I've been friends with a guy since we were both little. We were just friends until we finished high school, then he made it clear he saw us as more than that. He said he needed to be with me and needed to know I felt the same way or he couldn't keep hanging out with me. So I said yes because I didn't want to lose my best friend, and I gave him my first time.Now I feel dirty and weird and it's hard to talk to him without thinking about it. He's gotten upset bc he texts me and I haven't been responding very fast. He told me I'm being a bad gf and I wanted to scream that it's all too weird bc he sprung all this on me out of nowhere and he acts like its all supposed to be normal.I just don't want to lose my friend.
>>33618925So you don't have any romantic feelings for him but decided to have sex with him anyway? Did you even think about this logically for 30 seconds?
>>33618936>Did you even think about this logically for 30 seconds?No, but I've been obsessing about it emotionally for weeks now.
>>33618986I would say don't give away your virginity to someone you don't have any romantic interest, but that ship's sailed. The damage is done. If someone is only around you because they like you, they were never your friend. You've learned a life lesson in a very difficult manner in no small part due to your own low impulse control. Be up front with him and if he doesn't want to be friends, realize the friendship never existed and move on. If it sounds harsh, that's life and it tends to be harsh. You're not a child anymore.
>>33618925Just straight up say, "look pal we are friends. We just happened to have benefits that one time and thinking about it, it was fun but it was a mistake and we are NOT boyfriend or girlfriend. We are just friends. I suggest you strongly think about that because right now I'm questioning why you're all possessive all of a sudden."Don't fight but don't hold back. Your feelings matter too. It's your body you shared with him. If it doesn't fit, you must acquit. OJ taught us that.
>>33618925PS, I had to do this myself once to my friend (with benefits). She was getting too possessive of me and wanted more of a relationship, questioning me when I went out and who I was seeing and hanging out with etc. It became an emotional trap that I never wanted. In the end I walked away from her as a friend and ended the friendship. She tried to get me to come back via text saying I miss my friend but really, after that I knew she was only my friend when it suited her like an object or thing. My feelings didn't matter. It was a very sad part of my life and I still miss her now and then but it would have never worked out long term as true boyfriend and girlfriend. We were just fuck pals to pass time and give one another pleasure and we had made that clear on the first time we hooked up. We both agreed, friends only. Then a few years passed...feels happened to her. Not me more than just friends.
Sometimes we do things that change a relationship forever. Cats out of the bag. Uhhh Pandora's box has been opened. You know what will end up happening.
>>33619024Harsh but true>>33620722>We just happened to have benefits that one time and thinking about it, it was fun but it was a mistake and we are NOT boyfriend or girlfriend. We are just friends. I suggest you strongly think about that because right now I'm questioning why you're all possessive all of a sudden."100% seconding this. You need to be clear about your feelings.Keeping them to yourself for the sake of protecting his feelings is NOT the priority. The small chance you have at preserving your friendship relies on clearly communicating your feelings at this point.If he can’t accept a platonic friendship with you, then he isn’t worth being friends with
>>33618925Why'd you lie to him? So you lie to your best friends? You should feel dirty and weird because you are for not telling him the truth.
>>33620722>I suggest you strongly think about that because right now I'm questioning why you're all possessive all of a sudden.">So I said yes because I didn't want to lose my best friendIt's not his fault she didn't have the balls to tell him she didn't feel that way about him.At least he had the balls to be straightforward and spare them the suffering, assuming she was mentally an (18+) adult
>>33618925"I made a mistake. I don't feel like that for you. I'd like to remain friends, but if we can't do that, it's best that we part."It will hurt him and hurt you. But it's really your only choice.
