I'm 21, female, studying. I got a confession. A boy that was a friend for 2 years confessed to me. I always made it clear to my friends that I do not want to have a relationship as I had a messy breakup and explained my reasons. I told him no and he kept telling me ok and we just move forward with our day as usual. Fast forward a week later, we were having lunch then he brought it up again. I once again rejected him. However this time he said, If you don't accept my confession or at least let me wait for you (to accept the confession) we can no longer be friends. I asked "why" and he told me "because my heart can't take it." I said sorry again and he told me my birthday is coming up and he'd give me a gift before acting like we never met. I told him no. He then said at least he told me his reason unlike my best friend of 12 years left me without anything (Yes, she's still alive)I just got up and pay off both of our meals and pack my things and left. After another week of him avoiding me while I respect that decision so I did the same, he came up to me and apologise. Smiling and said sorry he hurt me and so on. I couldn't believe my eyes. I feel like it's a sick joke. I don't know what expression I gave during that time but all I know is I cried in that class.Recently, I was told by his ex-close friend the reason why he confessed to me is due to a gift I gave .It's what made him fall in love with me... Honestly, I'm not really good at making friends. He was my only close friend. When he was pushing us to be a thing, I was really reluctant at first to say no but I eventually did from every conversation. It still pains me to this day. I don't know if I should feel betrayed or sorry for him. I didn't apologise to him either cause I don't even know how to feel honestly. I never been through this and it still feels messy to this day. I want some advice on this matter. Please help and thanks for taking the time to read this messy writing.
>>33720420>Recently, I was told by his ex-close friend the reason why he confessed to me is due to a gift I gave .It's what made him fall in love with me...Don't feel bad, he's a fucking nice guy incel. You don't owe him a relationship just because you were nice to him, and you aren't obligated to put up with his "do I want to be friends do I want to love her" psychodrama. You've got better things to do with your life than deal with a dude trying to work his way through whatever issues he's trying to foist on you.
>>33720420I won't read made-up troll/bait/larping threads. Find something useful to do or kill yourself.
TL;DR OP is a fag
>>33720436shut up you ugly bitch.>>33720420Your problem literally does not matter at all and your guy friend is based for ditching your ass for teasing him so much.
>>33720420tits or gtfo you frigid cunt
>>33720420just be glad you dont have an orbiter moid and get a chad bf
Your "friend" sounds gay OP. Imagine getting all uppity and having to distance yourself just because someone didn't want to fuck. That guy was never your friend and always had an ulterior motive.
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>>33720420Guy is a bad fit, but you lost the chance to meet someone because of "muh bad breakupp". Get over that shit, you clearly had feelings for this guy but couldn't act on them because you're a coward yourself.This was only a warning and was never meant to be, but work on yourself now brcause you don't know when next time will come.
>>33720420I usually have to explain this to guys, but here goes. One of the big differences between men and women is that women can be not interested in a guy as a lover but still want to be friends, while men tend to think in all-or-nothing terms. There's no point in trying to guess why - it might be hard-wired - but it is simply true that a guy rejected romantically has real trouble trying to switch back to "just friends."It is certainly not your fault, and, as I said, it might be hard-wired into the male brain and therefore not his. It's just a sad fact of life, and you will have to suffer the loss of a friend until he gets over gets over it and maybe than can be just-a-friend.And ignore the trolls, who are incels who never had a girl as a friend or a lover, and are insanely jealous
>>33720420If you really weren't attracted to him then it's whatever. It's not like you can force it. You're both within your rights, but you should get over yourself because obviously a guy who was really close to you for 2 years is going to be interested in more unless he is gay.If you were and this is all about your hang ups from the last break up and relationship then you need to get over it, he's not that guy and you can do things different and you've only hurt both of you.
>>33720420No one owes anyone a relationship. And he showed you his true incel colors, it was never going to end well with someone like that, relationship or friendship. It sucks losing a friend, but don't mourn the memory of him, the him now is who he truly is.You're young, you'll make other friends and meet normal guys.
>>33720420Forget about this kid. Why would you even to apologize to him? You can make other friends who will really be your friends instead of guilt-tripping manipulative bastards.
>>33720420I HAVE PLAYED THESE GAMES BEFORE
I read all the feedback, yes even the troll ones (Really made me try to toughen up since I don't post stuff on the internet) Yeah, I have to admit I don't really have my life sort out and well that's why I'm here I suppose. I get to see an outside perspective from you guys so I can see a bigger picture. I did talk to others about it but I do sense some bias. I know I wasn't totally in the right either. I definitely have some self working to do.Once again genuinely from the bottom of my heart thank you for replying. I'll definitely try my best to move forward from this and hold some of these advices you gave time for. Have a great day.
