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Post copes
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>>33617878
You either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'.
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>>33617878
it used to be weed but then i realized how much control i have over my life
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>>33617878
steroids aka testosterone and the gym
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>>33617894
Word.
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>>33617971
Lol what a faggot
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>>33617878
the godfather of all copes, and the last cope you'll ever need
drugs are cool too but don't come close
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>>33617878
Basically virtual crack.
I don't even like it, sucks and gets worse every season. But it's either spamming ranked games all day, or actually doing the stuff I have to do and figuring my life out, which gives me crippling anxiety.
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>>33618085
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I fix problems. Then I don't have problems.
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Mental tools.
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>>33617878
My enemies turn back;
they stumble and perish before you.
For you have upheld my right and my cause,
sitting enthroned as the righteous judge.
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>>33617878
vape
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>>33617878
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Qk9o_ZeR7s&list=RD5Qk9o_ZeR7s&start_radio=1
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Escapism(anime and video games).
I also live vicariously thru other people (friends, family, content creators).
When I fuck women I imagine that I'm fucking my ex.
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>>33618505
I've also gotten really good at handling negative emotions, I just acknowledge that I feel bad and resume my current activity, instead of ruminating/dwelling on it. By doing this you process the emotion while rewiring your brain into not making you feel like shit as often.
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>>33617878
I isolate myself and engage in prolonged self harm to trigger what remains of my emotional responses, until my body becomes so numb or I just forget about the problem.
Then I try to workout and read and do all the good shit I can do for another few months before that empty feeling comes back and I feel like killing myself again.
It's a terrible cycle but it's also the only thing that keeps me moving.
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>>33617878
Grudge list
Escapisms
Praying
Daydreaming
Once in a while I get these dreams of different universes/worlds, a life where I was chosen and not used, were my family is not struggling. I also dreamt I was in the eye of hurricane Erin
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>>33617878
I've been eating tea with cookies a lot. I'm not fat but the excess sugar is probably not good for me.
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>>33617878
I come home and cry every night
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Doing things for myself and no one else.
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>>33617971
i feel like this guy
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>>33617878
>Reality is absolute
>It is what it is
>Sensitivity and feeling things is part of me and reality
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Doing random acts of kindness for strangers.
Forgiving percieved slights.
Self improvement.
Coming to terms with I WILL die one day, so trying to make the world a better place (or just not any worse) before I go.
Plant a tree or scatter seeds and nuts so someone will enjoy what you planted long after you are gone.
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>>33617878
I cope by being a sex tourist in the Philippines. I fucked almost an entire family in the Philippines:

1) the 18 year old daughter, this all started with her. she was dtf a foreigner. 1 hour after meeting her I was barebacking her in my bed.
2) her 22 yo sister that I met while "dating" the 18 year old, she went behind her sisters back to get my creampie. Sister eventually found out. Drama....but we still fucked regularly.
3)the gay brother who was a ladyboy, sucked my dick and swallowed. Fucked him in the ass since he begged for it. Looked a lot like his sisters. 39kg and 5' 2". Prostate orgasm from being pounded. Pretty cute.
4)the 45 yo mom. I had known all of them for about two years at this point and she was well aware of what I was doing to her daughters. I seduced her and came inside of her.
5) the 35 yo aunt. I got her pregnant since she lived like 10minutes away and came over every day after he work to fuck and get a creampie. She was surprised she got pregnant (again). I wasn't. My kid from her is 4 years old now.
6) aunt 2. Met me through aunt 1. I fucked her while aunt 1 was in the other room. She knew. Begged me to cum inside of her. Had baby rabies since her sister was pregnant at the time and it was making her jealous.

Their other brother worked at sea on a ship so I couldn't get my hands on him. Dad was dead and probably rolling in his grave.
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>>33623837
Good for you I guess
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>>33623837
>Sounds like a porno
>Lusting over a rando sailor out at sea
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>>33623802
>forgiving perceived slights
That sounds unhealthy
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>>33617894
Im lazy brah
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I go to the mountains when I can that it's almost never. I go to the gym and do a lot of running. I'm think of stopping drinking but when the bad times return who knows If I will come back to being an hedonistic shithead again.
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By obsessively planning all my hobbies. I've been keeping dated checklists of every game I've played, every show I've watch, and every novel I've read since 2015. I have Excel spreadsheets comparing this shit, sorting them by dates, genres, duration, best to worst, etc. When I'm at work I have a notepad file open where I have a stream of consciousness going brainstorming why I like the things I like and at times reviewing them, literal paragraphs and subsections, that I delete by Friday night. I was never addicted to pornography back when I used to download gigabytes of the stuff, I was just obsessed with sorting the unsortable into as many subheadings as possible. It was less "Look at those tiddies!", more "Do those tiddies go in the Chopping Board folder or Gainax folder?" I'm sort of retarded but at least it keeps me alive. I only wish I could use these powers on productive things.
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>>33624174
Wouldn't that be useful in some data or statistics field? I am sure there is something for you.
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>>33617878
Death Stranding 2
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>>33617878
Agu videos
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>>33617971
Gay
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An alkoholic guy
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>>33617878
I cope by cleaning my apartment, going to the gym, and cooking a nice dinner. Always makes me feel better.
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>>33617878
Radical acceptance. "IT IS WHAT IT IS". Change what you can, accept what you cannot.
A deer doesn't waste time sulking or brooding over the fact that it is hunted by wolves. It just runs when it needs to and chills when it's safe. Be like the deer and stop thinking about your woes. Live.
It is what it is.
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>>33617878
alcohol, vapes, music and talking to girls
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>>33625590
this guy is right but he probably doesnt realize that for most people that dwell on their problems its impossible to do this right away, because they've been conditioning their brain to constantly give them negative thoughts, for people like that they have to rewire their brain which can take years. So if you are one of those people don't worry if you cant do this right away, keep trying to just not dwell on the thoughts, it will get easier and easier.
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>>33625671
That's good to know. Thanks Anon.
I thought maybe I had to just live with it.
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>>33625671
Thanks anon

>>33625563
Based healthy habits
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>>33625706
Nah, I used to be the kinda guy who would ruminate almost every day about every fucking negative thing for hours, one day I decided that I will just acknowledge whenever I feel bad and try my absolute best to stop at that.
So for example my brain would remind me that I'm a failure because of (whatever) and I would just acknowledge it:
>I'm having this thought right now
Then resume doing what I was currently doing, and yeah at first I would feel terrible but now it's so fucking EZ to do it and not dwell on my thoughts, it took a very long time, I still have bad days but they are 1000x easier to deal with it's insane. My worst days used to be being completely bedridden from anxiety and depression.
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>>33625720
Congratulations on your improvement, anon. Not everyone manages that kind of progress
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>>33625747
Thanks man, I truly believe that anyone who's like the past me can get better, I seriously thought that was the "real me", I was like this for 90% of my life, but somehow thru sheer will power over the years I managed to get better.
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>>33618000
Alcohol has never done anything for me besides degrade my physical vitality and weaken my self-control, even when consumed in moderation on a daily basis. Then again, I don't have friends to drink with, which makes a big difference. Drinking with no expressive outlet is an exercise in futility.
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>>33623837
Jeez buddy, I'm no stranger to depravity myself, but you should probably find Jesus.

>>33624088
I was thinking about stopping drinking this morning, but I'm drinking a bottle of wine now. Mountains are where it's at though. I'm planning a BLM camping excursion with a lil hottie, who will 100% be naked all weekend long.
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>>33625769
You should be proud of yourself, anon
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>>33625720
I've come to realize that dopamine troughs are temporary if you simply brush them aside instead of putting "I am unhappy at the present moment" at the center of your awareness. Much like the rainstorms here, they sweep through and then the sun comes back out when they're over.
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>>33625781
I wouldn't necessarily say that you are putting it at the center of your awareness, maybe at first it felt like it, nowadays when I acknowledge the feeling my brain immediately redirects my attention onto an activity I was currently doing or something that I have to do later, the feeling passes after like 3-5 minutes.
It's kinda similar to what you just described, I just let the feeling sweep past me.
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>>33625781
>dopamine troughs
> "I am unhappy at the present moment"
Uh anon I don't think that's a "dopamine thought", I think that's a "I don't get dopamine ever" thought
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>>33626000
>troughs
Fml, read that as "thought"
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>>33617878
Energy drinks and nicotine right now are my go to, despite not being able to feel it since im recovering from pharmeutical poison.
When I get off probation ill be turning back to my homemade wine and stimulants.
Adhd a hell of a drug, so I need drugs to manage that. And fuck a doctor getting me the drugs I actually benefit from.
Im broke so I play games to make money til the neetbux start rolling in.
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>>33626092
i miss caffeine so much, sadly it makes my anxiety worse
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>>33626111
I dont even like the caffeine anymore. I was using it to help with my adhd symptoms. But now its just a habit.
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>>33617878
I'm just trying to change everything in my life and meeting people so I don't think about all the problems. I started running and it feels good, but my legs, knee and feet hurt so I can't do it often.
Reading books and watching movies helps a bit.
I wish I could do drugs, smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol, but my body doesn't allow me.
It's what made me realize there is no free will, I would have committed suicide long ago but feelings of guilt and a sense of responsibility prevented me from doing it. I am destined to suffer but I decided I deserve justice. And I work constantly, as much as fate allows me to find this justice for myself, trying to live a good as great as the evil I've been living until now.
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>>33626739
I forgot to add, I fap a lot. The pleasure I get is the closest thing to drugs I can use.
The problem is that there is blacked and degeneracy everywhere and it impossible to not see it, even if I do my best to avoid it.
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>>33617878
I just can't give up, it's not like I tell myself that, I'm just too stubborn innately.
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becoming cold and embittered by experience is the opposite of what is supposed to happen, despite it being what we consider to be the logical order of life.
you're supposed to become a happier and more outgoing person with experience. why? because you once you have a bad experience, you realize what you must do to overcome it in the future. so why would you become embittered? just laugh it off! you choose to let your humor be ridden by something as so ephemeral as the past.
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>>33617878
How would you guys cope with the knowledge that reincarnation is real and you'll have to go through life again?
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>>33623837
>3)the gay brother who was a ladyboy, sucked my dick and swallowed. Fucked him in the ass since he begged for it. Looked a lot like his sisters. 39kg and 5' 2". Prostate orgasm from being pounded. Pretty cute.
You are a homosexual
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>>33617878
work hard play hard
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>>33617878
I don't need to cope. I just exist. Good, shitty, or neutral things happen all the time. It's just a "fact of life" so to speak. What actually counts for anything or not is how you go about it.
Luck and karma arw not supported by science. It boils down to us causing our own fortune or misfortune, and/or coincidences.
If your irl "RNG" is shit, just reroll.
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>>33627818
Sounds good, maybe the next cycle will suck less.
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>>33617878
The world outside is hell.

Rent in my area starts at $1600 a month for a 1 bedroom apartment. My aunt lives in one with 4 other people and they have a mattress in the "living room." I just spent $200 for the equivalent of two and a half weeks of groceries. My morning breakfast sandwich and coffee cost me $20. I have to pay $300 tomorrow for my phone bill + car insurance.

Everyone I see outside is some type of mixed race mutt. Today at target I saw a 6'5 mixed brown goblin ginger (with light eyes and an afro) walking around. Every other kid is mixed race mystery meat. All the women under 40 (and some over) dress like whores, even the kids. I saw a 7 year old wearing crop tops and a yoga pants.

Can someone tell me why I should show up to an interview for a second job on Monday?
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>>33627983
Dystopian nightmare is here gentlemen - however most new England states appear to be pretty good in societal makeup. However , my homeland in the south , is a lost cause at the moment
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>>33627963
Or will suck worse.
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>>33623837
>Dad was dead and probably rolling in his grave.
implying that you would fuck the dad if he wasnt dead? wth
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>>33627839
this is the dude version of "live laugh love"
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Get rid of your bullshit detector.

This is an example:
Mom: "Hey sweetie you're doing alright."
Anon's brain: "that's bullshit
Without the bullshit detector:
Mom: "Hey sweetie you're doing alright."
Anon's brain: "yeah I guess I am thanks mom."
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>>33617878
Haahahahaahaa Online grooming isn't real haaahaha like bitch just walk away from the screen hahahahaha just close your eyes lmfaooo
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>>33626092
>not being able to feel it since im recovering from pharmeutical poison

Antipsychotics? Antidepressants? Finasteride? Which poison?
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>>33623837
you’re a homosexual faggot and will go to burn in hell for all eternity for doing so
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I dont know really, I just play guitar, draw sometimes, play some vidya and get autistically obsessed over what mods to use, I like to get immersed into stories, I lift, I keep my apartment very very clean, cum in the gf sometimes, eat nice food. Thats about it really.
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>>33634555
Antipsychotic. I just got off the highest dose of invega. Day 5 without it today.
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>>33617878
Very poorly, lately. I turned 30 in July and got hooked on THC concentrates again because I couldn't stop thinking about killing myself.
I have so little to look forward to when I leave the house and less to look forward to at home. There's nothing to do in the town I live in but drink beer. I feel completely alone unless I'm praying or have the wind running through my hair. Living in the USA can be pretty miserable.

With that in mind, all I really have to look forward to in life right now is leaving the country. It's what keeps me going.
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>>33624174
Huge wasted potential.
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>>33627848
Better than being a black pilled limpwrist who can't handle life. Smiling in the mirror is the strongest cope there is because it works! Everyone here just stays depressed and is somehow okay with their lives when my simple trick works miracles. I have never felt more alive than when I smile and it spreads joy to others. You don't have to feel anything underneath it, the mere act of smiling lets you know that you're doing okay. Let yourself have something, instead of keeping yourself bleeding like a stuck pig over ephemeral past bullshit. You only live once and you're spending it on 4chan. How pathetic.



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