is it just not giving a fuck/being confident or what when you're invited to a bar with your boyfriend and his guy friend, and at the bar your bf doesn't buy you any drinks (we're both kinda poor so i don't expect it relax), but then he tells his friend to buy you a drink ?the reason was a bit strange, he said to the friend that becase i served him (and my bf) coffee earlier at our place, i deserve a drink. he said something like that basically, telling the friend to go and get me a drink, and then the friend bought me some weird red drink.it felt a bit weird to me but because i don't want to be the type of gf who constantly wants to discuss about everything her bf does/says, i didn't say anything. would you do this with your gf?
>>33729185Poor people date? Where did yall meet
>>33729201university (humanities).uni is free in our country.
>>33729185>would you do this with your gf?I wouldn't, but it doesn't strike me as that weird. Slightly odd that no one asked you what you wanted to drink, though.
>>33729248oh okay. i gues i'm kind of inexperienced in life in general and assumed most men would in that moment feel too prideful or something, so i was surprised.and i assume at this point his friend knows i drink anything really and don't care much (except beer which i never drink but i guess that's kinda common for women)
>>33729185In the americas I guess it's a huge deal. In most of europe it's meaningless. You should discuss it anyway, as anything that triggers you slightly should be talked about. But only if you are a good communicator
>>33729703>But only if you are a good communicatoroh
>>33729185>would you do this with your gf?OBVIOUSLY NOT.>he tells his friend to buy you a drink ?>he said to the friend that becase i served him (and my bf) coffee earlier at our place, i deserve a drink.Your boyfriend is a male tier karen. Holy shit. He's going to drag you down and lead you to problems with this kind of method. This is a redflag if anything. I'm speaking as guy.Your boyfriend's friend didn't ask for your drink. You as his girffriend didn't ask for his friend's drink either. This is ALL WRONG.Your boyfriend wasn't raised right. You're poor? sure but was it necessary? It was never justified. You weren't impressed either and so are we.
>>33729829>karen>redflag
>>33729829i mean i get your point but this all happened when we were all joking around and laughing and my bf said that in a joke-y tone too. to me it didn't seem at all like he was trying to be pushy or a karen. i had already bought myself 2 drinks before that.of course i worried a bit if the friend perhaps felt pressured, so i was telling my bf and him that i was ok and didn't need more drinks before he brought it.
>>33729852Nigga please. What you described above is what you call peer pressure.You ask for advice here and you try to gaslight yourself that it's not? You bitch got a boyfriend. Why would he provide you a fucking drink?He can't say no when there's multiple people around. Technically he can without sacrificing this friendship between you two but he doesn't wanna ruin friendships either so you're ruining it for yourself in his case.
>>33729896i suppose in the moment to me the situation didn't feel that way. the friend has bought both of us drinks a few times before (although unprompted), and they're close friends so i assume the friend was ok with it, even though ofc i can't truly know if he felt pressured or not.and you mean i was supposed to decline it when he handed it to me ¿
>>33730017>and you mean i was supposed to decline it when he handed it to me ¿It's already been paid. Why would you decline it?You just make your boyfriend to stop being a dick to other people even if that was his best friend.
