Im 27, my gf is 28 We're not rich I got her pregnant Shoukd we abort?We're at planned parenthood to see how far along the baby is at least I admit I do wanna keep it but she's worried about stressing her step mom I also wanted to I suppose "achieve more" before having a kidLike seeing another country for example, we at least explored most of the U.S. area but I wanted to see another country. I dont know if that's possible But I've seen other people make it work Shoukd I take this step?I do.have a police application on hold that pays well, I have that opportunity on the backburner so that if we do this I can have a family supporting career, and I do work.at the moment Thoughts?
Just keep the baby, faggot. Things will work out.
>>33603862Anon, you're overthinking this like it's some perfect moment decision. There's never a perfect moment for this. You're 27, she's 28, you've got work, and you've even got a solid career prospect with that police gig. That's wayyyy more stable than half the people who just wing it. If you actually want the kid, then just own it, because once she goes through with an abortion, that choice is gone forever.> Like seeing another country for example, we at least explored most of the U.S. area but I wanted to see another country. I dont know if that's possibleThis dumb excuse is weak. You can 100% can travel with a kid later, you can travel when they're older, you can even travel with them now if you budget right. What you can't do is undo the regret of killing them because you thought you weren't "accomplished enough." Nobody ever feels accomplished enough before having kids.But if she doesn't want it, it doesn't matter how much you do. She's the one carrying it. If she's dead-set on abortion, there's not much you can do to stop her unless you are really good at persuasion. So you need to figure out if her hesitation is real or just fear of her stepmom's opinion. If it's just the stepmom, that's a retarded reason to kill a kid.At the end of the day, it’s about whether you two want to be parents together. If yes, step up. If no, don't fool yourself into thinking the timing will ever magically improve.
>>33603862You had sex with full conscience and these are the consequences. Grow a spine and deal with it.I wish i knew you irl so i could beat you up for even considering doing something so horrible.
>>33603862You will always have doubtsIt will never be the perfect time You will achieve more BECAUSE you have a child and are motivated to succeed for them As always, do whatever you want. But your thinking is flawed.
>>33603862>Im 27, my gf is 28Best time to have the kid, any older and you will run into fertility problems + chances of genetic abnormality once you're both in the 30s.>We're not richNeither are the billions of other parents who are not above working class status.>I got her pregnantCongratulations bro>Should we abort?No>We're at planned parenthood to see how far along the baby is at leastGo to a regular hospital or regular ass midwives. Planned Parenthood are notorious for seeding doubts into people to convince them into abortions so they can get a juicy financial kickback from the abortion clinics they are funded by.>I admit I do wanna keep it but she's worried about stressing her step momThat's her baby, not step-mom's. You're both nearing 30 and you both need to realise your own autonomy as adults, that means making your own future for yourselves without pandering to what step-parents or biological parents may think. You're not children anymore.>I also wanted to I suppose "achieve more" before having a kidBecoming a parent is the largest achievement a human can make, it's the most "God-like" thing you will ever achieve in your entire lifetime, because it is the act of creating life itself.>Seeing another countryFamily vacations>Should I take this step?You haven't mentioned a single reason why you shouldn't. Just go for it man
>>33603862I knocked up a stripper before going to Afghanistan, >>33603880 is right about no perfect time and >>33603871is speaking facts. You want to serve the community as a police officer but can’t even serve your girlfriend and unborn child.
>>33603862Congratulations, you are a father, put your big boy pants on and take some fucking responsibility
>>33603862fucking nearly 30 and worrying about what mom will think? You are not fucking Juno here in high school, be adults and have a child it's the next step in a relationship.
>I wanted to see another country. I dont know if that's possibleLike rachet families don't show up all the time
I would have aborted my child if we had known in time, but the state just passed one of those shitty laws that change the time. Don't get me wrong, love my kid, but our life was drastically different.
I get that this is 4chan and most people here lean anti-abortion, but honestly, I can’t see why abortion would make sense unless your girl doesn’t ever want a kid with you. Most people aren’t rich when they have kids. You already work, you’ve got a solid career path lined up, and you want to keep the baby. The “I want to travel more first” excuse is weak, my parents traveled way more after me and my older siblings were born than before. Sure, having a kid will put some plans on hold for some years but it won’t stop them forever.The post >>33603880 is basically right, even if I don’t buy the “murdering babies” rhetoric. I’m younger than you, so I’m not claiming to be some wise sage, but this seems like a no-brainer. The real question is whether she wants to keep the baby and is just worried about her stepmom, or if she truly doesn’t want it at all. You need to clarify her feelings if you want solid advice.
Dude drug addicts have kids all the time and they grow up okay
Sad that we are so disconnected as peoples that you seek advice with a gear 5 shitpost, but we can be your Uncle with pipe tobacco and some sense. Have the kid. Love the girl. Love the kid twice as much. It will be right. Glad you spoke up, listen to this part of you - might even be yours kids spirit begging haha
>>33603862>Thoughts?You're going to get two kinds of comment here. Pro-life retards will be screaming autistically "REEEEE! MUH MURDER! MUH UNBORN CHILDREN GENOCIDE! REEEEE!"And more sensible people will say "How the fuck would we know?" You know far better than we do whether you want a child or not, and whether now is the time to have it. Ultimately the decision is hers and not yours anyway. But this is not something it makes sense to ask for advice about: you and she are the only people who can make the decision. No one else knows enough about your lives.
>>33605405>I'm le sensible person here>Killing children is HER decision Go clean your toxoplasmosis ridden cat's feces, retard.
>>33605405>Ultimately the decision is hers>you and she are the only people who can make the decisionAnd in true liberal fashion you contradict yourself in the same post. Mental illness
>>33605575There's no contradiction there, anon. They are the only people with the knowledge to know if having a child is right for them; she would probably like some input from him about how he feels about the situation in order to make her decision; but ultimately, legally, the decision is hers, and hers alone.
>>33605698Stop using semi-colons it doesn't make you sound smarter, also fuck 'legally', legality ≠ morality, or ≠ practicality since I know the idea of morals will give you problems mentally. And in this case abortion is neither moral or even practical so they should have the kid. And don't yammer that shit about how OP shouldn't take advice or insight and how he is the only person who can decide because you already undermined that sentiment of yours by shoving the her body/her choice mantra in your post(s) and also you forget OP blatantly asks for advice and even says he wants the kid. No clue why you even bothered to muddy the waters with your posts but I presume it's because you really wanted mentally masturbate over nuance that no one even asked for.
Abort.Everyone here is telling you to man up, but none of these turds is gonna help you out. If you think you have peaked mentally, socially and education wise, go for it. But most people hate to admit they would not do it. You’re also probably gonna get divorced raped if you marry.
>>33603871American hands posted this
Well since we decided to keep it for now we were told to take ger to OB GYN instead and there we got the ultrasoundthe doctor apparently said the baby has a string heartbeat (I had to stay in the waiting area). The fetus is 8 weeks and one day oldI told my own mom and unlike the first time she seemed a bit disappointed but not shaming of me (i still felt ahamed i admit.)Reading between the lines it seems that its because we aborted a year ago, and ironically back then she was surprised yet patient and supportive of the scenario Looking back, that was when my grandfather was still alive and lived with her. He unfortunately passed away earlier this year thanks to elder neglect at a physical rehab center Perhaps that may affect how she's feeling. Im still grieving myself since me and him were very closeIf I join the police and reactivate my application I just have to do the psych and physical exam.Admittedly before I was deep down perhaps punking out since I enjoyed my weed (obviously cant use that while in the force) and the free and loose sleeping pattern I had (police academy will require more discipline. I work retail, so perhaps im over imagining the severity of it. Speaking of, there are several people there at my job who have families comfortably interestingly enough, but I want and need more. But it requires sacrifice.)Thankfully o got my driver's license earlier this summerIm going to continue praying to God and the Univerae that im being pushed along the right path for myself and us all
>>33607467Good luck anon. Best of luck to you and your girl in raising your kid.
Do not kill that child anon. Unless you are a bully / youth / jogger / rioter etc.
>>33603862Just have the baby. 35 is when fertiliy typically ends.28 is a good safer age. Enjoy. Kida give a lot of meaning to life.
>>33603862Apply for jobs asap even military if nothing else is hiring. Any job is a noble job just prepare.
>>33607467Keep the child brother, I know you got this and I wish your family will be happy and prosperous. God bless you.
