>>33639353
So you obviously some deep seated issues with self-esteem but idk how to help with that so instead why did these people dump you?

Answer is super easy, just hard to implement - you develop other areas of your life to feel good about, which will result in you being less dependant on a woman to feel whole and like you have value. One of the biggest ways to do that is by finding a sense of community somewhere, whether it be a common interest group, sports league, volunteering group, school group, mental health support group, pickball group, church, something. Somewhere you can, over time, find a sense of belonging. Just that alone will result in you being less needy and feel more value in your life, and yourself, as you will feel a part of something. Most people get really needs and codependent when they rely on their partner to fulfill all their social needs - getting involved with a community will fill a lot of them and help a ton

>>33639362
they don't usually give any real reason, it's stuff like "i don't think we're meant for each other" or idk, and they tend to be the avoidant types

>>33639375
that makes sense and i'm trying but i think i'm genuinely fucked, i have no friends, cant find a job with my useless degree, dont know what im doing in life,

>>33639382
None of that whiney shit has anything to do with the advice you were given. You aren't actually looking to do things to change, you're just here to bitch about your life and throw a pity party

>>33639429
what do

>>33639353
>I define my value off of how good I am with the opposite gender
Really, really, REALLY stupid idea

>>33639353
Be more discerning

I suspect you are a bit like me

I see the red flags, comments about previous encounters, the lack of effort, the slow replies and selfishness, and I plough ahead anyway because I "like" them. But I don't really. I just like that I'm on a date with an attractive girl, I like fucking them (even if they're selfish in bed), and I feel validated. I like how it makes me feel. It makes me feel desirable and attractive, and like I'm valuable, because a hot girl wants to sleep with me, because I have low self esteem.

Listen to >>33639375 and be more discerning - don't ignore red flags or obvious bad signs. End it when you get that gut feeling - ask yourself, has it ever been wrong? Mine hasn't. I got brutally strung along and ditched 2 months ago and I have finally vowed never to ignore or dismiss red flags again. Already ended it with two girls I knew weren't right long term, and that feels good. The shoe is on the other foot now.

Also get in the gym and do other hobbies. See more of your friends. Visit your parents. Take the dog out. Do shit to feel good about that doesn't revolve around filling the void inside with sex or attention from some girl

>>33639376
These girls want the chase. Withold affection, be selfish in bed, don't text for 3 days and they'll get obsessed - not because they like you specifically - but because they crave validation, and they get addicted to guys who withold and drip feed it. This is why assholes succeed with girls and nice guys don't