>>33606644
Every time you are about to share personal information, think 'should I do this, do I want this person to know that' before you speak

>>33606644
Oversharing is a two way street. Someone with good boundaries will cut you off and let you know you’re being a fucking weirdo, or that they aren’t interested. Just be around mature adults. All those cinematic moments of heart-wrenching confessions are bullshit. At the end of the day, everyone’s got their own shit to deal with, they don’t want to shovel yours too.

>>33606668
Yeah, theres been negative social effects for sure.

>>33606672
Yes, people will rightfully be put off by you oversharing, because it will clearly show them you’re insecure, and people have a lack of trust for that behavior.

You will start to trust yourself more the less you share unnecessarily with others. And as contradictory as it seems, they will trust you more for it.

It’s about respecting boundaries, providing balance, and at the end of the day — very few people are truly friends that you can confide to. Most people are small-talk level at best.

>>33606681
Yeah, and I have no idea why I do it. Yeah, I hurt, I have problems, life didnt work out the way I wanted to and should have. Im not happy person, but is social media and drinking the way to deal with it? No but I keep fucking doing it.

>>33606644
same, i break under no pressure and be telling everybody everything

>>33606719
I’ve done the same. And in my case, I overshared because I wasn’t willing to make my own decisions. I kept inviting other people into my private life, in order to hand them the responsibility.

It gets fucking lonely out here man. It makes sense that you want people involved in your life, even in a less than healthy way. You need to practice not giving in to that habit.

>>33606772
Ive tried a lot, and it still happens.

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>>33606644
Get in the habit of simply not explaining yourself. Think about how other people you know don't divulge their life stories, but instead may drop some relevant anecdotes in casual conversation. You probably have the habit of getting lost ins elf-reflection anyone asks you about your life, so instead of a brief comment, you go into a string of I-this me-that stories forgetting where you were going and not realizing it is making you look insecure and/or self-absorbed.

For example, here are some things you could say instead of explaining yourself (playfully of course):

I don't kiss and tell
What happens between consenting adults is nobody's business
>Yes, say the above 2 even if you're literally a virgin when asked about anything sexual
No complaining, no explaining
No comment, case closed
I won't speculate on that matter
I just do my own thing man
Nothing I care to share with the class
I live in my own reality
I enjoy my leisure time
I got plenty of stuff I like to do

>>33607504
Theres too much explaining myself. I have used social media almost like a diary instead of sharing memes, cool things, interests, hobbies, interesting things, big life events, etc. Ive said its because people are seeing my story, but no one wants to listen to it and I open myself up to ridicule and mockery

>>33606681
>very few people are friends you can confide to
True, and being a man makes it harder because youre looked down on for it. When im usually looking for support or attention, but ive learned more than one time I attract the attention that I dont want.

I learned too, that a lot of people arent empathetic as you want them to be. But at the end of the day, the conversations, the posts, even if someones like "fuck ill reply..God damn". Its not going to fix the problems, I can talk about who, what, when, why, and how but its never solved my issues but put me unintentionally in deeper shit with people. It gives them an excuse to go "see what I mean" and people saw it and with them, not want you around or involved because youre an energy vampire that sucks the life out of people. People dont want to hear the "poor pitiful me" bullshit, and I know that.

I need therapy, and to stop doing this shit. Social media isn't a therapists office.

>>33606772
> I overshared because I wasn’t willing to make my own decisions. I kept inviting other people into my private life, in order to hand them the responsibility
That kind of hit hard.

Anytime you feel the need to share remember all the times you did in the past and how it scares people away.

>>33608643
It has, and thats why I hate. I dont mean to be pushing anyone away. So I wrote a small novel of my shitty life, whats going to come of it other than annoying people and whining about my problems that I have been to scared to fix and have done half ass. Then wondering why im alone and have no one and having people see me in a bad light.

Yeah, people suck sometimes, and ive had problems but I just cant sit back and blame anyone else. Shit like this has been an issue, and has inhibited my socially, and professionally when it comes to work. Then wonder why I have people watching me to see the next whiny walls of text theyre doing nothing but ignoring and/ laughing at. Theres no reason to talk about shit and anout peolple while telling info no one fucking asked for

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