Someone I care about is in a psych ward after trying to kill herself. How long can I expect her to be in there for?I plan on calling every day, is this a good idea?Should I try to visit despite living on the other side of the world and her saying she didn't want me to see her like this?If you've been in one before for a similar reason, what was your experience of it?
yes i was in a mental hospital. I'll kill myself one day and everyone will be happy ^^
i ended up in hospital under a strange set of circumstances and i was under the strange influence of pills for several months, i developed paranoia during the treatment
i hope you will help your close dear person if you care about him. GOOD LUCK
call more often, but remember that personal take away gadgets
>>33651233I have no problem with that (besides timezone awkwardness) since I managed to get the number of the ward she's in and they have no issue patching me through to her. Unfortunately I had no idea what to talk about today so the call ended quite quickly. What sort of topics would be good for next time?
>>33651261can i ask about your general well-being?
>>33651294Besides this I'd say I'm doing pretty well. Why do you ask?
>>33651091look not wanting to judge but id assume for your text is someone you only know online? caring for the others is a good thing but caring that much for someone you dont know irl might say a bit about your well being specially the part of wanting to travel to where that person is I'd say take care of yourself first but dont forget about your friend
>>33651091she should know she shouldnt try to speak up too much bc this might be the reason they will keep her there for longer time. same for crying. as long as she acts "normal", everythings ok and she will be back soon. idk if thats her first time there or no. but if it is, she should know that
>>33651309i hope everything will be okay with her and with you
>>33651091What was your relationship with her? The length varies. It could be as early as 2 weeks, or as long as 6 months or more. If she is still suicidal it's not a bad place to be. It's damn difficult to kill yourself when you're under constant surveillance and monitoring in an area free of tools or resources to pull it off.Tough to say if calling rvery day is a good idea or not. She has the ability to make calls herself. You might be putting excess stress on her. Or you might be keeping her together. Only she knows the answer to that one. Regardless, she'll be doped up on drugs in a psych ward so she won't have a clear mind.No. Do not force a visit if she isn't comfortable with it. Respect her boundaries. My personal experience was spending the day in a room with everyone else of my age group. No tv, no radio, just us at a table playing cards or board games. All electronics removed. Not a lot to do, but while the docs find a balance of medicine that works for you, you're not able to do a lot anyway. Some therapy, some medicine, some time aloned in a padded cell if you need the time to yourself.Between the brain fog, the lost time, and the general stress of having failed a suicide attempt, it sucks. You're in a bad spot. The second lowest spot of your life. Second after the time you decided to make the attempt originally. It gets better eventually, but that's a long process. You're not the you used to be, and any interaction with people who expect that from you is painful, difficult, and kinda sucks. That was just me, though. She might feel differently. Talk it out. See what she wants and is comfortable with. Go from there.
>>33652348Thank you very much for the detailed reply. I'm glad to know she's probably safe, if nothing else.>What was your relationship with her?I'm her (long-distance) boyfriend. From what I've heard from her roommate I'm basically the only thing that makes her consistently happy and she talks about me a lot.>The length varies. It could be as early as 2 weeks, or as long as 6 months or more.I see. Last time (before we were dating) she was in one for about a month, so I imagine it might be similar.>She has the ability to make calls herself. You might be putting excess stress on her.To me these would be international calls and she hasn't learned my number yet (and probably can't in this state), which makes things a bit difficult. >You might be putting excess stress on her. Or you might be keeping her together.Would it be worth asking her straight-up? If it's what she wants I won't call, but I think it might help her to know that some people (not just me) care very deeply about her.>she'll be doped up on drugs in a psych ward so she won't have a clear mind.When she was still on the regular ward she sounded alright most of the times I called. The first call, there was a huge amount of regret in her voice but she did seem happy to hear from me. Calling her last time (in the psych ward) she sounded absolutely horrendous. >See what she wants and is comfortable with. Go from there.Will do.
Got off the phone with her again. She sounded a lot better today and said I should just call her whenever and she should be out in a week or so. So I guess you can consider this thread solved.
