>mid twenties>lost soul>cant stop fumbling women due to autism and saying something stupid>Fat as a pig>know I would be at least 6 or 7/10 if I lost weight>Wont do it because it makes me uncomfortable and doesn't guarantee I'll find womenI wont join a gym because I hate the UK culture, I don't have friends I could go with anyway. I lifted for several months at home but stopped caring when nothing changed. Being autistic means everything needs a reason. I cant just do it for my own benefit because in my mind there is no benefit. Being healthy means nothing when nothing changes. I wish I could try boxing but my body is shit and would probably snap in half if I got punched (I'd enjoy it however).So what actually made you all think "fuck it imma do it anyway". Because whether it be low intelligence or autism, I have had that epiphany moment a million times but never follow through. I've wasted the first half of my twenties being a mentalcel in my room. I already feel too old for the kind of women I like. So whats the point? You tell me.
>What made you actively improve your life and get out of the doomer mindset?The answer may merely be that that place was not a good place to be.>So whats the point?The complete exchange and barter of what you have for what could be - and if all you have is nothing but doon... Then to dare simply makes bulk of the value than the entire transaction separately.
>>33716179I know stoicism is popular here, and I do respect it, but that kind of cold discipline never helped me. What actually helped was being kind to my body and myself. Treat that part of yourself that hates discomfort like you would a little kid that you have to look after and reassure. Become in tune with your body; become conscious of the control you have over it and how it responds to your commands. When you exercise, its not to gain women or prove masculinity or mastering your weakness. Its more about blowing the cobwebs off your body and exploring it, becoming more in tune with it, like rediscovering a hobby, or cleaning your room. Treat yourself gently and ease yourself into reconnecting with every muscle and sinew. Enjoy the sensations that run through you, appreciate every mechanism and how complex it is, how intuitively it responds to you. As for boxing, go for it, its good fun and a great exercise. You'll be doing a lot of drills before you ever have to worry about being smacked anyway
>>33716179What finally clicked with me was letting myself feel like shit instead of feeling like shit for feeling shit. I stopped spitting in my own wounds and let myself feel doom and gloom but understanding I don't have to identify with the feelings entirely, so they stopped colorizing my actions, which was my inaction.
>>33716328But what if I just want women and couldnt care less about any of that?
>>33716459Lift and looksmax. You said you won't go to the gym though so I guess it's over for you.
>>33716459If you don't learn to enjoy it, you will fail again and again forever. But the good news is you don't need to work out if you just want women. Hire a prostitute
>>33716492No I wont because I dont want to be relentlessly bullied by meatheads
>>33716505Not like that man. Just a cute goth chick yk. Someone as weird as me. As gay, retarded and faggoty as that sounds. If I just got laid I am sure my self esteem would return asap
>>33716604I don't know what gym culture is like in the UK but unless you go to a hardcore gym nobody cares.
>>33716609They do here, I attract that sort of attention for some reason. Dumb muscles would come up to me and be a cunt.
>>33716179>I lifted for several months at home but stopped caring when nothing changed.I sincerely doubt there were zero changes after months of lifting if you were doing it properly. Did you alter your diet accordingly?
>>33716921Nah just drank protein shakes every day and ate more meat. Changed nothing else.
>>33716607You can't stand being uncomfortable, and you acknowledge your fumbling is due to saying autistic things. You have to realise that getting laid isn't a silver bullet for those problems - you're just working backwards from craving sex and trying to justify it. I get that loneliness fucks with you, and I'm not going to say that you have to find complete peace and perfect yourself before finding a girl, but making it your only goal isn't going to work out. Even if you find a girl and get laid, some other insecurity will replace it. You really should go with boxing, its good fun
>>33716179You won’t do it because there’s no guarantee and that is what’s holding you back. No one who was ever successful achieved anything because there was a guarantee. The successful are paid more and respected specifically because they are willing to do the things where success is not guaranteed.
>>33717217I'd love to go into boxing mate but I'd be bullied if I walked into a gym in the UK. I am not a big dude (despite fatness) and I'd have a target on my back.I am 99 percent confident getting laid would give me the motivation to do all the things you say.
>>33717469If you say so, have gone to boxing gyms in Ireland while out of shape and been fine. Find one with a beginner course and you'll be there with other out of shape lads, won't be alone in it. Sucks at the start, but it's great for countering poor motivation. Just find one and sign up, that's all you gotta do for now, can cross the bridge of getting shit later if it comes to that. I'd say its less likely than in a regular gym though. And if you do end up getting shit, then you can talk to someone about it, or post again here. One step at a time
>>33717502I bet you're 6 foot 2 and intimidating anyway
