I am living with two extroverts. They live upstairs and I live downstairs. I was happy with this arrangement because I thought it meant that they would talk to each other and leave me alone unless I went upstairs (something I rarely do). I was wrong. They come down to visit me and knock on my door until I let them in. I didn't know that this was something that adults did. How do I make them stop? I just want to be left alone.
>>33636991Have you tried telling them that you are feeling low and would like to have some time to yourself?
>>33637210Yes. I have tried to explain that it isn't personal and that I am like this with everyone and I prefer being alone. It hasn't helped.
>>33636991Put a sign on your door that says “studying, please do not disturb”.If they knock ask them“Is there an emergency?”When they say no, say “ok” and close the door on them.If they continue to knock repeat the script until they go away.
>>33636991You have to cultivate an aura of unfriendliness, this can take some time, but once established it'll do most of the work for you.
>>33637564Sounds good honestly.>>33637693Any more to this?
>>33636991start asking them for money to buy drugs and say you're short on rent money every month for a while. Guaranteed they will stop talking to you.
>>33637912This works unless they are the type of person who wants to help out at first. Then they give the money and then they won't leave you alone until you pay the money back. If you do pay the money back, then they will be willing to do another loan and the cycle continues.
>>33637930the key is presentation: you have to come across as very needy and annoying so that even if they concede and give you the money they will avoid you and hope you won't ask again
>>33637912This seems a bit too involved. I am also a terrible liar.
>>33637564Normalfags don't read. Bad advice.Real answer is to get stern. You have to draw a line and you need to get unreasonably angry when they cross it. You should answer your door angrily as often as possible, and don't drop the act.
just set a boundary "Hey i dont like when you guy come downstairs and talk to me i dont have the social battery for human interaction"if they continue to cross that boundary start getting mean unless they come to your door with a genuine emergency
>>33638383This seems a bit extreme. Can I not just say "Hey, I prefer to spend time alone as opposed to socialising and this isn't anything personal I very much feel this way in general" I have said something similar before and it only lasted about a week. I just don't like the idea that I have to train people like I would with a dog.
>>33638628>if they continue to cross that boundary start getting meanHow do I do this?I am very bad at being mean.
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>>33638959Unfortunately, normalfags are absolutely retarded. You can try the other ways laid out so far, but don't be surprised when you keep getting bothered.
>>33639711Okay, you have convinced me. How do I play this then? I am not good at being assertive only passive and aggressive.
>>33638963Examples: Get loud, be a bitch, roll your eyes, slam your door, “This shit better be important I don’t want to fucking talk to you guys right now I’m literally busy doing (insert action)” “Why do you keep coming down here I literally told you guys I don’t want to fucking be bothered please respect that”“Can you fuck off im being serious right now” Make up a lie if none of these work “My online boyfriend just broke up with me I don’t want to fucking be bothered right now” “Guys my childhood cat died I would really like to be left alone”(Try to fake tears to really seal the deal)Only do these things after figuring out if they bothered you for something important You can only be a bitch if they don’t respect your boundaries these are people you live with they will learn to respect them if you’re a naggy bitch when they cross them however if you are a stuckup bitch everytime they come downstairs you they will take you less seriously and continue to disrespect you.
>>33639744>“Why do you keep coming down here I literally told you guys I don’t want to fucking be bothered please respect that”>“Can you fuck off im being serious right now”I think I can work with this. I think my plan is to warn them, emphatically, that I will not be nice if they violate my boundaries and then move on to these. Thank you!
