Yeah very shallow of me, I knowThing is I always dated around my league (I'm a 6 to 6,5/10 depending on who do you ask, and I've dated girls my score or a number higher, 7,5, 8 at the most) and I think that was for the best, everyone was cute in their own way and everyone had their charm, lets face it a 7 is a cutie.But I made the mistake of getting into a relationship with a 9/10 that, while she sees something in me, otherwise I don't know why would she still be around me, has stated numerous times that doesn't want anything serious with me and never sees us working as a formal couple.Anyways, I only needed to be told that 3 times, and that was 2 times too many most would say, so I wanna get over herThing is how do you move on from her, whenever I got a new gf and they saw pictures of my exes or asked around about them they always got a bit insecure and I always had an argument over how she is cuter in this regard or that regardBut this girl is as close to perfection as a normal person (specially one that lurks 4chan, lets be honest) can get, I'm ultra bad at lying so I won't be able to tell them "you're cuter than her in this regard or you have better eyes or whatever". I don't even believe it, I won't even believe it then.I'm still madly in love with her but I know now that I have to get over her but how, we still see each other very often, some weeks every day, and while we do couple stuff it's all secret and I'm starting to feel terrible about being her secret, I like to show off my gf and I loved getting showed off by them.Any advice?I'm very sorry if some parts sounded like I was bragging or something I needed to be sincere with everything, other places where you have to put your name to ask around I wouldn't be so blunt about the situation, either the good parts or the bad parts.
Time, could be 6 months to 10 years, or if you can find someone else that makes you forget her.
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When I think of things and how they are it really comes down to about three sentences. And it's not written to understand, it's just known
>>33699857By replacing her with a 10/10 gf
>>33699857Lol you can't base looks on actual looks. You gotta go off energy, not looks. A girl could be drop dead beautiful and still be ugly asf
>>33701218I guess I can try that lol, I’ve landed her somehow, but I still think I was a very fortuitous event.>>33701223In the real world looks are very important, yes they are not the end all be all but stillAnyways any advice on how to slowly get over her if we see often and do couple stuff?
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>>33704835Here is one.
>>33703094You gotta find someone else bro. Someone else to love and talk to and be with. Preferably another 9/10 or better. The better the replacement looks, the easier it'll be to get over her. I was literally heartbroken until my ex's sister (who looks better than her) came on to me. I immediately forget all about the heartbreak and my ex. I went from being heartbroken and sad every day to a totally new man LOL. Just find someone else, don't wallow in depression or emotion. Don't let yourself overthink it. Learn to be happy in your own company also. A lot of people act like they'll die if they have to be alone. That's a problem.
And whatever you do, DO NOT CONTACT OR REACH OUT TO YOUR EX!!!!
>>33707916You would hate if that happened huh?
>>33707909I've been living alone for a couple years (after 30 years living with my parents loland the first year and 9 months I lived very happy alone, I loved my routine and my place and everythingit wasn't until I met her that I started to feel incredibly alone when I come back home and she's not here. It's weird, it's sad, it's lame, I was living alone very happily and just going through the paces, dating 7/10s and not taking anyone that seriously (this is something from a previous relationship that lasted 5 years and fell apart spectacularly, after that I guess I didn't allow myself to feel anything for anyone)and then this perfect girl with a perfect face decides to look at me intensely in the eyes when we joke, she decides to caress my face when I kiss her, she decides to go out on dates where we ate instant noodles (the very cheap ones too) and I'm on the floor for her, how can someone that looks like her, that kisses like her, that is so pretty can look at me like this, can kiss me like this, can be happy just spending time with me like this, not wasting huge amounts of money but just watching some Netflix and eating crapIf only I didn't tell her I was madly in love with her and she didn't tell me she never sees us working and we should stay as something casualit's like a walking contradiction, what do I lack, what is there missing, everything seems so perfect, I'm not poor either, we've done a couple of expensive dates too, she knows she'd have a safe and cozy future next to mewhat is lacking, what is up, why is she like this.
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>>33699857>gfdon't have much advice cause relationships require commitment and any short term suggestion tricks beyond compatability wouldn't help>Casual sex with 9/10Easy, but the "0 effort or skills" model requires money and some tech savviness>Fake some kind of success with bots and views>Hire a "model" to collab or "make content" with you>Yes, this can be porn on OF and you can fake your own fans and get dumb bitches to collab by having them believe you are in the top 1%>Use bots and AI to give fake engagement to her>After not working with her for a while use AI and bots to fake engagement asking when you will work together again.She will basically keep comming back cause she feels her businesses success is tied to your fanbase. However you will have to pay indirectly to fake your own success, pay for her to have a visible temperary bump in success, and know how to get bots that look like real engagement all while not looking like you are botting and getting caught.
>>33712166did you even read my OP man
>>33699857>Yeah very shallow of me, I knowYou're right, it is.
>>33712280I said I know
>>33713624Then stop acting like major character flaws are something you can't do anything about, and start actively trying to be a better person.
>>33713789how do I tell the next girl I date "you're prettier honey, don't worry about it" when I won't feel it, honestly mean it and actually want to say it?I hope my next gf has the self esteem of a tiktoker or something, I worry about myself yes but I worry my next gfs will never compare and I won't be able to make them feel comparable either
>>33713800I had a Latina gf for a couple years. When we broke up I said, that's it. I'll never love another face and skin tone and pussy and asshole than a Guatemalan butthole.Fast forward just a little bit of time, maybe several months, forgot all about it. It looks indefinite because you're just now freshly in it. I'm surprised no one told you this so far, and why are you so retarded that you can't see it yourself? I guess the beauty really did a number on you. Well, here I am for the rescue - it's still fresh and that's why you think and feel this way. In time you'll come to your senses and realize that the personality (or energy, as another anon called it) is what really makes the hotness. And then a 7/10 will be your 11/10 and you'll feel like you want for nothing. And let me tell you a good coping mechanism I use, that with time has turned from a coping mechanism to actually the truth: no matter how amazing the person infront of you - if they didn't want you, then they aren't amazing. Cuz they don't want you. And reciprocity is extremely important. That's the whole thingSimple solutions to a complex problem, all I just talked about is from personal experience, I dated a 10/10 earlier this year, and though I fap to the memories of having my face sat on and eating her ass and sucking her tongue constantly, I wouldn't want to ever go back because of how she didn't actually want me, she wanted everyone, not just me.Bless up brother, get the girl who actually want you and you'll want for nothing more. Just make sure she's at least a 7 and she'll turn up to 11. No need to find the perfect 10, those girls often come with a lot of problems cuz they live life with extreme privilege and it's difficult to live that life and be normal and loyal. You're constantly gassed up by the environment and your confidence is in the sky and your options are limitless. That's also really bad for you as a person. So worry not dude, you aren't missing out. Remember: reciprocity!!
>>33713861thanks bro
>>33699857Women and relationships are a waste of time. The idea sounds nice but it's too much effort for nothing. Every relationship I was in was mentally and financially draining. And every time I think about going to date again I just have to look at my sister and her boyfriend and I'm saying oh my God I'm so glad I'm single because I would not want to go pay $250 because your partner decided to ruin her hair so you had to go take her to a professional hairdresser otherwise she's going to keep crying for 3 weeks. Or they keep being passive aggressive towards each other and as a bystander tension is so thick you can cut it with a knife. My favorite part is when she tells him what he can and can't do and then constantly guilt trips him to go take her out on a fancy date after he worked the 12-hour shift and all he wants to do is watch TV and play video games because he's fucking tired and not unemployed like her.And then I have to look at my brother and I see that he's constantly has to be surveilling his girlfriend 24/7 because she can't stand one minute without being alone without him and the only time he puts is his girlfriend and nobody else living codependent lives while he takes on massive debt and pay for most her stuff. And then I have to look at myself I don't have a girlfriend anymore and I can go spend my money however I please on stupid ideas and gadgets like I'm the real life Peter Griffin solely for my own entertainment and then I can go party hard and enjoy my life however I please without some woman nagging me over my shoulders about what I should and shouldn't do.
>>33716015Gee anon I don’t know if you’ve thought about this but every relationship is different, the relationships of your siblings look nothing like my previous relationships and they were very varied, but they never made me spend money on mistakes they made or needed 24/7 supervision
>>33716981I bet you right there are better looking relationships. Than what my siblings have but I've noticed with every relationship I've seen every person even from other acquaintances there's always this weird tension between them even as an outsider. Most people who are in relationships are just keeping up with appearances and they are fake as hell. You can get more authenticity from a crack whore than you're average latte sipper because at least they're honest with what they want. They just want crack.Besides why should I waste my time and happiness for somebody else when I would rather work on my band, play guitar, crack jokes at work and then hang out with the boys with a six pack and an ounce of weed. Now that's living.
>>33717082fake relationships don't last tho, they might endure for a while depending on how long are people willing to lie to each other but they all eventually fall apartonly tension I ever had with my exes was when they were getting fat and I didn't know how to tell them we should slim down, other that that we were open books
>>33699857Get a 9/10 pedigree bitch as a mate. That'll change your mindset.
