>go on hinge>match with cute girl>she's only visiting the country as a tourist, and is leaving soon>under her relationship type it says "short-term, open to long">i go out on a date with her with 0 expectations, so as to prevent disappointment, even kinda seeing it as a way to get myself out of the house and socialise>we meet>chemistry is off the fucking charts>conversation feels effortlessly amazing, all the words are flowing out of my mouth smoothly when i'm normally a socially anxious retard>we have dinner and drinks together, then go clubbing, after which she comes back to my place>she leaves in the morning, and we still continue texting each other>she says she's glad i'm still talking to her instead of ghosting which is what typically happens after a casual hook-up, and that it's nice>she flies off a few hours later>i feel somewhat attached to her and wish we could've been something more, cant help but fantasize in my head how normal is this? and why do i feel this way?
>>33662052It's called not being a psychopath.
>>33662052more importantly, how do i change in such a way where i don't feel this way?google tells me i have self-esteem issues, have loneliness, and an anxious attachment style which is true actually
>>33662052It’s scarcity. You don’t have consistent access to women you’re attracted to, so when one finally comes up and approves of you, you get attached. Naturally.
>>33662076what do?
>>33662085It’s not really a problem with you as an individual, and it’s also not your fault. The way the dating market is these days lends itself to men getting attached more quickly. I’d suggest increasing the amount of women you talk to, and improving your looks. There’s no promise that it’ll transform your situation but things will get noticeably better.
>>33662105how to cope with being a man in society
bumpbump
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>>33662052If I take you're post at face value, there isn't anything weird about that.The only thing I would say that her being a tourist makes it kinda cooked. There is a world where you can maintain a long distance relationship and eventually find a way for one of you to move, but there are a massive amount of things that could go wrong throughout that kind of process.There is also an epidemic of lonely people instantly falling head-over-heels for someone, love-bombing them, and then justifiably getting ghosted. (I was one of them.)I would advice trying to be more self-conscious if you think you might be falling into that pattern of behavior.
