>>33719747
>I don't want to hurt her.
Then don't. Just use words. There's a huge margin between being dominant (which just means taking the lead) and being violent.

Unless she means BDSM style dominant. And even then, there's so much you can do without spanking or whipping.

>>33719747
I won't read gooner bait threads

>>33720006
t. evil ape

>>33719747
Do some online research. There is a difference between dominant/submissive and sadist/masochist. Though they sometimes go together, they don't have to. The D/S can be anything from "she lets you make all the decisions" to "you play master and slave". It can be entirely mental or include physical "punishments for misbehavior" and those can be anything from light and mainly symbolic spanking to incorporating actual pain into sex

>>33719747
Start small. Tell her to give you a shoulder massage while you're watching Netflix together or whatever, she'll be delighted to serve you. Grab her wrist and break it then rape her, she'll cry and run away or something, just call her an ambulance and threaten to kill her if she tells anyone what happened.
By the time she has recovered she'll be so turned on she'll come crawling back to you and you'll have complete control of her.
And no, this isn't "hurting" her, women love this. Try it on a random tinder girl or something first if you have doubts.

>>33719747
>I'm a bitch but somehow totally attracted a woman who likes dominant men
Nice larp

>>33719747
Does she want you to be dominant in your day to day life or during sex, or both? Does she want verbal dominance or physical? Does she want you dominant 24/7 or during certain times?

Like a couple of others have pointed out, there's a big range.

>>33720977
more or less yeah

Tell her how to do stuff (be particular). Tell her how to dress. Tell her what you want. Make her cook/clean for you

Practice it and it gets more natural

>>33721021
big fuckin' facts

I have this same issue OP.
I'm a very neurotic person who manages his own life with the core value of personal freedom. I like to ask others "what would you like to do today?" Instead of saying "we are doing this today." because I care about others being comfortable just as much as me being comfortable. The golden rule applies: do unto others as you want done to you.

Regarding being more dominant, I've only been able to entirely dominate her by dissociating and roleplaying, which enables me to turn off the part of myself that puts the comfort of others first, instead becoming someone who is able to not give a shit and chuckle as she gags on me irrumating her face.

In short, I'm naturally a switch with submissive leanings and the only way out of that is to push myself to take charge and not worry about how other people feel nearly as much. It's hard for me to do and I often overcorrect.

>>33719747
>I don't want to hurt her.
As others have pointed out, being dominant doesn't necessarily require you to be rough AT ALL. She may possibly want you to be rough, of course - maybe she wants to feel overpowered, maybe she wants to be immobilised, maybe she even likes pain, I don't know. But based on this
> She wants to 'worship and devote herself' to me.
there's no reason to assume she wants any of that. Start by simply having her do things for you. Have her make you breakfast wearing an apron and nothing underneath; have her blow you under the table while you eat it; pick out outfits for her; if you go out for a drink, have her suck you off in the disabled toilet; fuck her wherever, whenever, however you feel it, without even stopping to think if she's in the mood or not; and give her projects to do for you. None of that requires you to be violent.

>>33720410
Not necessarily. I've had that happen before. Women get attracted by your looks and first impressions. And those can bei decieving. I am also more of a "nice guy" passive dude and I had women tell me to be more of a "bad guy" and more "dominant". They think I am because of how I look and dress and then are disappointed when they get to know me better.