At what point in a relationship should I disclose my financial situation w/ my partner?I'm 33 M , I started dating a woman around my age 6 months ago, and now we are talking about moving in together. We have since the gecko been spending tons of time together (typically at her place because she has pets), so I think living together would go smoothHowever, we have also started talking a bit about finances due to exterior motives. Like cost of real state and the likesRight now I'm unemployed. What I tell people is that I quit my corporate job to chill for a year while chasing some artistic projects. I live a simple life, I can afford stuff but not crazily (my cost of living is definitely cheaper than hers)The truth however is that I'm actually anti-work and I ideally don't plan to work again. I amassed a decent amount of money in the past couple of years, to a point that the passive income I get from that covers all my life costs and more.When is I expected to share such things? Typically I don't tell anyone about my financial condition (other than my mom and my best friend), but I feel like eventually I should disclose that with my partnerWondering whether I should tell her this before we moving in together, or later on like in 6+ months
>>33649949Never say shit
>>33649999I don't mean giving out all the details (or even bringing up offshore accounts). I just mean that given that our society expect us to spend our entire life chasing money to buy random shit, might be relevant to bring up the fact that I'm not gonna be doing any of thatNo?Sounds reasonable to set expectations. I'm not someone to be with if she wants to be rich
if you already fed her some bullshit about eventually going back to work even though you know you won't, your relationship is already doomed. ambition and work ethics are a very important topic (even more so than politics or religion) and she will feel immense betrayal when she eventually figures it out. the shame will also be unbearable. hint: she will take your defense when her relatives will inevitably bug her about dating an unemployed man, and she will feel even shittier afterwards when they tell her 'see, I was right about him'but I'm not judging. if you're a total psychopath, don't mind any of this and want to live the neet/leecher life, do it, get her pregnant asap, and start isolating her.
>>33650141>if you already fed her some bullshit about eventually going back to workI tell *other* people occasionally about the year off (when asked), but with her I never really talked about it/she never really asked. When we first met I was still working, then I burned out and left my job. This happened in June I believeI do have a lot of ambitions actually, they are not just career-oriented. But IMO they are bigger than the average person (who would hold a regular job and never accomplish anything meaningful)>if you're a total psychopathI'm not though, I believe in healthy relationships and in aligning expectations. For instance, I don't expect my partner to support me financially, and I'm in a position that I could potentially support her to a moderate degree, as well as move to other places if her career take us there. Putting aside our society's compulsion of "must have a job" , I'm actually a solid choice as a partner. I'm just not... an orthodox choiceI guess that's ultimately what I feel like I should eventually bring up. The fact that I would not be an orthodox husband with a regular job
>>33650141>>33650193Also, to be clear, I never pretended to be an orthodox man/boyfriend. I'm pretty clear/upfront about my eccentricitiesHeck, I didn't even tell her my real name lol
It really depends on how much passive income you make, how reliable it is, and whether you plan to start a family. If your monthly income is enough to reliably support a family she will likely be thrilled. If you don't want to work and plan to be in poverty forever she deserves to know. Consider too that as you get older, health expenses will go up.Have you considered starting a business? Good way to work only as hard as you want without the stigma of being a bum. If you really cover all your expenses now, it doesn't really have to be profitable, just break even and write off expenses to make sure you aren't paying any income tax.
>>33650259>It really depends on how much passive income you makeWell according to my math I should re-invest some of my passive income to fight off inflation. After discounting that, my passive income is decent - not insanely great, but decent. This is of course without taking consideration a few tricks I might have on my sleeve (for instance, I only account 80% of my liquid wealth, since 20% is off shore on another country)Also worth taking in consideration my family does fairly well, though I own my 2-bedroom apartment I could easily take over the family home for free, which could definitely hold a family rent-free. Plus, if anything does happen with my mother, I would inherit a shitload amount of money that would likely double my current net worth>whether you plan to start a familyWe haven't get to that discussion yet but I'm ok either way. If desperate, I *could* potentially go back to working in times of need since I do have a degree in tech and a pretty decent CV (atm)>Have you considered starting a business?Uhhh... I have but not sure I'm cut for it. Sure, breaking even/writing off expenses does sound like a nice idea, but I don't have any particular business in mind that I would like to do. Though desu my anti-conventional-career lifestyle does mean I'm ok taking random jobs every now and then (part of my assumption is that, with a very solid passive income, any additional income is awesome)I do plan however to eventually make money of my artsy stuff. That could become a business in itself
