Why do I always do things for people over and over and over and over and over.Then when I ask for one thing, the smallest most insignificant thing they say no.I don't get it. I really don't.I get I'm not supposed to be thinking about favors as transactional but why am I always the one doing favors. I get it's a supply and demand thing or people can detect when someone is too giving and nice and exploit it but what the fuck is wrong with helping others in general?One time I thought I found an actual real friend because he did one fucking thing for me, One fucking thing, I know, pathetic, fuck me right? Turns out he was just love bombing me to manipulate me later. But I can't help but keep helping others. It's in my fucking self depreciating masochist nature which I need to change. Just so fucking exhausted. So fucking tired. Go ahead fucking roast me tell me to kill myself whatever, I always say I'm done being nice then I forget about it and do it again. But this time? Ah, fuck it who gives a shit about anything.
Complicated thinking pieceAre you tempted to assist a richer man in making more money?
>>33695205SureI'm already rich though, what is it.
>>33695199You do things for people because they are less able than you and you are a good person.But if they are less able than you, how can you expect them to do things for you?You never get "paid back" by the people you helped. But if the world works right, someone else more able than you will come along to help you when you need it
>>33695199Cause you're a doormat, start saying no yourself.
>>33695847Let's see if the world works right then. I guess after theory, empirical approaches may confirm or not certain things.
Hey man, I was the same like 3 years ago. Ive went to a point where id spent hundreds for them like im some ATM machine, yet when I ask for somethin they say shit like “Sorry man cant do that for you.” like huh?? Best thing to do is literally say no. Forget giving a fuck about your feelings “no they might get angry” “they might hate me” what about you gang? Say no if they dont show the same amount of effort as you. If they arent willing to do what you do for them, then dont do it. It’s hard at first but when you pull it off, it’s just so much easier for your life.
>>33695847It's small shit like I helped you move but you can't print this thing out for me when you have access to a printer. >>33695889Yeah but then I feel bad. It's fucking retarded. >>33695918Nah I wouldn't spend money on them. Moreso just actions. Time.
>>33695976>Yeah but then I feel bad.Embrace the doormat then!
>>33695199This is a you issue.Either you enjoy doing things for people who are more needy and are less able to do things back for you, or you are a unlikeable person who tries to buy people with favors. They don't really like you but put up with you to get things.My advice, form friendships with people who view relationships as more transactional.
