When do you know it's the right time to break up with a girl vs continuing to work on the relationship to improve it?
anything worth salvaging the relationship for? kids? house?anon, life's too short to waste it on women who break your balls
>>33654506Nothing related to kids / assets.Spent 2.5 years with her...
>>33654620if you're unsure, look for a side-piece and reevaluate
>>33654628I'm looking for a woman that will eventually become my wife. Not interested in side pieces.
>>33654456my strategy is: if the woman is not perfect for me, I find another one
>>33654862I know that no one is perfect and that you evolve and get better with one another but at what point do you say "there's just too much to work on"?
>>33654456They all suck. If you can make it two years, that is good enough. If she’s an idiot, your kids will be a disappointment to you. Otherwise almost any gal will do.
It's a gut thing. Yeah theres some logic to it but at the end of the day you have to intuit whether or not this relationship has a future.Do you want the same things in life? Can you disagree/argue and stay respectful? Can you TRUST them?You say you're looking for a wife. The point of marriage is to raise children in a stable environment. Do they have mother potential? That means they can take care of themselves at a minimumYou're the only one that sees them in private. You have to make this call. Outside perspectives can be helpful with some problems but at the end of the day YOU have to live with them
>>33654869I was also deluded in the past. Now I know that the perfect one doesn't give me trouble
>>33654880You'll never find the perfect one with that logic man.
>>33654883you can have this defeatist speech if it serves you. I'll not be deluded by your memes
>>33654873This, my gf is pretty much a moron and I had to hard confirm to her that I dont want kids with her. Other than that she's tolerable.
>>33654883This, desu. If you expect the perfect girl to fall into your lap you're headed for a lot of disappointment.Relationships are work. That's why young marriages and/or arranged marriages are a thing. They're all pretty much the same deep down; you just need to work on communication and negotiation and grow together.
>>33654943What's the point then?
>>33654886Not him but... dude people arent perfect. A domestic relationship is taking two glorified gorillas (who dont think theyre basically gorillas) and putting them in an enclosed space together. Conflict is inevitable.One of the most important skills in a successful relationship is conflict resolution. Because trouble is part of the package. Its about what trouble yoh can tolerate, to what degree, and what kind of trouble you bring and how your partner manages that.
>>33654456When you stop wanting to fuck her
>>33654620Sunk-cost fallacy. Just be sure that you really want to break up and won't regret it later.
>>33654877This 100%, its also very much dependent on the severity or scale of the problem(s) of the relationship too. I think once you get hit in the gut within a real life moment or clash, it creates a Flashpoint where you truly know YOUR answer. As for weighing your choices..It's important to zoom out and look at the picture as a whole, if there's factors at hand that make the long term sustainability and possible coexistence living together far too unrealistic or impossible then sometimes it's for the best to go seperate ways. However if you really want her anon, and she really wants you then it will feel right to do such no matter the odds. Love is irrational, but not always.
