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"why are you single anon?"

How in the flying fuck do you respond to this knowing I'm just not desirable in the slightest (she already knows this but still asks anyways) without sounding like a beta cuck bitch about it? I'm tired of saying "I don't know".
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>Ooooh, you know, hahaha. I just haven't found "the one"!
Doesn't matter if you believe in that shit or not but it's an easy way to end the topic. If she presses you, you can just wrap straight back to it.
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>>33723904
>I'm just not desirable in the slightest (she already knows this but still asks anyways)
That might just be you projecting your insecurities and she may have asked genuinely. Like the other anon said, a typical response is "just haven't met the right person".
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>>33723904
"I guess I'm just an idealist. I am searching for someone I can truly love, respect and relate to as a fellow human being and child of God with big tits."
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>>33723904
>Ive deluded myself into thinking people around me think of me exactly the way I expect in my head
>Yes I can read minds and no amount of you or me telling me these thoughts are stupid and illogical will convince me otherwise
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>>33723904
>"why are you single anon?"
"What makes you think you're so special?"

I.e., A counter-attack that won't play her game but throws her a curve ball that confuses or angers her. It *might* get you in trouble but you have:
1. Ceded no ground, kept your dignity, present a minimal attack surface. Nothing good can come from being apologetic or defensive.
2. Broken her "frame" by putting her on the defense.
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>>33723904
Are you sure she's not flirting with you?
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>>33723904
If you look at everything as an opportunity to flirt with a girl, then you’ll see the things said to you far differently
>why are you still single
Then something like…
>because i’ve been waiting on you
Or something.

It doesn’t even have to be true, but it will take your mind out of being on the defensive from your insecurities and reframe everything as an opportunity to flirt.
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>>33723904
>"why are you single anon?"
If some chicks asks me that I'm gonan take it as her hitting on me, and I wil beiright about it.
Women don't give a fuck about a guys relationsship status unless they ( or their friends) are interested.
>I'm just not desirable in the slightest
Thats your own headcanon and most likely untrue.
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>>33723904
"just lucky I guess"
>>33725956
lol you guys are so autistic
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>>33723904
tell the nosy bitch to mind her own business
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>>33723904
>why are you single anon?
She's showing interest you autistic retard. Your autism prevents you from picking up on the most basic social cues, that's why you are single
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"because im waiting for you to be single to make you my wife (insert girl's name)"
and say it with a cheeky smile while looking straight at her.
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>>33723904
>"why are you single anon?"
"because you haven't gone out with me friday night at 7 o clock yet at (location)"... Ask her out dumbass
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>>33723904
I've never been asked this and if someone asks me this, I'll reply with well set me up with someone if you know them! xD
Or if it's a cute girl I'll say well I'm open to getting to know you xD

Weird Americans! No one asks this over here in the Netherlands, such a weird question! Just go for it dude, be open for connection and it will happen eventually, don't be ashamed!
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>>33723904
Shrug, smile, and say "I haven't met the right person yet".

And, as others have mentioned, this is probably her complimenting you to express interest, so you should ask her out.
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>>33723904
I mean who is that woman. If she's single or most likely single and you're both talking one to one then you can try asking her out. If she's older and a family member just shrug it with "no idea" or "haven't found the right one" bs. If she's doing it with other people around you(let's say her friends or your mutual friends) then just deflect it to something else.

If you just want to nether be bothered with it again tell her two reasons:
1. You don't care about other people enough to date.
2. You're not attractive enough to fuck around.

She will know ur an autism animal and she should leave immediately.
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>>33723904
>"why are you single anon?"
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
DIE CUNT DIEEEEEEEEEEEE
something like that.
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"dunno, any ideas?
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>>33723904
women's brains can't comprehend being alone
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>>33723904
>"why are you single anon?"
>because you are too fat to be asked out
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"Modern women aren't worth the squeeze"
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>>33723904
>What are you going to do about it?

What is there to even complain about
A woman is choosing to speak to you, if you weren't desirable at all that would be rare
If she's a bitch treat her like a bitch but otherwise why be concerned at all
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>>33723904
"Why are you always so quiet?" was the one I would always get. My response was to just sweat a lot, stand awkwardly for a bit, look around the room and wait for the person to leave.
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the key is to not explain yourself

"oh i'm single because i'm looking for the one and so far no girl has met my standards of loyalty and respect and i have had mental issues for the past year or so etc etc..."

vs

"yeah i'm single"
"yeah but why???"
"because"
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>>33730847
edit: depending on the context, she might be flirting with you. in that case you might want to tease her
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>"Dating is expensive"

Damn inflation even makes eating out for 1 costly.
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There is no good outcome to answering it by confessing your insecurities, it never lands how you hope. The point of the question isn’t to extract your self‑diagnosis, it’s to see how you trigger under pressure (shittest)

The wrong responses to give are anything confessional, anything cute/flirty (desperate), anything serious like "focusing on career," you lose if it gets any emotion or reaction out of you.

The only responses you ever give to that are totally baseline, that's beneath contempt style non answers
>Some say it’s because I don’t own a dog? Others blame the collapse of traditional institutions.
and immediately moving on past that
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>>33723904
Who says I'm single?
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desu I would just respond with "because im ugly"
is that really that bad?
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>>33724393
why did you post a picture of maggots on a carcass?
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"I haven't found the right person" it's literally that simple
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>>33723904
>"I don't know"
That's the best answer. Blaming them women is gonna make you look bad in front of the girl. Blaming something about yourself will make you look insecure or make the flaw first visible to her. Just stick to "I don't know"



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