>meet a cute girl online (real)>talk basically non stop for over a month>get to the point of sending pictures to eachother and calling eachother at night>out of no where for no reason at all she blocks meWe were talking on discord mostly. Im not even sure what advice im looking for here. I just dont know what i did wrong and it hurts. Last thing i did was send her a picture of myself and a friend dressed up for an event, but we had sent eachother pictures of us like a week ago and she said i looked cute. Maybe she was lying and just wasnt into me physically? She told me before she knew what i looked like how i had a great personality, i was emotionally mature, and she liked that i had my shit together. I just cant think of anything i actually did wrong
Kill her and then yourself
>>33671589Rude
>>33671585>cant think of anything i actually did wrongFailed to escalate probably
>>33671615I did try to meet her, but failing to escalate is an issue i tend to have. Maybe i wasnt flirty or exciting enough
>>33671624>but failing to escalate is an issue i tend to haveBig issue, masculinity is a bit aggressive
>>33671585her boyfriend probably found out about you or chad called her back and she dropped you
Online relationships are not real.
>>33671920Kay
>>33671585The internet attracts avoidant personalities. Doesn't sound like you really did much wrong beyond getting strung along by someone with one of them.
Op here. Update: i went home for lunch just to comfirm it was not a glitch on discords end or whatever (me obviously coping)and yup shes deleted every image of herself she sent me and everything. Im hurt obviously but ill get over it soon. Ive always struggled with woman, it seems like other guys just naturally were born with something i wasnt, and i will never understand what that "it" is. Even then, one of the things my therapist has told me is that people come and go in youre life for a reason and all you can do is learn from them. So my immediate thoughts from all of this are:Dont get too attached, especially to people you meet online no matter how things are goingWoman are fickle beings. They say how great you are, how they think their becoming obsessed with you, they message you first thing in the morning and fall asleep talking to you. It doesnt mean shit and they will get bored eventuallyI really need to work on my social skills for flirting. Not being able to escalate things with sounding forceful or creepy is by far my number 2 issue. I never learned these skills during highschool, and now that im out of college it feels impossible now. I guess this is where id want advice, how do i learn to do this? Im in my late 20s and i fear its becoming too late for me.
>>33672664Damn it be like that sometimes homie
>>33671585maybe she discovered your political stancesI've been blocked by girls for that reason in the pastI'm upper middle class communist in my country, we're a very small minority of people who advocate for our masters (lets face it the rich use the middle class as lackeys to control the poor) to redistribute the wealth at least a bit.
I fucking hate women
>>33673361Well that’s an interesting choice
>>33673392>choice
>>33671585She's a girl. Online. She met 60 other dudes like youEventually one of them attracted herShe's with that person nowSave yourself, don't play that game. Only choose someone who chooses you, and don't meet people online. Let go of online and IRLmaxx and socialmaxx. Trust me. I'm doing the same and it's so much betterAlso I wasn't joking, girls just need to choose a guy. They aren't starved for attention, or options. They have so many options. Imagine you could choose to bag a cute petite Asian, or a beautiful white pink Blondie with blue eyes, or a pretty thick black princess, or a hot Indian, or a cute latina, or a beautiful Russian girl. Now, you would speak to the one that attracts you most, no matter how nice the others are. That's what she did. You're nothing to her . Nothing. She blocked you once your use was done. It sucks but girls suck like that. Especially online autistic girls
>>33672664Hey man, I'm this guy >>33673543I'm going to copy paste a response I wrote earlier that answers your question about being too forceful because I have the same problem with either being too forceful or avoidant which stems from an endless cycle of expectation and disappointment: Basically, it's paradoxical that to get girls you have to not want girls, and hope that one falls in your lap. But simultaneously it's something that you want so freaking badly, that it's hard to not care about the thing that is literally the thing that will make you happy, it's what you live for, I totally understand and agree with you on that.So now onto the revelations:I looked at myself in the mirror, and I looked at myself every time I'm Interacting with people outside or online it doesn't matter. It really looks like someone who "doesn't care" is more attractive, but I understood the nuance behind it. It's not that this guy "doesn't care", it's that he seems like he has "no expectations".Over time, going to meetups, attending hobbies, trying to cope, I saw in myself that I attract more, when I show that I don't expect. Coincidentally, people are naturally gravitating towards me more, and also the correct type of people that I want around - when I exhibit that I don't expect. Do I not expect?? Hell fucking no. I expect to hell and back. But just like everything else in this life - fake it till you make it works. And hiding your expectations makes you both more attractive - and makes people less wary around you and therefore more attracted to you, and additionally, when THEY approach YOU then you know that the interest is genuine, and that that relationship is going to be infinitely easier to uphold, because that person saw something in you that pulled them towards you. It also makes it more likely that you two are compatible. I've noticed in my own personal experiences that this goes for both men and women, it's a human thing.1/2
>>336735762/2When I did expect - I became more assertive, I approached girls, I tried to get numbers, I got failures, I felt smarmy and slimy. I would prioritize certain girls thinking that I would get something which blocked me from interacting with others, it blocked me from doing things I liked to do too. I realized that it's not worth it to fight an uphill battle. No girl is worth this. Not playing their game is the easiest way to win. So here's what I'm doing now: I'm going out to events, and hobby classes/groups that I found that also have women in them. I meet people. I'm friendly. I'm open minded. I let my ego down and I temper my expectations as MUCH as possible. I focus on the activity, I focus on being myself and not going out of my way for someone else because she's a girl, but simultaneously not to avoid her because she's a girl. I focus on my feelings. If I feel comfortable around a person while being myself - I hang out with them more. And what people call "energy" attracts, and phone number exchanges and offers to keep hanging out just happen. They just happen and now you have a friend. This is what I'm doing. So far it got me friends, guy friends and also girl friends surprisingly enough! I'm going to continue attending, and I think if I keep losing weight, eventually one will approach me.
>>33673588I appreciate your advice but it doesnt really help. You didnt touch on how to escalate or flirt at all, just how to meet people and make friends. Ive already got that part down, and if anything im too good at instantly getting friend zoned
>>33673687> You didnt touch on how to escalate or flirt at allHi OP, thanks for reading, I'm sorry you didn't find it useful, and that's okay, you don't have to agree with my but I'll share a bit more just to explain my point of view. I'm a firm believer in reciprocity. "going for" a girl in the way that you're thinking, like actively flirting, is a way to get girls there's no doubt about that. But I personally look for relationships where the girl genuinely loves me, where I don't have to do much to be loved and appreciated, so my version of trying is tailored towards that, I try to have fun with her, be around her, making myself open and available to hanging out with her if I genuinely enjoy my time with her, and seeing if something happens.If nothing happens - then I assume that this is not the person for me, and I continue to meet more women until with one of them It'll clickIn my mind It's not a lock and key - "you have a vagina I have a penis - why AREN'T we getting with each other?!?"because if it was this way, men wouldn't have a problem with getting girls and dating would be piss easy and the world would be polyamorousso I think in the way that not all people are compatible, and if magnetism didn't naturally happen then it wasn't meant to be with this person.I know that this type of mindset can feel wrong or infuriating to some men, but Its personally gotten me into relationships (friendships too) where I feel satisfied. So yeah, I guess you need someone else's advice because I'm really not into forcing connections. I used to be, and I'm changing that now. Fighting an uphill battle against someone who doesn't particularly care for you is difficult. It also creates a less satisfying relationship. I don't play those games with women - a lot of them want you to play these games. That also explains how men get stuck in shitty relationships where the two people don't even seem compatible or happy.
>>33676858Anon i appreciate you taking the time to write all this but man its really not the advice i need, am looking for, or is even really relevant to this thread. It feels like youre typing this more for you than anything
>>33676952Fair dude, I already said it's fine you don't have to take my advice, also I don't see anyone else replying to you so don't be ungrateful, I'm also in my late 20's (29) and never learned how to flirt IRL, my relationships also all started from online. Our experiences aren't too different, it's just that you're stuck thinking PUA and pushing for a connection is what will get you out of the friend zone, I'm saying as someone who went through this, that it's about meeting the right person. So my advice is to meet more people. Also don't forget that you started this thread because you were rotting on discord trying to get with some online broad, and you think you can suddenly just go outside guns blazing and become a pick up god because someone on 4chan gave you advice, you'll soon find out it's much more complicated than that, unless you look really great
>>33671585Probably started getting attention from some guy she knew IRL.It sucks for you, but IRL relationships are always going to take precedence over online ones. You need to accept that.
>>33671585Show is a picture of yourself > online gf ghosts youEither she got irl bf or was a big bait and you took itIt's not over because you can apply the same shit irl. The secret us fat and ugly women> be them> no male attention except sub humans> get mtn anon> he is nice and intelligent > want to fuck himEasy win 4u, ghost after you have the confidence for something human like.
>>33672664> Woman are fickle beings. They say how great you are, how they think their becoming obsessed with you, they message you first thing in the morning and fall asleep talking to you. It doesnt mean shit and they will get bored eventuallyANON PLEASE NOOOO.Don't become a retarded incel. You nearly got it. Trust me if you go down this path you'll become r9k not a pussy king.> go gym> get jacked> go club> get average chick> easy sex> don't be a retard stalker > easy wife
Please advice my similar question>>33677732
>>33671585>>33672664That fucking sucks bro, the least she could've done is been honest about it. Getting blocked for seemingly no reason at all is the worst feeling ever
>>33677725How does him saying that make him an incel or r9k user? Hows he wrong? Internet women are fucking annoying. Finding when to ask for meeting up, how much to talk and even having to carry conversations is mentally exhausting, it sucks when you think there's something good going only for someone to fuck right off without warning. Its like dying in a game as soon as you get to different area or section of level.
>>33671585>data>minedthat's how they get ya
>>33671585While enjoying her chats with you, she was ALSO meeting and interacting with real live people in person. One of them proved more attractive and she committed her attention to him
>>33672664kek sorry like as a late 20s talking online I'm sorry get more mature. You should be hitting it up on linked in if anything. Getting a drink or something after a professional event. If she's that age too she's acting immature too. Sorry the vibe just strikes me as immature. I've realized more and more that we all start and stop progressing at drastically different points and often make gains in big ways at random times. I'm smart, I had a very illuminating childhood, I know a lot and know how to act and how to act bad and everything else and you know sometimes you get too old in mind too. That's why people drink.So, the person next to you may have the anger management skills of a rather immature two year old. And I dumped my gf when I was 12 bc it was middle school aka my professional life. But I acted like my dad toward her and my dad acted like that toward me at times when that wasn't even right and he was in his 40's and I was acting like I was five when I acted like him.
>>33671585Same shit happened to me dude, later met her again and she admitted that she just didn't think I looked good enough, probably same reason she ditched you, you didn't meet her expectations of cute/handsome
>>33677775What's she supposed to fucking say, hey sorry I decided you are meh? It is in her best interest to ghost so he doesn't go psycho. They were courting then she lost interest the blocking IS the honesty. Clear as day
>>33677775Yeah thats exactly why they do that. Some chicks are like that. Try to avoid them.Its like cheating, a chick you cheated for you will cheat on you.Likewise if you discover a chick ever ghosted a guy, you NEED to ghost her first, she's for the streets.
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