Pros:>She approached me>We exchange looks sometimesCons:>She never asked for my social media>She doesn’t seem very interested in me>She has a lot of male friendsShe probably doesn’t give a fuck about me and just approached me because we have a class together, right? I'm so stupid for creating expectations…
>>33639847Gonna be honest anon.. this kind of thing usually pops off fast if anything was gonna happen at all..>lots of guy friends Very frequently a red flag.
>>33639851>Gonna be honest anon.. this kind of thing usually pops off fast if anything was gonna happen at all..Yeah, I thought so… She just approached me out of kindness probably and I read too much into it.>Very frequently a red flag.What do you mean?
>>33639847psa: the 'is she interested' questions are 1000% uselessYou have to realize that, when you try to interpret signs, get in her head and guess what she thinks about you, it's basically impossible, way too many factors at play. in the end you're just overthinking and cockblocking yourself.a much more useful and successful mental model is to think about women as NPCs. they don't even know whether they're interested in you or not, until you've actively tried to fuck them. that's why the confidence and approach are so godam important.if you want to know your chances to fuck her, there is only one way: man up and try. there you'll have your answer, loud and clear.
>>33639847When women are interested in a guy they make it obvious and easy to reciprocate. If you think you're imagining interest, you probably are.And yeah if she has a lot of guy friends at best she's just collecting orbiters and simps and at worst has a dick squad. Either way they'd do nothing but compete for her attention against you.>I'm so stupid for creating expectationsExpectations are the root of all suffering. Purge yourself of them wherever you can.
>>33639857At best, shes surrounded by orbiters and shes just naive to that fact and if you ever did date her youd have to deal with dudes constantly in her ear about what a loser you are tryna one up you and, God forbid, if ever you have a disagreement or a low in a relationship (which is totally normal in relationships.. theyre up and down..) those voices have a lot more pull and she has more temptation to deal with. All things that, for you, is just endless needless stress.At worst shes a pick me attention girl who craves male interest and youll never really be her center. Just the dude shes currently fucking.
>>33639858We have two classes together, if I try anything and fail it would become awkward as fuck, we also always meet each other in the campus so I won't try anything until I'm sure she likes me, which she probably doesn’t but anyway.>>33639862Well, she did approach me out of nowhere and before that I noticed she looked at me sometimes so I thought she liked me but the lack of any new developments from her makes me think otherwise.
>>33639866Honestly though? She doesn’t seem to be that type of woman, she's really intelligent and looks a little introverted, and she's not hot or super pretty at all, but maybe appearances are misleading.
>>33639869>Well, she did approach me out of nowhere and before that I noticed she looked at me sometimesSo? People do random shit that all the time. People are weird like that. I've had girls approach me, give me eyes, and when I've tried asking them out I got shot down. There are times you can read into body language and there are times when you can't, this is one of those times you can't.
>>33639872You'll notice I provided 2 cases, and what you have described matches the first case...
>>33639893Thanks, I needed to hear that, I'm always setting myself up for disappointment because I create too many expectations over the smallest signs.
>>33639988Not him, but, 2 things you need to know.1. No one gets all the girls. No one. For every single person (even the mythical Chad incels shit their pants about) most women arent interested. Its not a pick and choose game. Dont be discouraged any individual woman doesnt like you. Thats normal. Youre supposed to be socially exposed and maximize how many women's radar youre on.2. Women are *painfully obvious* when they like you. You dont have to hum and haw and guess and wonder and read tea leaves. Theyre trying to walk around with you after class, theyre asking you questions about your life, your plans and interests, theyre finding every reason to talk to you, and telling you how boring and open their weekend is going to be.I used to be terrible with women. In hindsight, I remember doing what you're doing. Hyperfocusing on one woman analyzing her to the bone. But now, later, zoomed out, I cant count how many women I know now were interested and showing interest and I was whining to them about how forever alone I was over some other chick who wanted me to go the fuck away.Relax.
>>33639858I'm NOT OP but so what's the point of loving someone when the only sole reason is because they love you because you only love them? If you stop loving them, then their love ends.Ex. You get into huge depression. Your partner ditch you out as you're just a useless meat around.This is like you loving your parents but in reality they just need a caretaker tard for them to be taken care off once they grow old. Nothing is unconditional.So you're saying we tame bitches but once they've been tamed and you're gone for awhile. A new owner will tame em back just because you've been AWOL for X times (hours/days/months/years) sickness/health/job related.Comparing girlfriends to your best friends is where your best friends been with you through your worst and stuck with you for so long meanwhile meanwhile girlfriends are just unloyal hoes as the saying goes "bros before hoes". So even if you successfully charmed a girl, it's only a ticking time bomb before she gets a new one for replacement. Where will this girlfriend paradox end with actual mutual love?
