I'm in university and I've really been trying to put myself out there by going to social events and shit because I don't have very many friends and most of the friends I do have are online. My problem is that I have no idea what you're supposed to do when you're around other people. When I don't say anything and just hang around people seem to become uncomfortable by my presence (which is fair, just lurking around is kinda weird); when I do say something (like adding my opinion to a conversation or making an observation or even attempting to make a connection) people do that thing where they look away from you and try to pretend you didn't say anything. I can't seem to get a positive reaction from most people no matter what I do and I don't understand what the “correct” social move is. It might just be because I'm ugly and autistic but is there a way to get past that? I'm trying to fit with social conventions and “play” on the same terms as everyone else but it feels like they can sense that I'm different. Am I just crazy? What can I do about this? Sorry for the wall of text.
>>33614912I’m the same.
im somewhat the same except im pretty looking and pretty autisticfor example>women around me are intimidated by my looks and probably by my black eyes/bags>if your opinion on xyz is A and not B(ecause of logic and rationale reasons), please do not talk to me ever again>if you do not know about topic abc, please either do your due dilligence b4 trying to waste my time with arguing (im going to be literally right and i hate being right) or stop talking>if you lied or called me names, even only once, never talk to me againyou know, all these small petty things.
>>33615399Well, I guess it's nice I'm not alone.>>33615779See, I get those things being a problem but I have an issue even having people talk to me in the first place. I don't have interactions where people say things that are incorrect or argue with me about things because I don't interact with people period and that's my real problem. I mean, I'm sure I'll find those finds of situations annoying but it seems like having to deal with the occasional idiot is far preferable to my current situation.
>>33614912>going to social events and shitThat is likely to be frowned upon
Alcohol The end.
>>33618707Lel>>33618719I don't drink because a bunch of close family members were/are addicts and I'm too gluttonous to be able to control my intake. Surely that's not the only way to make friends?
>>33619129CocaineOr get a Desoxyn prescription
>>33616613>occasional idiot is far preferable to my current situationheh. you dont know what you have until youve lost it. you have peace, tranquility, serenity. it is the place to find God.>occasional idiotbe careful what you wish for>>33619129you better disregard idiots on here who actually try to harm you via literal drugs. probably a glowing one too.idk what to tell you OP. people changed after 2019 and one certain operation including some delta and omicron capital letter C things. i have noticed that people who did not partake in the capital letter C are the one worthy of my time and vice versa.maybe go to a demonstration for some very mild, but righteousness stuff and go talk to people there. tell them your psychologist told you to at least speak to 3 people per day and you need to meet your quota today.there you can tell them your observations. they should listen
>>33619154I'm not going to do hard drugs to interact with people.>>33619405I... see. I don't know, I've never been good with people and haven't made any friends since late middle school/early high school so I have no idea how much people have changed. I'm hesitant to try the psychologist thing because (a) I feel bad lying, even to strangers and (b) because I think they would probably be scared of me or think I'm crazy. Am I wrong about that? I don't know
>>33620011>(a) I feel bad lyingwhat lying? i told you, you can be vague. if they ask uncomfortable things, you always can say "id rather prefer to not tell".also concealing or withholding information is not lying.>(b)well, it is you who needs help, not them searching for people to judge as a hobby. if you explain your reasoning logical or in a way for them that they can comprehend it, why should you be crazy? also psychologists cant give you diagnosis/put you under meds. (at least in EU as far as i know) the therapy with them is literally just talking. but methodical talking. thats why they re oftenly for free
>>33622294regarding (b), wrong thread lol.sorry op
