Was friends with a gay guy.

It's true in 99.9% of cases for straight men.

>>33642881
they might not be trying to have sex with you but if given the opportunity there's a 99% chance they would, unless they're gay.

>>33642881
They definitely can be. One of closet friends in college was a guy. Neither of us were attracted to each and we would burp and fart around each other all the time. Also drunkenly threw up outside of his house once when I was walking home and called him to ask if he would let me come in and wash the puke off my face lol (He did). We talked relationship drama often and would give each other advice from the opposite genders perspective. We knew each others parents. Was def a bro.

>>33642881
They are and you know it. There can be exceptions, but the guys in your life ARE NOT. And you know it. A big part of this is prioritizing your actual BF: don't set yourself up for failure by keeping other men around. Cut your lifelines and commit to one man. If you don't have a BF, not keeping other men around will increase your chances of getting one.

>>33642881
That's a simple-minded idea. Just because someone want to have sex with you doesn't mean they aren't your friend. It's not even necessarily actively intending to literally have sex. Males enjoy the presence of females, soaking in the beautiful inspiring feminine energy, and seeing where it leads.
> "People keep telling me my guy friends are only my friends to try to have sex with me and I'm hoping they're just generalizing and that it's not true."
Who is "people"? They are just being jealous, controlling crab bucket people. Don't take what "people" say literally, they are the ones with the agenda you should be paying attention to. They want to socially isolate you.

>>33642881
No, it's not true. Some men and women really can't be just friends, like Steve Harvey, so they assume everyone else is like that too. As to whether your friends want to fuck you, idk, depends on them as individuals. All I can say is I'm a man and I have female friends who I don't want to sleep with

>>33642975
This wreaks of insecurity

>>33642881
I have many female friends
it's true a lot of people approach one another because they are interested in the other person in some way and that way could usually be romantic at first but that quickly subsides.
I have some female friendships that are older than a lot of zoomers posting here, like from 2004 and stuff, she could come and sleep in her underwear in my bed and nothing would happen between us.

>>33642881
Nice to see TADC fanart in the wild so to speak
It only works if the man has no intention of pursuing the woman, and the man is also friends or at least acquainted with her boyfriend/husband.
All of my "female friends" are either married to my male friends or in serious enough relationships they might as well be married and I have no attraction or intention of seducing them.
I cannot and will not be friends with women I am very attracted to and/or see a reasonable chance of having sex with. Just how it is, saves us both trouble.

>>33643060
>I have some female friendships that are older than a lot of zoomers posting here, like from 2004 and stuff, she could come and sleep in her underwear in my bed and nothing would happen between us.
I'm 33 years old and nothing like this has ever happened between me and a "female friend." You either dropped the ball or your female friends might have legit thought you were a faggot.

>>33643274
I don't think she would come and do that, that was an example
anyways, yes last year while drunk we flirted a bit
but we wouldn't go further than that, as I said we're friends, we've given each other advice and helped when we were sick and stinky, there is little room for any romance to develop when we know each other's secrets as much as we do.
She knows I like barely legal teens and I know she can't be loyal to any man she's ever dated except one she really loved with all her heart, etc etc, we wouldn't do anything even if forced by horniness at this point.

>>33643274
Ofcourse you only think of that you porn zombie slop head dumbass

>>33642881
>my guy friends are only my friends to try to have sex with me
if you are a 6+ they at least have jerked off to you once and if they were drunk enough there would be attempt to get in your panties. Men are gonna men

In my experience, yes. I am done trying to be "cool" and giving men endless chances. They basically all want to fuck us or are lying about it. They will wait years and sneak attack you then play victim, or worse, undercut you in weird ways because they are too pussy to make a move and get rejected. You don't need a man as a friend
But I know you are gonna have to learn the hard way. That's fine

>>33642881
I got some girls I'm friends with. I didn't become friends with them for sex. Buuut I wouldn't say no if they offered

>>33642975
False.

Hang out with men that aren't single and their gfs. Being in a mixed friend group increases your own personal market value and filter out men intimidated by other males.

>>33644247
A man with a gf is still a man, even married men aren't safe as friends, they are some of the sluttiest men around

No guarantees. Friends you met at a young enough age and grew up with are often safe (see Westermarck effect, it doesn't just apply to family) but besides that it's completely up to impulses and signals. There's always some tension, I mean you're here thinking about them thinking about it, and there are many successful relationships that did start from a friendship. Sending signals that you are in a relationship and have other male friends, or keeping them at arms length while texting/hanging out is good but some men will try to ask you out anyway. Even as a man who's had platonic female friends and have been around others who are the same, I can't think of any clear traits you could select for to find these men. Good luck

It's probably true that men and women cannot be purely platonic friends, but I'll pose this another way: I would never be friends with a girl I wouldn't fuck. Sexual attraction is based on whether you perceive that person as being a good mate and mother to your child, and if they aren't mate material they aren't friend material either.

Gay guy here. I've been friends with women all my life, but the conclusion is, it's way easier to navigate friendships with straight men even though I'm attracted to them than friendships with women who are just fucking different.

>>33642881
It's not explicitly true. It is true in most scenarios, though. I used to be friends with a girl who fucked almost every dude in her friend group, got pregnant by more than one of them. I wouldn't have touched her if you paid me, but she was kind of fun to hang out with.

>>33643899
>you porn zombie slop head dumbass
Bro it's not porn brained to know that a woman getting into her undies in front of you has subtext no matter what you think.
A girl I was hanging out with "non-sexually" once stripped in front of me. Do you think we just "hung out" that night? No, she tried to fucking seduce me and cheat on her boyfriend with me (which I declined because I knew the guy and she was batshit insane, later threatened to cut me with a tanto blade lol)
Anyway I think you're just actually in the closet, you got really angry at that suggestion LMAO

its true. moids have no morals, AMALT

>>33642881
There are guy friends, and then there are "those guys". The biggest problem is that "those guys" are total pussies who won't just ask the girl out, and most women are either autistic and assume none of their friends would want to fuck them, or they know a guy wants to fuck them but don't want to give up the extra attention.

The real answer is less than these 4chan incels would have you believe, but it's probably more than you think if have to ask the question here to begin with.

>>33642881
If you're past menopause then yeah
Otherwise no, too much unfertilized egg for guys to be comfortable.