I'm a 33 year old guy, only had one relationship that lasted two weeks but otherwise am totally inexperienced. And yes, never had sex, but anyway. To the anons who have real experience with dating women, what have you learned from it? How have women changed your life? What would you say I have missed out on being single for most of my life?And as a less serious question, do you see a bunch of red flags when you see the girl in the pic I attached? Thanks.
>>33714856Who is the girl? Is that your ex-girlfriend?
If it is a leftist, definately. They'll go in make you have big assumptions then they'll fuck up on you, and you leave.
>>33714885Some chick on the Internet I think is cute but nobody I actually know.
>>33714856>What have you learned from itThe best way to get with a girl is to not overthink it. Most guys fuck up by pretending to be what they think the girl will like. That doesn't work. So when someone says "Just be yourself" there is truth to it. However, that needs to be paired with confidence. You need good hygiene. You need to style your clothing properly. Not designer or brand names necessarily. But make yourself look good. Put on cologne. And talk to her like she's a real person, while throwing in a light bit of sexual innuendo while not pretending to "be her friend" in hopes you can convince her to be your gf later. That never works. All that does is...make her your friend. You don't need experience to be successful with girls moving forward. Just make some minor changes and you're set. I'd also say you've just now become a man. As men, our prime is our 40s, so long as we stay fit, because we built resources in our 20s and 30s and can actually use them really well in the 40s if not a little bit sooner. Women naturally prefer older men for this reason. You're really just getting started. Drop the "i'm getting old" talk. No the fuck you aren't. You aren't even halfway through your life yet. So I'd say: stop acting like shit's over. Honestly, it's just getting started for you.
She cute
>>33715116nope
>>33714856>what have you learned from it?Better sense of perspective I guess?>How have women changed your life?Romantic experiences are akin to very deep friendships in that they provide a sense of comfort and reassurance that you're not all fucked up
>>33714856>relationship>two weeksthats not a relationship
>>33714856Having a girlfriend is the best and worst thing you will ever experience.
>>33714856I have been married since 22. I love my wife more than life itself, but you have to understand that men and women are different and they will never love you the way you love them. I see no red flags in that picture
>>33716220>Having a girlfriend is the best and worst thing you will ever experience.Worst in what way? If you know how to manage them properly it's really fun dealing with them.
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>>33714856Don't trust women
>>33717365Why not?
>>33716501>manage>dealingI don't treat people like assets.
>>33714856I was like you once when I was younger, when I was in my late teens I really thought I was going to be forever aloneI learned that it comes when you stop wanting it so bad, you have to learn to stand proud on your own and have loves in your life beyond companionship. For starters you have to understand likeable personality traits vs unlikable ones, especially when it comes to women who are almost constantly bombarded by the most unlikable men possible, it's hard not to take it personally I know but women especially find the "I'm so lonely I just need a gf" personality type just as negative as overly toxic men.Start taking care of yourself physically, you don't have to be jacked but being in semi good shape helps, what really matters is dressing and grooming like you love yourself. Prospective partners, regardless of gender will start approaching you if you look like an interesting person with a lot of life. It also really helps if you erase any idea of differences between men and women, that shit is superficial and only exists in shallow minds and the media. Sit down with a female friend and have an unfiltered conversation as if you were talking to any of your close male friends.Most important you can't rush these things, if you want anything to last you need to start as friends.
>>33716220this is accurate>>33717365there's some merit to this sentiment>>33714856>only had one relationship that lasted two weeks but otherwise am totally inexperiencedI feel like knowing if this was recently or in the past would be relevant>To the anons who have real experience with dating women, what have you learned from it?I have only had one relationship too, but it lasted a year; I learned a lot though, primarily from mistakeswithout getting into grave detail, I should have been far more confident and vocal about what I was not comfortable with and what I wantedwhen someone violates your trust, it's soul crushingas my first girlfriend was less than ideal for the role, and took advantage of my inexperience, I caution you to be very mindful that you not allow her to control the relationship>How have women changed your life?it took me 3 years before I considered dating another woman ... and I have yet to>do you see a bunch of red flags when you see the girl in the pic I attached? cat eye glasses are a sign of the feminist / woke virus plaguing societyher hair suggests she is into music I don't like and likely needs to be prompted to get dolled up
>>33718511OP, this is the attitude that repels pussy, as a frame of reference
>>33714856>o the anons who have real experience with dating women, what have you learned from it? How have women changed your life? What would you say I have missed out on being single for most of my life?Dating is a process where you find yourself in other people. It could be that a girl introduces you to your favorite movie or favorite band or favorite whatever that you had no idea about or had little reason to check out without her showing it to you.It shows you how you react to times of stress, recognizing and dealing with jealousy/envy or dealing with rejection and a break-up - as well as all the positive feelings that come with it. It's also great to have an outsider perspective on all your issues and problems that aren't about the relationship (e.g. problem with family members, at work or school, etc.)Obviously it also helps you explore your sexuality where you get to find out what positions you're into and how you approach sex and what type of sex you're into>have I missed outI mean, yeah. But just because you didn't start dating at 13 or whatever doesn't mean that you can't form your own experiences now.
>>33718521could you be a bit more specific?
>>33718511>I feel like knowing if this was recently or in the past would be relevantIt happened a few months ago. At some point i found out she had three kids from three different dads and I realized I had no business being with this woman, as attractive as she was to me as a person (we had an insane amount in common). I did not want any part of raising other men's kids. Oh, and she also told me she'd given up on having sex outside of wedlock, so that was out, too. =D
>>33718511>cat eye glasses are a sign of the feminist / woke virus plaguing societyYou guessed it, she's a lib and has even done OF.
>>33714856>do you see a bunch of red flags when you see the girl in the pic I attached?that looks like a slightly older version of my ex who i love dearly. so no I would date and marry her.Fuck now I'm gonna cry
>>33718521NTA, but what? Having some sort of standards? Pattern recognition? Knowing his own worth?
>>33718489The fact that you immediately jump to "asset" on this subject matter shows you've never dealt with women. There's a certain way of dealing with / interacting with them. And people who have no idea about that, like you, immediately default to the context of property.
>>33719056You described them like property. I have more experience than I care to admit, although I will say I have not had the most successful relationships.
>>33714856Have you ever thought about forgetting women and embracing animals instead? I can promise they are better in every way than western women.
>>33719260>You described them like propertyNo. I described them as beings that look to men for leadership. We're talking about beings with the effective maturity of anywhere between 3-14 years old on average. We're talking about beings who are entirely ruled by emotions, regardless of what's actually true or not. We're talking about beings whose entire day can be fucked up because they're "hangry" (hungry + angry). Part of a man's job is to know that and manage that, lol.
>>33719469This anon gets it. Women are a different breed, you have to remember at all times that they're not at a man's level. I've even seen women I respect do petty and childish things.
>>33719469>>33720598Well shit, I guess I'm a bitch then, or a hopeless romantic who can't control his woman. Fuuuuuuck
>>33723686Don't be so hard on yourself. Most men fall for the "happy wife, happy life" simp bullshit. It's programmed by society. You're only a bitch if you willingly continue feeding into it and don't claim your balls.
>>33724245OP here, despite my lack of experience I never spent on a cent on the girl I was with. I was always trying to figure out a way for her to spend money on ME whether it be through gas or food or whatever, not that it mattered too much because most of our relationship was through text in the end. I still miss her which is crazy because of her being a busted single mother and all that, but I don't think I'll ever find another girl with as many of the same schizo interests as me ever again. Such is life, I guess-- we were made to suffer.
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>>33715100oldfag here, this is good advice - getting lots of pussy is addictive but also gets stale after a while, and warps your expectations ... sadly its the same for women and probably worseonce you've been with someone you'll probably won't be too keen on being alone anymore, at least that is what it did to me >>And as a less serious question, do you see a bunch of red flags when you see the girl in the pic I attached?playful, sloppy, lazy and maybe easy while easy is good hitting it off and hard maintaining someone "easy"--goal in life is to experience a bunch of stuff - the flatline is death, the rollercoaster (ups and downs) is the only game in "town"
