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>If you’re ‘bad at conversation’ just ask questions
>Autistic women have bad social and communication skills

How do you become good at connecting with others and making friends without treating it like a job interview? What do you do when you don't know what to talk about? If you talk about yourself, it makes you look like a narcissist. If you ask questions, it makes you look like a job interviewer.
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>>33728622
So you ask questions but the purpose of the questions is to find something they're passionate about or even better something of interest to you both. The earlier questions are just trying to find that interesting topic that you can have a genuine conversation about
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>>33728622
Some questions dont sound like questions.

For example, saying "that sounds. . ." Before another statement will prompt the other person to elaborate more on whatever the topic is. From there, you might be able to find something to talk about.

I.e. "sounds like you like to do a lot of charity work" or "sounds like you're really big into FPS games" or "sounds like you really like to learn about weird topics"

This is my default for when I want to keep a conversation going but I have nothing to say
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>>33728622
I instantly levelled up my socializing game by memorizing normie chit chat and following NHL and MLB.
Generally good convos between multiple people the workload gets distributed between people fufiling a certain task - i.e. leading, continuing, etc.
Additionally be on good terms with everyone even if you can't stand a retard, and be presetable generally.
If you can make people feel good, they will want to be around you more.
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>>33728622
The trick to not making it sound like an interrogation is just to make a question flow logically from what the other person says.

So if you ask: "Where are you from?" and they say "Minnesota", and then you say "Are your parents still together?" and then "What kind of stuff did you do in high school?" that's three unrelated questions, which sounds weird. So instead, when they say "Minnesota" you might say "Oh, do people really go ice fishing there, or is that just a meme?" If they say they used to go ice fishing with their dad, say something about what you used to do with your parents when you were younger ("that was a lot warmer than sitting on the ice for hours, though!") then link that to something you used to in high school that was fun, then say "What about you?" Now you've got to your "What did you do in high school?" question, but in a way that feels natural and like a conversation.
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>>33728622
>If you talk about yourself, it makes you look like a narcissist
so look like a narcissist. that's one of the default types of people now, they don't have trouble making friends and having conversations
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>>33728622
stop filtering yourself
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>>33728622
Talk to people about them until they talk to you about you or you have an story or thought that ads to their thought.
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>>33728622
goated picture, would fight for king and country for this woman and her sweet smell, and sweet and tasty vagina juices



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