Is it better to find a lover irl or online? And how do you socialise irl to even get a lover? Just 18 and i have zero irl social skills. I find anyone pretty much hot and cute but i am terrfied of getting attached, of even confronting them with how i feel. How do people just do things irl? Should i just give up and live alone forever because i dont think me being transgender helps with this at all and i am tired of people saying that i will find somwone one day when its obvious that its impossible.
>>33607826>irl or onlineIRL.I did not read the rest of your text by the way.
>>33607826Irl. Also not reading more. Also suggesting you give up on the idea and just aim for living well off on your own no matter what because otherwise you really will lose it all.
>>33607826>I find anyone pretty much hot and cute but i am terrfied of getting attached, of even confronting them with how i feel. How do people just do things irl?>Should i just give up and live alone foreverI can’t help you realize it but the way you feel about interacting with people isn’t normal, you also need to understand that the normal state of being for a human is relentlessly pursuing integration into a social group, positive interactions with other people are good for your mind and body - dating or not. Just by asking what to do you already took the first step to figuring out what has caused you to react to socializing with fear or anxiety and self doubt. Maybe you could try a therapist and anti depressants, maybe you should join a cult to prove to yourself that the people around you are far more willing to accept you than you think. Maybe you need to hack it yourself, digging through your own experiences to deconstruct what you feel and the experiences that caused you to feel that way all the time so you can divorce what happened from the people around you that have or had nothing to do with it.
>>33607826Get used to talking to random people. Apps are for cowardly losers who imagine a machine can give them satisfaction without effort.
>>33607826It probably wasn’t intentional, but I’d replace “confronting” with “sharing.”Understand that some people simply won’t mesh with you and that’s just part of life, while others will find you intriguing. It’s all a means to an end.Social skills can be developed. Read the book by Carnegie, go to events you’re passionate about, maybe an LGBT club, and approach getting to know others as an opportunity to connect rather than a mountain to climb. For introverts like us, getting out there and practicing social skills is essentially the key.
