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Why does confidence have to be a requirement to get women?
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Because women like it.
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Women want partners, not children or little brothers they need to take care of
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>>33656394
why wouldnt it
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>>33656394
don't be unnatural
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>>33656400
Why don't men care about having to take care of their wives like a child?
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>>33656645
Because both parties have to be adults in order to raise a family.
Women generally get their way cus there are less of them
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>>33656413
Have you ever stopped talking to someone just because they weren't confident?
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>>33656400
this, they already have a pussy they don't need another one
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lack of confidence indicates a major problem with a person, the same way that sallow skin and bad teeth is a signal of poor health
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>>33656716
>lack of confidence indicates a major problem with a person
if that were true than all women would have a major problem
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>>33656394
Because women are physically weak and need men to protect them from predators. If you can't then she can find someone else who can.
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>>33656846
When will we grow out of our outdated caveman instincts?
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>>33656889
Never. Either adapt or go buy your VR headset.
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i wont read chin scratchers autistic wonderings on the advice board
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>>33656394
The only requirements are the ones you made up yourself.
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>>33656700
Is this a thing people do? Is this why people don’t want to talk to me?
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>>33656394
its not limited to women, most social interactions suffer if you lack a certain degree of confidence.

why wouldn't it be that way?
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>>33656394
Because men without confidence are unpredictable and unreliable to solve shit.
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>>33656889
they're not outdated. other men exist. other men can be aggressive sex perverts. many men in public like to menace good looking women when they can tell her bf or husband lacks confidence.

to feel good going out in public doing things with you, and especially to have children, she needs to know you deter other men with your affect before conflict even begins. any woman who has dated a big strong confident guy can tell you how awesome it is to get to go in public and not have any other men even try again. they seek out men that give that life to them and that will never go away
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Having 0 confidence is a huge bane in life. It will affect you in every aspect. Your job, relationships, social life, education, hobbies, everything
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>>33656394
I'll be real with you here but most women out there are dumb. The smart ones out there are exploitative.

Most women out there don't know much about themselves. They don't know much about reality. They want their partner to initiate most for them. At this point you'll start feeling like a father figure to them because they've never really gotten close to their parents.

If you feel like a sucker on that one girl, just imagine about a girl going after a boys. Their approach are far more worse than any loser male you've ever known. Of course unless they sexually appease themselves to males, that's the only way they could go for and nothing else. They can't do that if they know they're not your type or they'll look like a slut to your eyes.

It's not about confidence much it's about doing the shit what needs to be done because they can't do those shit themselves. Don't forget why women are unreliable for most jobs out there.
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>>33656645
honestly? because it's cute, but she needs to know when it's time to step up and then fucking step up without failure
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>>33656394
Because women already have a pussy, they don't need another one
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>>33656394
It's actually not a requirement for all women, but it is a requirement for you if you want to live your life well.
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>>33657160
based wont read poster keeping autists in line
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>>33656700
I have. Actually having to deal with people in any capacity who constantly worry complain make excuses because they don't feel confident in doing something, is fucking annoying and exacting.

If this seems alien to you it's because you're either autistic or never dealt with it yourself.
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>>33658508
annoying and exhausting*

thank you autocorrect very cool
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Don't. You'll get thrown out of two bars like what just happened to me last night.
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>>33656394
It's not. But the women/relationships you get being unconfident are not worth it, better off being alone. Relationships like that are how you end up with situations like Chris Watts.
But generally, women want the man to be the yang to their yin, someone to complement them. No one can be everything. A healthy minded women cultivates herself as a treasure that is beautiful, graceful, nurturing, agreeable, gentle. Treasure needs to be protected, someone else needs to do the protecting.
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Imagine dating someone who is constantly insecure about everything and needs constant reassurance every time his ego takes a hit. Does that sound like a fun time to you? Confidence isn't about being some overly dominant Chad all the time, it's about not being a whiny faggot about everything and being able to handle the stresses that life throws at you. Confidence just means you say "I can do this" or "this thing that happened bothers me but I won't let it ruin my day and make everyone around me just as miserable as me"
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>>33658768
>Confidence just means you say "I can do this"
Golly I wonder what sort of reinforcement is necessary over a lifetime to have that thought pattern
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>>33658768
>Confidence just means you say "I can do this"
And what if you can’t?
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I dated a woman who had zero self-esteem whatsoever and I had to drop her very quickly. It's just not worth it. So I think this confidence thing works both ways. You should work on your confidence, but also pay attention to woman's self-esteem.
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>>33659686
>pay attention to woman's self-esteem.
Too little is annoying. Too much and she thinks she can do better
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>>33656394
You just need good looks + genetics.

Remember confidence + ugly = creepy.
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>>33656394
When women say they like "confidence" what they actually mean is they like guys who are tall and attractive. Everything such a man does will be perceived as confidence in women's eyes.
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>>33658768
What if I'm not confident but I never talk to other people about my lack of confidence?
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>>33656695
This is not true. There are more women than men.
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Because confidence is a sign of competence. (Not 100% accurate, but far better than the opposite).
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>>33662038
Note that there is a difference between "quiet confidence" and "showboat poser confidence".

Brave Apache warrior never brag about his many ponies....
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>>33656394
I won't read chin-scratcher subhuman's complaints that the sun comes up in the morning. It just does, obviously.
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>>33656645
Patriarchy means you're the leader. And a true leader takes care of those weaker.
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>>33656394
Because women don't know what they're doing, and don't like having to use their brain.
If they feel like you know what you're doing, they can feel good and shut their brains off 100% of the time. This is the desired state of mind for most women, so they go for confident guys.
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>>33662886
That's a rather douchey way to put it. For sane women, they want to be able to focus on their kids or other social relationships and you focus on providing. They're not turning off their brain, just focusing on something different.
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>>33656394
cuz the violent gotta take it by force
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>>33656394
Because women are the ones with real power. They are the class that chooses who the next generations of humans will be, and they can choose to not have you in it, so it's on you to play their game. Their game requires confidence because without it you wouldn't ever benefit them if they chose you, since you can't go gather resources for them. It absolutely is some total apebrained shit, but it's also factual reality because we are literally some kinda ape that just lucked out with opposable thumbs and went from there. You can hate the game, hate the players, play the game, or quit the server entirely.
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>>33660475
You become the stoic dad that everyone relies on but kills himself in his mid 50's because he can't fucking do it anymore and has no outlet left but a load of buckshot to the brainstem.
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>>33662063
>Note that there is a difference between "quiet confidence" and "showboat poser confidence".
Yeah, one gets you women and one doesn't. Surprise, it's the latter that gets women wet. Not a single fucking women alive cares about the quiet autist in the corner being a virtuoso at his craft or making millions off crypto. At best they will want the money those success earn him, but they will literally never want "him" or anything he is.
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>>33656394
Evolutionary psychology. Why don't you like crippled infertile smelly antisocial schizophrenic women?
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>>33656394
idk I just fake it anyways, if they say something that hurts me I just pretend it doesn't, and don't react.
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>>33663921
I never understand the idea of having confidence in everything, being tied to your ability of confidence in one thing. They could call me ugly, it would shatter my confidence, it doesn't mean I can't pick up twigs. It's kind of retarded. Like confidence needs to be 100%, and never go below that.
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a lot of retarded normie brown women have found 4chan which is why there are so many retard takes. These are the kinds of ghetto bitches that do regular shit tests, they were supposed to be sequestered from this place, but lo and behold they have found it, and nested here. Shit testing guys is retarded.
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>>33657554
>Most women out there don't know much about themselves. They don't know much about reality. They want their partner to initiate most for them.
Should be framed somewhere for advice about women.
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>>33662038
That's not true at all or even close to true, you are just retarded, and are easily manipulated.
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>>33664080
>That's not true at all or even close to true
Why?
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>>33664083
what do you mean by confidence? How do you observe this confidence? I did read someone's attempt at distinguishing between showboaty confidence, but still even non showboaty confidence is frauded often. So many people are faking it until they make it. I've lied through my teeth at job interviews with fake confidence, and gotten jobs. It's really easy to fake.
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>>33664008
And women wear makeup
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>>33664097
>what do you mean by confidence?
The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.
>It's really easy to fake.
They hired you because you seemed confident, though, not because you were faking it. And confidence is a sign of competence. Are you suggesting there's some alternate reason they hired you other than you seemed confidence and competent? I'm honestly confused what point you're trying to make.
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Take a few years of dance lessons. Learn to lead and not step on anyones toes. Then you will understand why women value confidence (women can literally close their eyes and follow your lead)
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>>33664097
>because I lied no one anywhere is actually competent and therefore confidence doesnt indicate competence
Are you faking being a retard too?
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>>33664187
Ok fine go ahead, and get manipulated because you are retarded. Most people are retards, a retard's confidence is meaningless. It's not hard to decieve someone and act confident. I could make women think I'm confident, and they would eat it up. Kek, make sure you test competence. Instead of this guy acts like he could protect me, why don't you see if he actually can. Anyways, this is retarded, and you are retarded if you can't even understand what I am saying.
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another kek too at how many dudes abandon their women when they are in real danger, I've seen a lot of youtube videos of some crazy thing happening, and the dude just runs off without his woman. I bet those women thought those guys would be there for them too. You haven't realized the truly selfish nature of people.
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>bitches be like omg he took me street racing in his whip he's so confident he'll never crash this car. Or the same thing with fat bitches on the back of a boomer's chopper.

Then you are roadkill. It's just retards being impulsive, and you mistake that as confidence.
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>>33663982
>antisocial schizophrenic
sounds like my type of woman
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>>33664314
>I've seen a lot of youtube videos of some crazy thing happening, and the dude just runs off without his woman.
Honestly? Based.
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>>33656394
People who complain, are negative all the time, lack confidence are unpleasant in general. It doesn't matter if they're male or female. I've had cut ties with both male and female friends for those reasons, life is shitty as it is I don't need another retard to remind me of that. Complaining about something is human, but complaining and being a negative whining little bitch every single day of your life is repellent almost.
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>>33664885
but why
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"Confidence" might be the biggest psyop of all time.
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>>33664885
I enjoy interacting with people like that, definitely a you problem. People who aren't little bullshitting faggots that deny reality are my favorite.
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>>33665536
the Holocaust would have been justified if it only targeted people that fall for confidence. they are ruining the world
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>>33656394
Weak men ick women
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>>33656394
Because confidence literally comes from feeling superior to other men

It's "proof" of status. Obviously some great guys have 0 confidence and some dickhead shave max confidence, but in general, more confident people will have better jobs, more friends, more interesting hobbies, be in better shape etc.
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>>33656394
good and simple heuristic forged by evolution
confident men are more likely to have their shit together
this can however cause huge errors in women. falling for narcissists/cocaine users/alcoholics, etc.



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