women will constitute like 1/10 of the likes you get. Just rinse and repeat until you get a date. When I was single, I was moderately attractive and got like 5-6 matches per account. Always majority fat/ugly/ghosting women. I just rinsed and repeat, sometimes making 3 accounts per day lol. I would get like 2-3 dates a week. It's literally that simple. Only works if you're in a big-ish city though because the pool of attractive women swiping need to be refreshed every couple of hours or all the same women will just swipe left on your hundreds of times lol.
Just to add, I think you really underestimate the impact of having an eyepatch in social interactions. Guys you're spotting at the gym or whatever may probably ask and this instantly gives you an opportunity to go beyond small gym talk and actually talk about your personal life, which will snowball the interaction. Same with dating sites, you may actually get messaged first because some girls will get curious about the eyepatch (you can probably make a joke which will let them know you're not just cosplaying a pirate in the bio if you're clever). Though with women on dating apps you really can't expect much so actually I take that back, you will probably not get messaged first about it. But it may prevent a conversation or two from dying by having them ask about it and then you can make about a million jokes or hints which will make you sound mysterious or badass.
>>33599994Cry me a fucking river. Get a bad add fucking eye patch like Nick Fury and practice something until you get good at it. There are people out there with no arm and legs who are married and have a carrier. Stop being sorry for yourself and start doing something.
>>33599994>>33616791There's a lady I saw on my feed once, "@heymissteacher" who wears interesting replacement eyes. I tell you this because I remember the video that hit my feed was one where she was talking about some of the feelings you mentioned, about hating how people looked at her and saw her as a freak. Something like, "wearing a prosthetic eye that looks like a normal eye only accentuates how there is clearly something wrong with my eyes because one doesnt move" and then explained that she embraced using these cosplay type eyes instead because, "if im going to look unnatural anyway, i might as well have fun with it". I thought that was an admirable way to approach it. I hope that sort of inspiration can help you too. There's nothing wrong with having a replacement eye anon. As others have said, even your pirate eye patch will do. That doesnt look wrong or scary at all, it makes you interesting. I think thats what you men sometimes forget. Its ok to be interesting. That gives people a reason to ask you a question, and that in itself is a doorway to talking to people. You have a lifelong ez talking prompt right there on your face!
>>33616791Your problem isn't your eye, it's your personality. You clearly don't like yourself, so what the hell reason does any woman have to like you either? Some woman isn't going to come along and love you for no reason and give you free validation to finally make you like yourself. Either become somebody you like, or give up and die.
