>Have ADHD>Try hobby for a week and then give up and stop caring >People always tell me I just "like the idea" of doing the hobby and not actually doing it. How do I stop this?
>>33636343Just set the bar stupidly low. Do the hobby for 10 minutes, even if all you do is set it up or poke at it. Don't aim for some big end goal, just keep the streak alive. If you try to master shit in a week, you'll burn out every time. Think of it like tricking your brain, tiny daily reps keep the interest alive, and eventually you'll build tolerance for the boring parts.
Howie thread.OP constantly reposts this.OP has had many people offer help.OP refuses to consider any advice.OP does not actually want to change.DO NOT ENGAGE.Recent reposts in july alone:I can't keep living like thishttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30464066giving up on everythinghttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30455379I can't live like thishttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30460094I don't want to live like thishttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30446512(No title)https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30424329/
Why, are you trying to become an unparalleled master at any of those things?It's okay for hobbies to be short-term. Trying new things is supposed to be good.
>>33636362alone:I can't keep living like thishttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30464066giving up on everythinghttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30455379I can't live like thishttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30460094I don't want to live like thishttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30446512(No title)https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30424329/Should I just kill myself already?https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30388646/How do I learn how to draw?https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30384624/How do I get any actual hobby?https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30369135/How do I learn to draw at 24?https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30351076/Can I still be a visual artist?https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30336992/How do I get an actual hobby?https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30361438/I literally can't learn or do anythinghttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30351503/I feel like I'm trapped in my own body (ADHD)https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30336926/I literally can't learn or do anything.https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30336792/I literally don't have a hobbyhttps://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30321189/I feel trapped in my own body (ADHD)https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/30303447/
>>33636363>>33636359I've been trying for years to do these hobbies and I can't. I can't figure any of them out. Even when I'm on medicine. Every hobby I try feels like a chore and not fun for me.
>>33636368>>33636362Chad
>>33636359I want to do these hobbies well. That's the issue. I have trouble getting started with anything. Everything feels like a chore.
>>33636343People are fucking dickheads about hobbies. If you try something there's always some asshole who is way too fucking smug about being better/more experienced than you and they always say that "you just like the idea of it" line. It pisses me the fuck off but it is present in most hobbies because there's always these pricks who ONLY do things with that hobby and almost nothing else in their free time. It really is discouraging. Which is why most of my hobbies are things I can do alone such as golfing, fishing, warhammer 40k, gaming, etc.
>>33636343>>33636362>>33636368based Howie noticerHe likes to shit up /ic/ as well, where this meme was born
>>33636343Are they correct? Why else would you not stay with a hobby, other than that you have a desparation to 'have a hobby' but refuse to do it properly?Maybe you aren't made to have hobbies. Why do you *need* a hobby in the first place? You don't. Nobody needs it. And to tell you the truth, though I have many hobbies, nothing fulfils me. I've been playing keyboard and though I make progress I feel empty. I read constantly and am left with more questions, more skepticism. I believe hobbies aren't fulfilling except for vapid people.
>>33636840Yeah I've heard this about basically every single hobby I've tried. I've tried multiple of them. Writing, drawing, Source Filmmaker, FireAlpaca, Gamemaker, and EVERY SINGLE TIME I have trouble, I get this exact same spiel from somebody.Even when I look art guides, I literally cannot comprehend them or figure them out. I don't want to be stuck with no creativity or being unable to express myself. This is what it's like for literally everything I try doing. I'm not able to try and keep up with any hobby. Even writing, I do it sporadically and very rarely. Stop giving me this reductionist bullshit.I'm not here to get attention, I'm not here because I "secretly don't like doing anything creative" I'm here because I want to fucking draw, write and make something. Now are you going to give me advice or not?
>>33636368>>33636362>>33636343Do you think this is just a series of shitposters or the original howie?
>>33636343Read this book, atomic habits by James Clear
>>33636865It’s definitely the original, the worst thing is I don’t even think he’s a troll I genuinely think he’s so low iq he forgets he posts here a few days later and just spams threads like it’s the first time No way a troll wouldn’t have gotten bored of this since 2023
>>33636890I've been having trouble even focusing long enough to read books.
>>33636362Well, if true OP, and you really do this, you have to stop having the temptation to just come here and ask questions about it because it does nothing. You either do what you want to do, or you don't. You have to stop having an "idea" of the thing, and instead, have a desire, and then persue that, and you will actually learn things, actually do things. You need to catch yourself when you drift into the weird lazy mentality of just giving up and thinking "eh, I don't wanna do it". I've fallen into a similar habbit years ago, and I made threads time and time again on this board about a problem I had that I kept struggling with over and over. In the case of my problem, I think it had to do with a deaper unerlying issue, but I wasn't finding the solution to that by posting again and again on the internet waiting for someone to just know my problem and find the mystery solution. I took into account in my life, real spirituality, and when I did that, learned more about Christianity, and sought out God, many problems I'd dealt with were fixed.
>>33636958Okay so how do I do this?
>>33636865I think the original howie got bored of 4chan over a year ago.I think 75% of all threads across multiple boards is just one very autistic/mentally ill dude pretending to be several characters.Like how Pear Anon is still posted these days on /fit/ mostly, only it's not even the original Pear Anon pics it's 240x320 thumbnails obviously saved off the archives in a hurryOr how we get the old classics resurface here on /adv/ like the guy who got naked for the doctor and her daughter, or the man with a son/parent/uncle/himself who is crippled and constantly force fed, some times in prison.
>>33636968It begins with intent and a will. You could try praying too. Also take your mind away from that which keeps you in a useless loop, like deny yourself, fast from things (which can be done for more than just food, take, gaming, your computer, the internet, etc). Also take walks. You can also pray, and even if it doesn't feel sincere or authentic, keep praying, and ask God to help you to pray, etc. You can begin things with a lack of pure intent and eventually have purity of intent because you sought to find it.
>>33637008and there's the old thing of "God will only meet you half way". God will not supercede your own will.
>>33637008>>33637016and another thing. TRAIN YOURSELF to not just default to the easiest thing, which is to expect things to be done for you or outsource your problem to other people. You won't be able to "do it all" right away, but that's not the point and you shouldn't overwhelm yourself with that. "doing it all" isn't actionable and no person who was capable of anything did so by just trying to "do it all", and that "do it all" thing I speak of is most likely what you, OP, are calling "the idea of it". Don't worry yourself too much about it, just have the goal, and persue it. Just to give a personal example, I've for a long time wanted to emulate games, and didn't do it because I had some worry that it was too complicated even before I even bothered to try it. I asked how, but didn't bother to do it, didn't bother to go out of my way and into the unfamiliar to be able to do it, and got it going in a day. Maybe that's not the best example, but it is one. If along the way you REALLY encounter roadblocks, that's when it's best to ask for help about it, and to seek it out, and when you do, you will have something more fleshed out for other people to work with, but if you ask about certain things, let's say computer related stuff, which have a lot to them, but you are literally at square 0, people may find it difficult to work with you on it, and you will find it confusing and overwhelming to work on it. That is where once again, the importance of a desire or intent comes in, that way, you have an idea of what you'd like to persue. You can also clarify your own approach and mindset, and someone might have the means to help you see your own issue, but that involves a little self knowledge. Perhaps I'm getting ahead of myself (or yourself) with that though.
>>33637120Hello newfag, he posts this everyday
>>33637408I'm not a newfag I just don't browse this board every single day.
Troll or not, op perfectly describes how I feel. Everything feels pointless and impossible. I want hobbies and yet none seem to actually interest me.
>bumping itFuck off howie
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