>cannot last more than 5 seconds without stopping>small dick, there are some positions where she's so loose I'm not sure if I'm in or not>always make her cum with oral (have been told that no one's ever made her cum before, I believe it)>but can tell there are times she just wants to be fucked>will literally never be able to fuck her like a man can>obviously she tells me she is sexually satisfiedIs it possible she's telling the truth, or is it as over as I think it is? inb4 jack off more, if such a retarded/simple solution worked I would have done it already. No, I do not watch porn.
>>33716123It sucks you can't last long, but don't conflate it with satisfying her or being a man. Satisfaction for women is largely mental. Yes, she wants you to fuck like a man, but that doesn't necessarily mean the same thing for her as you; there's more to fucking like a man than hammering her pussy. Holding her tighter and tighter as she gets closer, letting her feel the difference in strength as you hold her close, how confidently and calmly you can speak to her and press her buttons even as she comes apart in your arms, can all mean more in terms of exerting masculinity than how long you can smash into her. Every woman is different - for some it will mean getting fucked hard - but if you can make her cum, that's likely not the case with yours. Whatever else, you have a happy girlfriend, so go easy on yourself
>>33716277Thanks anon, that helps me cope. Appreciate it
>>33716123>Cannot last more than 5 secondsBecause you keep focusing on>OMG MY DICK OMG OMG IT FEELS SO GOOD OMGOf course you're going to bust fast, idiot. Try focusing on the connection you're making. That mental one. Maybe think about taking in your other senses. How does she sound? How does she look? How does she feel in your hands, etc. >Five secondsYou're basically a beast. An animal. Ever seen them mate? Same thing. You're too attached to thinking with your dick to go any further than a beast. Try being a human for once (no offense). Sex is more than>omg my fucking dick ommmggggggg
>>33716514Thanks, who knew that in the end it was all in my head
>>33716123Dude you are absolutely going to be okay.Sex is a skill so get better at it.
>>33716123the fact you're making her cum is more than the vast majority of guys will do in bed, most men are selfish in bed, you're fine OP.
>>33716123can't you just fuck her blind folded?You're so aroused with your beautiful gf that whenever you see her body gives you neuron activation.
>>33716123>cannot last more than 5 seconds without stoppingI never used any of that stuff and I don't know if it works, but I do know there are creams and sprays that (supposedly) help you last longer.>small dick, there are some positions where she's so loose I'm not sure if I'm in or notDamn, how small are you?? I'm average sized (5.5 inches) and take 2-3 minutes to fully penetrate my wife, because of how tight she is.Are you sure it's a size issue? Or your gf has a really loose pussy?>always make her cum with oral>can tell there are times she just wants to be fuckedIf she cums, she's satisfied. Women don't care how they cum, as long as they do.If you can tell she's being 100% honest and feels satisfied with oral, just ignore that shit because it's definitely in your head.If you can't bypass those thoughts, just get her a dildo. Dildos are fun. Again, I'm average and last easily 20ish minutes, but I still like to fuck my wife with a dildo. Sex is supposed to be fun, not mental gymnastics that make you feel bad.
>>33716622Appreciate it. I'm 32 now, so I don't know if it gets better from here. I'm not sure why I'm so bad with my current gf specifically, with my ex I didn't really have issues lasting.>>33716652That's surprising to me desu, but I also heard that cumming isn't the end-all be-all for women like it is for men, hence my worry.>>33716682That'd be fun to try next time, I'll think of you anon>>33716692I'm probably 5 inches at best, so it's probably a combination of both factors. I tried numbing cream once, but then I just lost my boner.
maybe have more sex to be desensitised? I used to be like that then when we had more sex I lasted longer
>>33716704Why didn’t you have issues lasting with your last ex ?
>>33716704No that’s true. Sometimes you do just want to get fucked and cumming from oral isn’t as satisfying as cumming from getting fucked ya know
>>33716692>small are you?? I'm average sized (5.5 inches) and take 2-3 minutes to fully penetrate my wife, because of how tight she is.Lol it means she is not turned on , it shouldn't take 3 minutes to get in , gotta start getting her ready and blood flow to her vagina, start eating her out and it won't take that long
>>33716514>You're too attached to thinking with your dick to go any further than a beastIs it really the cause of PE?
>>33716123>Is it possible she's telling the truthIf you make her come, and no one else ever has, then it's not merely possible but definite. Chill out.
>>33717053It's a huge part of it, yeah. Pretty simple when you think about it. If you overly focus on your dick, you're gonna blow fast. It's not the *only* cause, for sure. But it's a huge one that gets a lot of guys down, especially if they don't have a lot of experience.
>>33716818I’ve noticed that I do only well when I’m 100% or 110% hard. If it’s even 95% or 90% then I have issues. Because she’s so loose sex is just 5% less stimulating, maybe that’s why>>33716825I don’t know if she can cum from penetration, since presumably she hasn’t cum from it. Either way there’s no chance I’ll ever be able to>>33718048If it were that simple I’d not have been struggling with this for my entire life. I’ve been having sex since 17 and I’m 32 now
>>33719048>If it were that simple I’d not have been struggling with this for my entire life. I’ve been having sex since 17 and I’m 32 nowThat doesn't mean anything. There are a fuckton of people who do the same exact thing over and over and make zero progress about doing things differently. Hell, I had other people respond to that having no idea that what I said might be affecting performance.
>>33716123youre making her cum first, which is the most important part. you can always tell her that youre open to trying new things because you want to make her happy. if youre honest with eachother then that should be okay
>>33716514>How does she sound? How does she look? How does she feel in your hands, etc.Isn't that even more arousing?
>>33719262Are you arguing that focusing on things OTHER than the dick itself and how good the dick feels is going to make you bust even faster?
>>33719461Yes. You will probably dismiss my opinion because I'm not a sex haver but when I'm fapping to my imagination of some woman and I start thinking about her breathing, her sweat, her body, how she would feel in my hands it's usually the moment I'm close to losing it. Mechanically thinking about dick on pussy is less stimulating. Probably very different in the real experience but this is my humble inexperienced opinion
>>33719512I hear you and that makes sense. But think about what will happen once you have sex with a woman for the first time. You aren't going to be thinking about her breath, sweat, how she feels in your hand. You're going to be thinking about how much better her pussy feels than your hand. Your mind will center on that and.....bust. You are used to your hand, so of course thinking about>fap fap fap fapIsn't going to really do anything for you.
>>33719581>You're going to be thinking about how much better her pussy feels than your hand. Your mind will center on that and.....bust.Makes sense but isn't that a first timer thing? Do people keep thinking about that every time?
>>33719590Anon. You live in a world 98% full of NPCs. And don't be fooled: there are NPCs on 4chan. Yes, there are idiots that will do the same thing over and over expecting a different result. The mind is is both the greatest sexual organ and the biggest cock block. It all depends on how you're thinking about things. Hell, it can get to a point where you program yourself to bust fast simply because you expect to. Either way, its still in the mind and how you think about your dick. Very rarely is it an actual health issue, though it's possible.
>>33716123Fap more. Your hand is tighter than any cunt you’ll ever have. Fap and decensitize your dick. You’ll be going 45mins.
>>33719967Thank you professor, my life has been transformed with this one simple trick
>>33718048Interested. Is there way to "decentralize"?
>>33720896be better essentially
thanks for confirming my theory that there is no such thing as loose pussy, only small dick
>>33720946Cope. Both things exist. Obese women have looser pussy
>>33720993thats scary info
>>33720896>>33720925I mentioned the answer here:>>33716514It's basically focusing on all your *other* senses aside from your dick. How she feels in your hands. How she sounds. Being in the moment and feeling that non-physical connection that happens during sex. Letting the penetration itself take a back seat and focus on all the other aspects of the sex.
>>33716123>but can tell there are times she just wants to be fucked>obviously she tells me she is sexually satisfiedHow can you tell then? Does she seem frustrated after sex often?
