>>33670479
Read philosophy and think before you speak / act

>>33670479
Perhaps it may be good to borrow inspiration from the current circumstance.

After all, one could not be better without some baseline to compare betterment from, as such a trend could not be made from a single point in a graph.

>>33670484
Yeah, this.
Read the enchiridion and meditations. Live by them.

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Do what Jesus tells you to do. If you follow His word, your life will become better !

>>33670479
>how long is a piece of string?
I won't read threads that omit at least an outline of where OP needs advice.

>>33670479
> How can I become a better person?
Get off this site. Don't come back. Ever. Not even for nostalgia purposes. I'm not trying to be mean here either. Just telling you straight up.

You either are a good person fundamentally or you're not. Bad people don't ever fully lose their shit qualities. They just hide them until it suits them. Power and manipulation tactics.

If you're good, stay the course and don't let your guard down. Because you will be tested. Probably daily for the rest of your life and it gets to a point where you begin to hate others. That's when you've lost it and others who break you down win.

>>33672589
What if I'm a bad person fundamentally but I feel remorse over it? I genuinely want to be better and a kinder person because I hate being like this but the truth is that I don't really like people, and I don't connect with them, it's almost as if they were alien species

>>33672863
Cool. Then don’t interact with people and just vibe on your own. No point trying to change yourself if you don’t see value in participating in society.
Problem solved

>>33672897
But could I change? Sometimes I feel lonely and I would like to have people to talk to. It's true that I have a hard time forming connections but I would like to change my nature. Is it possible or am I doomed to be a bad person?

How much are you willing to pay for my newsletter?

>>33672959
I doubt you could change just because at this point. Unless you have some sort of significant life event (lose your house or have a close family member die) I don’t think you’ll ever be able to truly change.

As for the loneliness, is socializing on her or on other forums not sufficient?

>>33672977
Not really, it eases the loneliness but it still takes a toll on me. I'm in this limbo where I don't like people and see them as if we were different species while I also feeling disgusted by my own nature as if I was a sociopath or a psychopath. Some rabbid animal who needs to be put down

I feel horrible about this, if there's a any way to change I would take it

>>33672959
Of course you can always self-improve. You can make friends if you are genuine, nice, honest, kind, not a downer, fun to be around, inquisitive, etc. But you get what you give. No one wants to be around a mean person. No one wants to be around a sad, mopey attention sucking human either.

Smile at people, say hello to people on your walks. Most will ignore you but some will say hello back and nod in your direction with a smile. That's when you can say something like "are you enjoying your day?" Then conversation happens...It takes a backbone and effort on your part because you will meet more negative self-absorbed assholes than you think who won't even acknowledge your presence. But this is the state of things on this planet these days no matter where you're from. But you have to plow through this. And keep on keeping on...

You can volunteer too to get out in social situations or join social or activity groups through Meetup.com or Facebook groups. But fundamentally it is very difficult to make friends and associations these days outside of technology assisted sites/apps. Technology has sociologically stunted human interaction and it's going to get worse before it gets better. So put down the phone, shut off the TV and go outside and meet humans to practice.

You can also read self-help books or watch videos on how to be a better person, etc. You can always learn. You just have to do it. So the answer you asked me is "but could I change?" And I'll re-frame that and ask you the exact same question? Could you change? More importantly when will you change?

>>33673031
First of, I wanted to thank you for the response and advice provided, I'm extremely grateful. As for my previous question I guess I'm afraid that this is my nature, being this sociopath trying to be good out of a sense of moral duty rather than genuine love for my fellow man. I would choose this path over being someone who causes suffering, I don't want to hurt others. I just wish I could genuinely love people instead of pretending only because the alternative is worse

So that's really what I meant before, could my nature change if I put in the effort or is it something I'm bound to?

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>>33670479
You actually can't and I'm being serious
You're stuck the way you are and the more you try to run from it the worse things will get

>>33670479
>How can I become a better person?
Better how?

>>33670479
>How can I become a better person?

Is there even a point to being a "better person"?

>>33673172
Purification of the soul. No regrets when you die. A clean life (He who walks in integrity walks in security)

>>33673052
You're welcome. Yes, your nature could change. But, you may also need some guidance from a psychologist or psychiatrist to know for sure. Maybe your brain is just chemically wired differently. Maybe your past experiences and trauma made you lose hope and trust in people. Possibly your frame of mind can be enhanced by medication. But maybe not too. Talking it out with a professional and getting their advice is what I'd recommend. There is nothing wrong with that at all. It just takes time and it may cost you money too depending on your income level. But it may be free or cheaper on a sliding scale. But perhaps you just need to change your daily routines and social environment...only you know the true answer to that.

Here's some social advice. Go out more to see live music in pubs or bars if you're of age and I assume you are since you're supposed to be to be on here. The dopamine fix will happen through listening to and enjoying the music at the very minimum. It will genuinely make you happier.

Also, learn to dance in those settings. You can teach yourself on your own via YouTube videos. If you're a guy, search dancing for dudes. Women tend to be able to pick that stuff up easier than men. You don't have to be all social and outgoing ultra extroverted all at once. But your confidence will be boosted unbelievably if you can confidently move on the dance floor and not be a wallflower who just watches and goes home lonely every single night because they don't initiate and expect others to come to them.

Anyhow, good luck. Life is much more fun if you actively participate in it in a positive manner. You seem to want this change. So I implore you to go do it. Starting today...

>>33670479
read schopenhauer, nietzsche, cioran, camus, kierkegaard and kafka

>>33673239
No. Read the Bible.

>>33673202
Thank you so much Anon. I will save this thread. I'm trying to socialize more so I think it's helping a little bit, I still can't connect with people but I feel like my views on life are a little bit less radical now. I will try to explore different places too

And yes, I think I need to go to therapy, it's something that I keep avoiding but I will bite the bullet and do it because it's something that deep down I know I need to do

I have one last question, I took a lot of your time today already so don't feel pressured to respond but do you believe there could be a God? Sometimes I wonder if it's the case, and it's kind of important to me because it does influence my approach to life to an extent

>>33673187
Do you think Genghis Khan or Joseph Mengele died feeling bad about their actions then?

whats so bad about taking and never giving back to the society that never showed you warmth?

>>33673187
>Purification of the soul
Is that even possible? If so, how?

First get a decent personality.
Ignore all the other posts.

>>33670479
Smoke weed.

>>33673250
FUCK no.

>>33673313
>Joseph Mengele
No Shlomo, he was libelled just like all the other nazis. There were no fiendish experiments and he saved many of the work camp inmates from typhus.

>>33673271
Hey there Anon, sorry I didn't reply until now. Don't worry about my time, you're welcome though, but I did it all willingly because I feel we all have to help one another these days. If we all did, just a bit, I think it becomes contagious and good things begin to happen. Things seem really bleak at times with all the negative news and such around the world and it makes me feel better to try and help out others by listening and giving hopefully positive perspectives to help them, and even me, course correct and reflect. I definitely don't have all the answers and make a lot of mistakes as well as have my own down days but what I mentioned about live music, socializing and dancing changed everything for me. It literally is my happy place now a days and is something I cherish.

Now to answer your question about a God. I don't actually know the answer to that question but I do believe in energy and spirituality. Animals can sense good and evil without speaking human languages. They know good people from bad. They aren't just reading our body language. They can sense love, kindness, safety, etc. I've had birds land on me, cows lie at my feet like dogs, soooo many wild animal encounters with things like foxes, deer, coyotes, skunks, cougars, even bears. I've lived through it all and I respect wildlife. All this variety of life and unbelievable complexity came about somehow. I don't think it was created by one single entity (a God) though but I do know that I'm a bag of water and meat that has a conscience and makes decisions in an avatar body so I can interact on this planet Earth. I think that goodness brings greatness and as a community we all have a place. The universe is massive and apparently infinite. We'll never get to see any of it in this current body form. So I'm hopeful there is some kind of afterlife or way to go elsewhere. Simply lights on and lights off just seems like a giant waste of everything.

>>33679871
Don't worry Anon! I'm really thankful to see a response. I think it was really insightful. I think there must be something more out there which at least if one believes that it helps when it comes to create a sense of meaning but it also makes life as something that must be taken seriously. I have to make the most of it, in the sense that I want to die without regrets, I want to know that I tried

Thank you very much for such thoughtful replies, I'm really grateful that you took the time to reply to me

>>33670479
1 Do as little harm as possible
2 Within the bounds of #1, do as much good as possible
3 Within the bounds of 1 and 2 find as much joy as possible