I know I could probably get a girlfriend if I just tried but I have such crippling social anxiety that I feel like if I so much as talk to a woman she'll literally call 911.How can I overcome this?
>Tinder>got match>mid woman>fake interest>she fakes interest too>I don't really care about this shit>stay lonelyhow do I break this cycle? Should I ask some friend to have a meeting with his girl friends or something? I want to be more open but at the same time it feels fake and gayYeah, I'm hijacking this thread btw
>>33672371Well I didn’t call 911 so now here we are…what kind of music do you listen to?
>>33672371You're not "supposed to do" anything. The world is a canvas on which to paint. I'm amazed at how many NPCs there are who cry for an adult coloring book.
>>33672417I like 80s music>>33672438I'm not trying to fit into anything, I'm just tired of being alone
>>33672382Dating apps are shit. They're designed to keep you coming back, so nobody you meet on them will be the one.You have to just go out and meet someone in real life.
>>33674569Disagree but idk. I met my current gf on Hinge and while this was after months of nothing coming up she and I have the same type of tism so we get along really well. Id say take your time sometimes it will be difficult to understand what you are doing wrong when its nothing but genuinely be yourself and talk about the shit you are interested in and things will fall in place dont fake your life for pussy.
It's the type of women you're approaching OP. Tell you what, here is a secret approach I have for you. Wave and say hello to a girl and if she says hi, then say how is your day, and continue. Follow the steps, and you should be fine.
>>33674777Trips of truth. I'll try this.
>>33674569This is true. Dating apps make their money off of ads and selling subscriptions to suckers. Once you find the one you stop seeing ads and paying for a subscription
Just try to talk to one girl knowing what u want what you really want in a future and be kind that’s what a girl likes, as a girl I would be so thankful if a guy could tell me what he really wants from the start
>>33672371Alcohol
>>33675437I can't just casually drink any time I want, I have a life
>>33675421Hello bb let's get married
>>33676638Do it on your day/time off
>>33672371Meet women in mixed-gender non-romantic settings - clubs (in the sense of shared interest groups), classes, workplaces, etc. Be just fellow members of the gang. With no sex at stake, you will gradually find it easier to relax and be friendly with people who just happen to be vagina-possessors.THEN if you encounter a vagina-possessor pal you particularly hit it off with, it will be easier to segue toward romance.The dreaded friendzone may be a sad place to end up in, but it can be a very good place to start from
>>33676715>vagina possessor palSoi
>>33676715Who the fuck says "vagina possessor"
>>33672371>I know I could probably get a girlfriend if I just triedyou can't, everyone says this BS but sits at home fapping to furries and trannies
>>33672371>I could probably get a girlfriend if I just triedProbably notpic unrelated
>>33677240I really do think I could though. I wasn't always an antisocial shut-in. I had 2 girlfriends in high school and both asked me out so I'm definitely not ugly.
>>33675398Doesn't Tinder have a $500 a month package? Idk who the fuck buys that shit
>>33672371Thats a level where its like pathological and possibly requiring medical intervention dude. Thats majorly divorced from reality.
>>33679666I think it's pretty standard social anxiety. When I'm just thinking about it it's not a big deal, but when I'm actually in a real life situation about to do it I freeze up and think "what if she thinks I'm assaulting her"
>>33680037Standard social anxiety is "what if she thinks im an idiot". Not "what if this has permanent life destroying consequences"
>>33680236I think it's mostly a result of seeing all the bullshit that happened during the #MeToo era
>>33677995>I really do think I could thoughI know you do, but being shut-in for even a short period fucks with your head. Trust me if you try you will find out.now you are like that guy who knows he can fight, and ends up KO'ed on the street in the first 10 secs
>>33680281The internet isnt real life. 400,000,000 people in this country. Yiu can make anything look rampant. Relax.Like my fb neighborhood watch group screaming for their safety despite crime rates being lower than ever in my city, but now social media shows them a stabbing a day in our city of 1,000,000 people making it actually an incredibly rare occurrence.Youre fine. Talk to women. Just don't literally threaten to rape them or show up on their lawn at night having never been told their address.
>>33672371you have to learn to be comfortable first with being alone and ffs get off the apps
>>33672371Talking to women and getting a gf is the easy part anon. Honestly, this is speaking as a probably autistic loser that has spent way too much of his life playing videogames and watching star trek. The real challenge is coming to terms with the fact that a woman won't make you happy, she is just another source of obligations and pressure in your life. Yes it's better than being a loner, because you have a purpose and you have hope, but it's not like you imagine it will be. it's work and it's pressure. But talking to them is easy, they just want to talk about their boring lives just like everyone else. They just want someone to vent to and to validate their opinions.
>>33680536I'm already pretty happy with my life, it just feels like I'm missing love.
>>33676763>>33677232The point was to meet them as people in situations wherwe their gender is not the major factor
