I'm going to a party soon with my bf and his friends. There is a chance that some or most of the people attending will go skinny dipping at one point.My bf says he thinks everyone will go, which makes me slightly uncomfortable because I have never ever gone skinny dipping, or to a nudist beach. The only person that has seen me naked (with the exception of my parents when I was a babe) is my bf of 5+ years. He is my first and only bf.I'm so worried now because I feel like I will just be the odd one out again, but I also don't want to make myself uncomfortable just to fit in with them. I don't get the principle either.I don't see why people enjoy the "skinny" part of skinny dipping. Is it such a revolutionary thing to forgo a swimming suit? I just don't understand what the benefit of going swimming naked with his friends and their girlfriends is.I have one girl friend who I went swimming with a couple of times. And even when I was changing into my swimsuit, I didn't want her to see my body.To me, it's natural that one does not wish to be seen naked.So I am at an impasse. Either I make myself uncomfortable and go with them so I am not left out once again as a weirdo, or I don't go but seem like a prude or oddball or whatever.
Nah you got mad weird ""friends"" you ain't the odd one out, you just got a shitty circle. Just have some swimwear underneath and be done with it. Skinny dipping with people you know is almost as weird if not weirder than with strangers
>>33648574Be the odd one out.Have you had sex with your bf?
>>33648642They're more my bf's friends than mine, I got into the friend circle because of him.He, for example, grew up in nudist culture (I didn't), and funnily enough, the topic never came up until we were together for a few yrs already. It's so weird to me, just as its weird to him that I would prefer being in a swimsuit.And yeah, ehat you said last is my point exactly. I don't want to see his friends' genitalia. I get that that is not the reason for skinny dipping, more so its about not being """restricted""" by swimwear, but who would choose that comfort if the price of it was your friends seeing you butt naked?I'd only go swimming naked if I was alone or just with my bf. >>33648663I think I will have to be. I am hoping though, that in the end they will be too drunk or it will be too cold. Yes, we have had sex.
>>33648750Bad bait. Nudist culture is fucking hilarious though.
>>33648771It isn't bait. The party is this weekend. I am genuinely at a loss at what to do.
>>33648885Wear swimsuit. Done. They can kick rocks, you'll be far more comfortable than being buck naked sis
>>33649179Thats the plan rn if it comes down to it. It still seems silly to me because someone is bound to comment or say something or ask, if I'd be the only one not naked. The things I do to socialise.
>>33648574if you really feel too uncomfortable with that, i would just be open about it and ask if it's ok for THEM if you'll wear a swimsuit/bikiniif you maybe consider doing it, then go for it. the weird feeling will pass quickly. can't explain why, but if everyone is naked, it equals everything again and skinnydipping does feel amazing. you'll see.if something weird should happen or some dude behaves like an asshole, call it out and get somewhere safe
>>33649331Why should I ask them if they're okay with me being clothed? That seems as much less of an imposition to me than the other way around. I should ask them if it's okay to be clothed so as to not make them uncomfortable just cause they are in the majority? I don't get it. If the point is just them not being constricted by swimwear, and the nakedness is just a byproduct, why should they care if I'm naked or not? That just means (to me) that the "relief" of not wearing swimwear is not worth being naked in front of them.
>>33649358not because "they are in the majority". there is no majority if every person there, is THERE to be nude. and asking in a relaxed open way "hey guys, i've never done this and am a bit nervous about it and wanted to ask if it's ok if i'll wear a swimsuit (at first)"by asking this way you explain your situation just honestly and also not make it about yourself but wanting to make sure they're ok with it, which is respectful and humble. there are nudist beaches that are strict about being nude, so it actually is a legitimate question. therefore you're also showing that you know, that this might be a thing.can't imagine someone actually having a problem with it, and there's gonna be a load of awkwardness of your shoulderanybody making a total scene about this should not be in your friendcircle in the first place
>>33649418Yeah, but we are not going to a strictly nudist beach. We will be by ourselves in a flat or something similar, and probably in the afternoon/evening. I don't get what is polite about me asking their permission or explaining myself. Unless they knew I was mentally challenged, would they not assume that I do not wish to partake in nudity if I have swimwear on? Idk it feels weird to me. I wouldn't expect them to ask me if I am olay with them being nude, so it seems just as strange that I should ask them if they are okay with me not being nude. There is no wish on my side to wear swimwear just at first, and then remove it. I don't want them to see my genitalia just as I dont want to see their dicks etc.
>>33649418To add to that, if I change the scenario: if we were out drinking, and most of them drank alcohol, would I have to ask them if they are okay with me not drinking? If the point of the activity is (as I've been persuaded many times) just swimming in the nude, and not actually focusing on the nudity of others, why should it matter if I am nude or not? Seems like it is up to the individual, the way you explain it though, more like peer pressure. They want to play at being naked monkeys on the beach, and I have to join just because I am the only one uncomfortable with that? So I don't make them more uncomfortable? Makes no sense to me
>>33649426well then just don't participate.no one is gonna stare at your tits or ass. we're all the same.dear lord someone is naked! i'll better poke out my eyes because...i saw something 3-4billion people have in common??
>>33649455Im trying to understand why you think I'd need their permission.
>>33648574Fucking kek.Huge lesson in life: Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing or have principles about. If you don't want to do this, then don't do it. It's really simple.Also, they are the weird ones. This isn't really normal. Most people would find what they're doing to be unusual and uncomfortable.Personally, I like doing this sort of thing, and have done it before with friends, along with other nude/sexual related stuff. I greatly enjoy it. But I would never pressure someone else into it. If your friends aren't assholes, then they should have no problem with you not being comfortable with it. If they act like pricks over it, then they are not really your friends. AND your boyfriend should stand up for you and your boundaries if they do start pressuring or mocking you. If he doesn't do that, then he is a shitty boyfriend, and you should address that problem. If, after all that, he is still being shitty, then start thinking about detaching and looking for another one.These are all lessons better learnt now than later.
>>33649555I guesa I can only wait and see if it even happens, and if it does, how people will act. I'l probably just say I either don't feel like it or that I'm cold already and I don't want to get sick as an excuse, idk. I'll pack some swimsuits if I will feel like joining but that might just raise new questions, and even so, I don't want to see them naked. And I know I would still feel out of sorts as the odd one out. Hopefully there will be someone else with the same opinion there and I won't be the only "prude". The way my bf mentioned it, it seemed to me as if he is more concerned with how they will feel about me not participating, than me feeling potentially uncomfortable (we've discussed nudism generally as well and we are just complete, absolute opposites). He said he is curious what my reaction would be like, but I don't think he gets how much I hope that no one will suggest skinny dipping so we don't even have to cross that bridge.Also, as a sidenote, I guess the main difference is how we view nudity: to me it is absolutely interlinked with sex and intimacy, which you share with one person. So considering nudity is part od that, I don't want to share the view of my body with others. To him, I guess it feels less restricting and to him nudity can be non-sexual (such as at nudist beaches). But here's the thing: even if you aren't doing it for sexual reasons, you can still be sexualised much easier than if you were clothed. Someone can easily photo or video you or just generally, idk, enjoy the view od your body. And to me it seems natural that I would only want my man to enjoy how I look completely nude, as it is much more special. He is the only one that doesn't have to leave anything to the imagination.
>>33649578>it seemed to me as if he is more concerned with how they will feel about me not participating, than me feeling potentially uncomfortableHow immature
