How the fuck am I meant to deal with rejection? And why am I meant to just treat it like a natural part of dating as a man? Why is it so unfair? I would understand if the girl had a valid reason and could explain it, hell I'd probably even agree with her, but that's never the case. It's always some soft rejection bullshit. Girls which are my age, have similar hobbies, have similar lives, and are currently single and looking for a boyfriend reject me. Again and again. And I'm fine with accepting responsibility, but no one will tell me what I'm doing wrong or what's so bad about me that they want to hang out with me and spend time with me as a friend, but don't like me enough to just take it to the next level.I followed all of the basic advice. I even read Carnegie's book on social skills. I'm putting myself out there. Why am I dealing with so much rejection? What's wrong with me? How do I even find out so I can fix it? It's this fucking vagueness that's killing me, I don't even know what I'm doing wrong and no one will tell me what it is
>>33658866I know getting rejected sucks, but it's not the worst thing either. You may not appreciate or believe what I'm about to tell you, but I hope it helps, if just a little. I've had several near-death experiences and they were so horrifying that the other problems in my life that I used to dwell on became so small in comparison that I learned to appreciate my circumstance.
>>33658866You're not good looking enough probably. They won't tell you that because they don't want to seem shallow.
>>33658866Regarding women I think the correct mentality is to let it happen if it happens and if it doesn't just focus on other goals. Let's say you do find a woman you get along with, what are you going to do afterwards? Besides spending time with her and potentially the children you would have. Do you have any other interests? Do you feel an obligation to contribute with your genes and parenting in this world or do you just want to get with a women to make you feel good?
>>33660030If she was rejected multiple times it means that at least he got matches. He is good looking.
>>33658866>You're not my typeIs a valid explanation.>I don't like youSame as above.>...This is as valid as it gets. Strangers don't really owe anyone an explanation about their feelings, specially when other strangers can be exploitative about it.Carnegie is a book for salesmen. Plus you're probably not following the tenet of "Be genuinely interested in people". Otherwise you wouldn't be whining.What's your outlook on life, and tell me why should anyone find that desireable?What, you feel in a trap? That's because you are in one. Getting a girlfriend has nothing to do with the justice of this world, it's all about the wants of other people magically aligning with yours.
>>33661912I never stated anything to the contrary
>>33661912My point is that either way it's important to appreciate what you have.
