I’ll be clear. Girl I’m dating for 1.5 months makes me initiate (99% of the time) our dates/plans. I asked her out on saturday, she has a birthday. Then I asked her again on monday, she has the flu… Although those excuses were indeed true, something feels off. It’s been 48h since my last message acknowledging her flu. She hasn’t texted. Also she never re-schedules, that’s on my part always, guessing when she’s able.For the record, we’ve fucked, went on vacations, the dates are actually really fun, we’ve got gifts from each other, but she never texts first. Like ever.Should I keep chasing or not? I don’t mind chasing but at this point I’m second guessing myself.This is probably not even worth a post, but anyways. Thanks
>>33645606this is kind of a bad flag. is she like this in real life too? maybe it could just be a comms issue with textingI suggest that you try to do more with her in person, including making plans for future dates.If this is equally bad, you should stop wasting your time when you feel you have enough
>>33645881In real life everything goes silky smooth, we say “ooh we gotta go to X another day”, it’s just on the texting part that she’s… careless. She does this with her friends too, never texts. Anyways, I think I’ll text her tomorrow to hang out on the weekend; if this doesn’t work, then I guess that’s it. It’s not really a “double text” I think.Thanks for your insight
You fucked her already, just leave her be. If she was interested she would have texted you first.
>>33645606if you actually like her next time you see her say clearly how you don't like the fact that you are always initiating conversations and making plans while it looks like she doesn't put in the effort. If she likes you for real she will try or at least you'll get a better explanation. Anyway TALK about it with her before taking a decision.
>>33645606Is she present when you two are together or is she distracted using her phone or not giving you attention?
>>33645606NoHave some self-respect OP. You initiated what, two/three times in a row? Just leave it.Whenever I've done this, invariably I end up getting strung along and ditched. U less you're 100% happy with this being a casual arrangement, I would call it a day here. You don't need to tell her you're out, just don't text her. If she texts you one day then great, you can decide if you wanna go back there. But I would strongly recommend that you leave it.
>>33646193This OP, from experience. In dating, you absolutely must learn that you cannot be the one to make all the effort. Do your bit, take the lead and initiate - but don't be a beggar. Otherwise you're communicating to her that "it's okay for you to make zero effort and for me to do everything", which, presumably, is NOT how you feel. If you want her to make an effort, you have no choice but to withdraw and see if she meets you in the middle. If she doesn't, congrats, you filtered a selfish PoS who was using you out of your life.
